Navigating Heartbreak - Tips for A Good Night's Sleep

[JasonRox]

That is not begging. That is just trying to have a reasonable discussion about what happened.

I was thinking the other day about recommending Jason just sit down and write about his feelings on paper - whether or not he shows it to this girl. However then I read Jason's comment about her being a ***** at some point, at which point, if I was in Jason's shoes, I would really evaluate the situation as to what I expected in the relationship.

Then with Daminc's suggestion I thought - just send her a nice card with flowers. Thank her for the good times you had and then, well it depends on what you expect to happen. Either you expect to get back together or you move on.

BTW, Jason, its not you so much as it is her. I know that won't make you feel better, but don't beat yourself up over it.

I wish I could offer better advice, but not knowing either of you, it's hard to give some firm advice.

It does take time to get over this stuff. Hang in there, mate!

Would it be ok if I e-mail her to talk about it? I've been thinking about e-mailing her, but only tomorrow. I want her to have a great Saturday night, so I'll wait another day.

I was thinking of just e-mailing her to just ask her to call me, so we can talk. I want to refrain myself from saying too much and stuff because I just want to talk about what happened.

I really don't think waiting 3 weeks is a good option.

 

[zoobyshoe]

Would it be ok if I e-mail her to talk about it? I've been thinking about e-mailing her, but only tomorrow. I want her to have a great Saturday night, so I'll wait another day.

E-mail her whenever it's convenient for you. Nevermind if she has a great Saturday night or not. If she does, she's not going to credit you for that under any circumstances.

 

[JasonRox]

I suppose you're right.

I'll write an e-mail just to talk and I'll see what's going on.

 

[JasonRox]

How does this sound?

Hey,

I hope this isn't a bad time, but I want to talk. I think waiting 3 weeks or something is too long for me, since I wanted to talk more on Wednesday. I didn't have to workout or anything... it's just that I couldn't talk very well, but I did go to the gym though. :)

Call me when you're ready, and I'm just letting you know that I'm ready.

From,

Jason

And...?

 

[Astronuc]

Jason, I would exchange "would like to talk" for "want to talk", and remove the part about "waiting for three weeks or something is too long for me". On the other hand, that's what I would do, but you should do what is natural and right for you. You know her, I don't.

All you can do is make an offer to discuss or talk, and let it go at that. Keep it short and simple.

Unfortunately, you may have to be prepared for no response.

 

[JasonRox]

Jason, I would exchange "would like to talk" for "want to talk", and remove the part about "waiting for three weeks or something is too long for me". On the other hand, that's what I would do, but you should do what is natural and right for you. You know her, I don't.

All you can do is make an offer to discuss or talk, and let it go at that. Keep it short and simple.

Unfortunately, you may have to be prepared for no response.

I sent it already, but I made some small changes. I also implictly mentionned that I'll wait the 3 weeks also because she might not be ready.

She might not respond because she doesn't really go online. She normally used the internet at my place because she doesn't have the internet.

 

[The_Professional]

Would it be ok if I e-mail her to talk about it? I've been thinking about e-mailing her, but only tomorrow. I want her to have a great Saturday night, so I'll wait another day.

I was thinking of just e-mailing her to just ask her to call me, so we can talk. I want to refrain myself from saying too much and stuff because I just want to talk about what happened.

I really don't think waiting 3 weeks is a good option.

If you wanted to get her back. What you could've done is disappear. No e-mails, no instant messages, no phone calls, no contact whatsoever, nothing. Have self-control. Let her miss you and think about you. You hang back. For the meantime, you will hustle other girl's phone numbers and go out on dates. You wait for her to contact you. Now when she contacts you; you wait one day then you call her back. Spend a maximum of five minutes on the phone, make her laugh, keep it positive. Then you set up a date with her. Then get off the phone. Doing this you're not begging. You're coming from a position of power.

 

[fileen]

you are way too good for her. she's a fool to do this to you. I understand its super hard to break up. was with a guy for six years, I knew him for almost ten before I found out he was sleeping around on me and he picked up someone younger, prettier, and more willing for premarital...well any ways it hurt real bad, and I tried to get him back, but I soon came to realize that yes I will love again, and some day I will be loved back. self esteem my friend. you need to draw the line eventually. mr wrong came back on his knees by the way, and I had to make a decision. I told him I couldn't set my self up for that kind of pain. he now deals coke, and still sleeps around. his girlfriend is of the same sort. my current boyfriend is a dream come true. my advice to you is to look at what you had and smile. it was great. you had that. some people never even get that far. I have no nasty feelings toward my x. even looking back and realizing all the times he hurt me, we still had some great times. change isn't always bad. it will take time, but take some other girls out some time. even just innocently. maybe you will see that there are more compatible girls. maybe you will fall in love again. maybe she will come back and you can make things right. all I am saying is not to let her control you. she's not the only girl out there. life is short. don't waste it lookig back and thinking about what could have been. there is more to life than relationships too. read a good book. go for a walk. meet some new people. try some new foods. spend time just looking after you. be comfortable with yourself without her. if she deserves you she'll come back.