tzimie said:
I am layman, but I see it confusing for several reasons:
1. It implicitly uses CI where "reality" of particles is well-defined because they are "detected", or "measured"
They have never been observed, nor does the theory allow them to be observed. CI is silent on things when not observed - but they can be observed - virtual particles can't be observed and it is thought they are simply an artefact of the perturbation methods used. But using those methods they have very real effects such as the Lamb shift.
However I have to say this is part of QFT, which is a very advanced and notoriously difficult area eg perturbation theory was taught in my degree as a second year university subject in numerical analysis and requires an understanding of calculus, particularly power series expansions to explain - and that's just the mathematical part devoid of the physics:
http://www.cims.nyu.edu/~eve2/reg_pert.pdf
Me throwing a word like perturbation around is completely unilluminateing to the layman - unless they have a good background in math.
Recall what I said above - 'The reason is you have the correct answer - which is usually advanced, highly mathematical, and requires considerable background.' Sorry - the jig is up with QFT.
Basically the issue is perturbation theory is a method to get successively better approximations to otherwise intractable mathematical problems. That the only way we know to get answers from QFT.
Trouble is, if you don't use it, and solve the problem directly using a computer (that's known as Lattice QFT) virtual particles never appear. This makes people think it simply an artefact of perturbation theory.
That said, if you know basic QM, or are willing to learn it, I have come across a very good book that explains QFT at an approachable level:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/019969933X/?tag=pfamazon01-20
Sorry - but that's the best I can do. Others may be able to explain it to the lay person - but I cant.
Regarding the other stuff - remember QM is simply a mathematical model - but its a model of things that occur in the real world. What the FORMALISM of QM is about (as opposed to interpretations) is observations that actually occur - they are very real. That's what makes it more than just math. Particles etc exist as observations such as the clicks that Demistifyer mentions. Virtual particles do not exist in that sense.
Thanks
Bill