Moving: Pros & Cons of My Dream Place

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The discussion centers around a person facing the difficult decision to move from a beloved one-bedroom apartment to accommodate their daughter, who wants to move in to save on commuting costs. The current living situation is cherished for its natural surroundings, including a ravine and wildlife, which will be lost in the move. Two potential two-bedroom apartments are being considered, each with distinct pros and cons, including concerns about safety and parking. The financial implications of the move are significant, as the new rent will increase expenses, despite the daughter’s intention to help with costs and household chores. There is skepticism about the daughter's commitment to contributing and the long-term viability of the living arrangement, especially with her boyfriend involved. The conversation also touches on broader themes of financial responsibility and the impact of the current economic climate on family dynamics. Ultimately, the need for a larger space is pressing, but the emotional attachment to the current home complicates the decision.
  • #201


Evo said:
I have a dr's appointment this afternoon. The last time I was in the hospital (last summer) my doctor agreed to discharge me 2 days early due to the incompetant nursing staff. I was better off at home, so I have no desire to go to the hospital. I definitely will never return to that hospital.
Um - find a different hospital. Is that possible out there? How about across the river?

With something like 179/109, my sister went to the ER.

With 215/135 - one could end up in the morgue. :frown:
 
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  • #202


Astronuc said:
Um - find a different hospital. Is that possible out there? How about across the river?

With something like 179/109, my sister went to the ER.

With 215/135 - one could end up in the morgue. :frown:
It was 205/109last night. 199/117 after waking up from a nap. I'm hoping it's down when I go to the doctor, last time it was much lower and they didn't want to let me leave the office. Which is the wrong thing to do. It just stressed me out more.
 
  • #203


Evo said:
It was 205/109last night. 199/117 after waking up from a nap. I'm hoping it's down when I go to the doctor, last time it was much lower and they didn't want to let me leave the office. Which is the wrong thing to do. It just stressed me out more.
Have EC or someone drive you to the docs. 199/117 is still too high. One should not be driving with such high bp.

At most it should be 120/80 and ideally 110/70 or thereabouts.
 
  • #204


Astronuc said:
Have EC or someone drive you to the docs. 199/117 is still too high. One should not be driving with such high bp.

At most it should be 120/80 and ideally 110/70 or thereabouts.

It's hard to say how much is "too much", I've got 145/75 (on rather high medication), for instance. While the diastolic pressure is high, it's not really dangerous since the systolic is still low, which means it doesn't really wear too much on the heart (and it's expected to go down once I get off venlafaxine anyway). The mechanics are quite complicated.
 
  • #205


TubbaBlubba said:
It's hard to say how much is "too much", I've got 145/75 (on rather high medication), for instance. While the diastolic pressure is high, it's not really dangerous since the systolic is still low, which means it doesn't really wear too much on the heart (and it's expected to go down once I get off venlafaxine anyway). The mechanics are quite complicated.
That's high for your age.
 
  • #206


Evo said:
It was 205/109last night. 199/117 after waking up from a nap. I'm hoping it's down when I go to the doctor, last time it was much lower and they didn't want to let me leave the office. Which is the wrong thing to do. It just stressed me out more.

Evo, I do understand your feelings re the medical establishment and hospital stays, etc. I really do (trust me).

I hope you have a good visit with the MD today, but if they tell you to go to the Hx, do not pass go, do not collect $200, (and I can't really see them NOT saying that...) please take them up on it. The risk of stroke or organ failure in the near term, and heart disease in the long(er) term is just way too high for you at these levels.
 
  • #207


rolerbe said:
Evo, I do understand your feelings re the medical establishment and hospital stays, etc. I really do (trust me).

I hope you have a good visit with the MD today, but if they tell you to go to the Hx, do not pass go, do not collect $200, (and I can't really see them NOT saying that...) please take them up on it. The risk of stroke or organ failure in the near term, and heart disease in the long(er) term is just way too high for you at these levels.
My last stay at the hospital (and I paid extra to have a private room) was so bad, it made my BP skyrocket, too much noise and constant interruptions, so I couldn't sleep, an insane nurses aid, I reported her to the head nurse and as it turned out, that was her (the head nurse) last day there because she had tried to bring up this insane woman and the practices there to no avail. She gave me complaint forms and said she was only sharing what she knew because she already had another position elsewhere. I agreed not to name her specifically in my complaint. The nurses would hide out in my room in order to catch up on their record keeping (there were computer stations in every room). It was unbelievable.
 
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  • #208


Evo's report was one of the positive ones.
 
  • #209


Evo said:
That's high for your age.

Perhaps I should clarify; I eat 10mgs of enalapril (ACE inhibitor) and felodipin (calcium channel blocker) daily for my blood pressure; it's up in the 180ies without them. Medicated it used to be around 130/70 but has gone up, probably due to my usage of Venlafaxine (SNRI and SSRI), which I plan to replace (for blood pressure reasons) once I've adjusted my lithium dosage.

It's pretty absurd to have a blood pressure that high at the age of 18 - well, I was 16 when I started medicating it, - but my heart and kidneys are fine, so it's just some stupid genetic mix that can be medically treated, my father has high blood pressure as well but he didn't get it until his fourties.
 
  • #210


I just had a c___scopy. You know, where they take a camera (presumably with a flash) and stick it where the sun don't shine. A few quick snaps and they're done. They found a polyp, removed it, and sent it off to the FBI for investigation. I hope they waterboard the sucker. The doctor says that these are usually benign, but if it turns out otherwise then he just cured me of cancer. Apparently removing it solves the problem. I'll find out soon which it was. Anyway the clinic was a model of efficiency. They put something in my IV that made my eyelids very heavy. Just as I made my mind up to fight it, I was waking up. From the time I entered the door to when I exited was no more than two hours. Not enough time for that crazy nurse to cause any trouble.
 
  • #211


Evo said:
My last stay ... was so bad, it made my BP skyrocket...

Uhmmm, given the readings you've been reporting, exactly where could it possibly skyrocket to? :eek:

I need a good report from you Evo so that my BP can go back down LOL.
 
  • #212


rolerbe said:
Uhmmm, given the readings you've been reporting, exactly where could it possibly skyrocket to? :eek:

Well, my great grandmother died with a BP of 300/xxx due to (SPOILER!) acute cerebral hemorrhage.
 
  • #213


Jimmy Snyder said:
I just had a c___scopy. You know, where they take a camera (presumably with a flash) and stick it where the sun don't shine. A few quick snaps and they're done. They found a polyp, removed it, and sent it off to the FBI for investigation. I hope they waterboard the sucker. The doctor says that these are usually benign, but if it turns out otherwise then he just cured me of cancer. Apparently removing it solves the problem. I'll find out soon which it was. Anyway the clinic was a model of efficiency. They put something in my IV that made my eyelids very heavy. Just as I made my mind up to fight it, I was waking up. From the time I entered the door to when I exited was no more than two hours. Not enough time for that crazy nurse to cause any trouble.
Yes, if they get it in time, it is one of the cancers that is preventable. Hope the results turn out ok.
 
  • #214


evo, have you talked to a doc yet about anti-anxiety meds ?
 
  • #215


Proton Soup said:
evo, have you talked to a doc yet about anti-anxiety meds ?
I've already got some. :biggrin:

One of the reasons my BP is elevated is the pain I'm in, perhaps one too many falls down flights of stairs?
 
  • #216


Evo said:
One of the reasons my BP is elevated is the pain I'm in, perhaps one too many falls down flights of stairs?

Maybe you should cut back on falling.
 
  • #217


Evo said:
I've already got some. :biggrin:

One of the reasons my BP is elevated is the pain I'm in, perhaps one too many falls down flights of stairs?

ah, good to hear.

pain is a tough one. some types, like say from inflammation, can be alleviated with high dose fish oil to cut off prostaglandins at the pass, so to speak. probably not so much for stairalgia, tho.
 
  • #218


Math Is Hard said:
Maybe you should cut back on falling.
I recommend she cut that out altogether. :biggrin:
 
  • #219


Astronuc said:
I recommend she cut that out altogether.

Cold turkey? That's tough love.
 
  • #220


As promised, the finished shelves.

shelves.jpg
 
  • #221


Now that's more like it. Nice job!

I think we have the same measuring bowl.
 
  • #222


Evo said:
As promised, the finished shelves.

shelves.jpg
I've seen those shelves and yea, they are heavy. Since it's setting on carpet, are you going to put some coasters under the legs to keep them from cutting through?

I hope you have been to the doctors appointment and you can get a handle on the BP now.
 
  • #223


dlgoff said:
I've seen those shelves and yea, they are heavy. Since it's setting on carpet, are you going to put some coasters under the legs to keep them from cutting through?

I hope you have been to the doctors appointment and you can get a handle on the BP now.
I wanted to put a heavy rubber down mat to cover the entire carpeted area in the closet. But coasters will be going down. The surrounding floor is tile, no idea why the closet is carpeted. :confused:

I went to the Dr and have my BP meds.
 
  • #224


Evo said:
I went to the Dr and have my BP meds.
Yea. :smile: I wish you luck with the meds. I've been very worried like everyone else here.
 
  • #225


The results were just some benign lymphoid tissue, not actually a polyp.
 
  • #226


Evo said:
I wanted to put a heavy rubber down mat to cover the entire carpeted area in the closet. But coasters will be going down. The surrounding floor is tile, no idea why the closet is carpeted. :confused:
Tiled floor and carpeted closet? :rolleyes:

I went to the Dr and have my BP meds.
And?
 
  • #227


Jimmy Snyder said:
The results were just some benign lymphoid tissue, not actually a polyp.
Congrats and best wishes for continued good health!
 
  • #228


Jimmy Snyder said:
The results were just some benign lymphoid tissue, not actually a polyp.
Very good!
 
  • #229


Jimmy Snyder said:
The results were just some benign lymphoid tissue, not actually a polyp.

Yay!
 
  • #230


Glad to hear everyone is doing better, let's all try and remain accident/illness free for a long time.
 
  • #231


It's been almost three months and finally, today, I can see the floor and the couches. Now we need to hang curtains and pictures. And get a coffee table.

004xq.jpg
 
  • #232


Evo said:
It's been almost three months and finally, today, I can see the floor and the couches. Now we need to hang curtains and pictures. And get a coffee table.

004xq.jpg
That sofa is screaming take a nap on me.
 
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  • #233


Jimmy Snyder said:
That sofa is screaming take a nap on me.
Oh yeah, both of those are soooo comfortable, especially the one along the wall. No one stays awake on that one.
 
  • #234


Very nice Evo.

I could see a zoobyshoe being on your wall.
 
  • #235


dlgoff said:
Very nice Evo.

I could see a zoobyshoe being on your wall.

I hope you meant a "Zoobyshoe painting". Otherwise, it's a little scary.
 
  • #236


Math Is Hard said:
... Otherwise, it's a little scary.
You'd have to ask Evo about that.
 
  • #237


dlgoff said:
Very nice Evo.

I could see a zoobyshoe being on your wall.
ooh, I could see a zooby over my couch too! :biggrin:
 
  • #238


Oh that's great, looks so comfy and cozy!
 
  • #239


It does look warm and cozy.
Evo said:
It's been almost three months and finally, today, I can see the floor and the couches. Now we need to hang curtains and pictures. And get a coffee table.

004xq.jpg
What is our lamp doing in the corner of your living room?!

It needs several piles and shelves of textbooks in mathematics, physics, materials, engineering, and history. :biggrin:
 
  • #240


None of the furniture in the house is mine, mine is either gone or in storage. The lamp was given to Evo child and I love it. Evo Child goes for making comfort nests. She is converting my bedroom into a nest. My bed is piled so high with pillows and stuffed comforters, the fruit bat needs a step stool to get on the bed now.

The bed she gave me is like a cloud. When I go to bed at night, I sink in. Reminds me of being at my grandmother's place up in the Alps. She'd come at night and tell me and my sister to get into whichever position we wanted for the rest of the night and then dump a 500 pound down comforter on us. You could not move once that thing was on you, even though my sister and I would try together to raise it, so we could turn over under it, and I was 18 at the time. Her place was a stone hunting lodge that belonged to one of the early Louis kings of France and there was no heat up where our room was.
 
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  • #241


Evo said:
It's been almost three months and finally, today, I can see the floor and the couches. Now we need to hang curtains and pictures. And get a coffee table.

004xq.jpg

Cozy :smile:

But if I understand correctly what I see it raises a question. Just carpet? I prefer to have something difficult to burn facing fireplace. Metal plate, or some ceramic tiles.

Wow, Marzena said she likes your fireplace more than our own.
 
  • #242


Evo said:
None of the furniture in the house is mine, mine is either gone or in storage. The lamp was given to Evo child and I love it. Evo Child goes for making comfort nests. She is converting my bedroom into a nest. My bed is piled so high with pillows and stuffed comforters, the fruit bat needs a step stool to get on the bed now.

The bed she gave me is like a cloud. When I go to bed at night, I sink in. Reminds me of being at my grandmother's place up in the Alps. She'd come at night and tell me and my sister to get into whichever position we wanted for the rest of the night and then dump a 500 pound down comforter on us. You could not move once that thing was on you, even though my sister and I would try together to raise it, so we could turn over under it, and I was 18 at the time. Her place was a stone hunting lodge that belonged to one of the early Louis kings of France and there was no heat up where our room was.
Cool. Do you have pictures?
 
  • #243


I might be moving again, back into my old place. Evo Child moved out and has an incredible new house, so I am all alone now. I don't even go into the other side of the apartment, the master bedroom, which was hers, faces the street and has too many windows, I use it as a sunroom for plants, her room does have the incredible master bath though, which is wasted since I use my bathroom attached to my bedroom. I still think of it as her bathroom.

I've gotten to love the layout for the living and dining room in this place, and they are much bigger than my old place and make more sense. The living room at my old place only had one solid wall which is the only place a couch can go, the opposite wall is a fireplace, and the wall on the side has a door to the backyard and a window, so there is no place to put a tv or stereo, it's crazy, which is why I never used the living room.

On the plus side, my kitchen at the old place is bigger and has more cabinets and the pation is larger and has the lovely stone arch around it.

If I get the price I want on my old unit, I'll save $300+ a month, which is the main reason I am thinking about moving, but I have to sign the papers in the next few days, and I only found out that my old unit is available yesterday. :cry: STRESS!

Of course both units are next door to each other, so it's still here on the RAVINE OF DOOM.

What do I do?
 
  • #244


Hard to tell. Every single time I have moved, I have lost some items. One time I lost a hand-forged carbon steel Thiers Issard 6" chef's knife. That was a VERY sad day! Moving next door might not be so bad, but when my wife and I were first married, we moved from one rat-hole apartment to another so I could chase construction jobs.
 
  • #245


Oh, and my BP meds were just changed, (referring to the BP posts earlier in this thread) seems the one I was on was found to cause cancer.
 
  • #246


Evo said:
Oh, and my BP meds were just changed, (referring to the BP posts earlier in this thread) seems the one I was on was found to cause cancer.
Please tell your doctor if you are planning surgery. Side effects may include death.
 
  • #247


turbo said:
Please tell your doctor if you are planning surgery. Side effects may include death.
According to a recent drug commercial death is now referred to as "adverse fatal events". I guess that is opposed to "non-adverse fatal events". :rolleyes:
 
  • #248


Evo said:
According to a recent drug commercial death is now referred to as "adverse fatal events". I guess that is opposed to "non-adverse fatal events". :rolleyes:
I can come up with a few people whose "fatal effects" I would not consider adverse.

I hate watching the drug commercials that run during the national news. If drugs with perhaps minimal benefits pose a risk of liver-damage or kidney failure, why are they even on the market? I've signed up with a new doctor and will see him next month for the first time. He's an osteopath, and my wife loves his approach. My last doctor was a quick-draw with the prescription pads, and I had to resist his tendency to prescribe drugs. Not a bad guy, but too reliant on drugs, IMO.
 
  • #249


Evo said:
Evo Child moved out

Actually I was thinking about whether the new place is not too large for you now ever since Evo Child moved out (if I recall correctly, that happened quite some time ago?).

there is no place to put a tv

You have a TV set? I recall your TV was broken, I don't remember reading about a new one :wink:

I'll save $300+ a month

I would love to be able to do so
 
  • #250


turbo said:
I can come up with a few people whose "fatal effects" I would not consider adverse.

I hate watching the drug commercials that run during the national news. If drugs with perhaps minimal benefits pose a risk of liver-damage or kidney failure, why are they even on the market? I've signed up with a new doctor and will see him next month for the first time. He's an osteopath, and my wife loves his approach. My last doctor was a quick-draw with the prescription pads, and I had to resist his tendency to prescribe drugs. Not a bad guy, but too reliant on drugs, IMO.
I went to an osteopath when I was younger, it was my mother's choice, couldn't ever leave without the *necessary* bone alignment cracks.
 

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