salzrah said:
The basis she uses to consider herself in motion relative to the origins is looking at the origins, which we can say are on the ground/air where the flash occurred, and seeing that those origins are moving away from her.
OK, let's say that when a bolt of lightning strikes, it leaves a scorch mark on the train and on the rails where it hits. Platform guy is moving relative to one of these scorch marks (the one on the train) and at rest relative to the other (the one on the platform). Train lady is at rest relative to one (the one on the train) and moving relative to the other (the one on the platform).
How, in this completely symmetrical situation, can we say that train-lady must consider herself to be in motion? There's no argument you can make that's she's moving that I can't just as easily make about the platform guy.
Before you respond to this, take a moment to read the questions and answers below. If you disagree with any of the answers, find your mistake before you proceed - this is fundamental to understanding relativity. In the answers, c is the invariant speed of light and v is the relative speed between the train and the platform. Train-lady and platform-guy are exactly even with each other at the moment that a bolt of lightning strikes and leaves a scorch mark on both train and platform.
1: How long does it take for the light to travel from the scorch mark on the train to train-lady's eyes, according to the people on the train? Answer: P/c, where P is the distance from the scorch mark on the train to train-lady, according to the people on the train.
2: How long does it take the light to travel from the scorch mark on the train to train-lady, according to the people on the platform? Answer: Q/(c-v), where Q is the distance between platform guy and the scorch mark on the platform, according to the people on the platform.
3: Would the answer to #1 be different if we were asking about the scorch mark on the platform instead of the train? Answer: No, and this may be where you've been getting hung up.
4: Would the answer to #2 be different if we were asking about the scorch mark on the platform instead of the train? Answer: No.
5: How long does it take for the light to travel from the two scorch marks to platform-guy, according to the people on the platform? Answer: Q/c, for both scorch marks.
6: How long does it take for the light to travel from the two scorch marks to platform-guy, according to the people on the train? Answer: P/(c+v), for both scorch marks.
(we have enough eyes on this thread that if I fat-fingered one of the answers, someone will point it out)