RIP arildno: Gone, but never forgotten

[PAllen]

Can we find out how many people wish to contribute and then see how much it would be per person? Being on disability and single, I am on a very tight budget, but more than willing to pay my share.

I'd contribute some way other than paypal (even though I never really interacted with arildno). I would even use paypal in the mode where you don't need to set up an account (I've done that with online purchases). I would not contribute if it required a paypal account.

 

[Evo]

I'd contribute some way other than paypal (even though I never really interacted with arildno).

That's really sweet of you.

 

[OmCheeto]

$30/$250 has been raised. Paypal is the easiest. You could mail me a check I suppose. PM me and I'll give you my address.

I'll cover the balance, for whatever is not raised by Thursday morning.

It's the least I can do, considering how much I admired him.

One of many, Titans of PF.

 

[Evo]

I'll cover the balance, for whatever is not raised by Thursday morning.

Have I ever told you that I love you?

From the number of people that have agreed to chip in, the cost per person shouldn't be that high (some mentors have agreed to pay in a thread in the mentor's forum). We just need to find out how much we each need to pay. The more that contribute, the smaller the amount.

 

[Monique]

I'm also willing to contribute a share, could you PM what would be appropriate?

 

[Dembadon]

I will contribute as well.

 

[DrClaude]

Count me in.

 

[Greg Bernhardt]

$80/$250

paypal gregbernhardt[at]gmail.com

 

[dlgoff]

Just contributed. You're the MAN Greg.

 

[Greg Bernhardt]

$125/$250 has been raised!

 

[Greg Bernhardt]

$150/$250 has been raised!

 

[OmCheeto]

Have I ever told you that I love you?
...

We have mentioned marriage, a time or two, as I recall :!)

$125/$250 has been raised!

Yay!

As some may know, I'm now unemployed, and dirt poor.

I come from a family so poor, my mom had to draw clothes on us...

OmCheeto, 54 years ago, eating dirt, to survive...​

And she probably stole the pen...

 

[Borek]

I come from a family so poor, my mom had to draw clothes on us...

OmCheeto, 54 years ago, eating dirt, to survive...​

And she probably stole the pen...

It is awfully off topic.

But you just made my day

 

[Greg Bernhardt]

$185/$250 has been raised!

 

[Greg Bernhardt]

$205/$250 has been raised!

 

[Greg Bernhardt]

$215/$250 has been raised!

 

[Dembadon]

$80/$250

paypal gregbernhardt[at]gmail.com

Sent!

 

[Greg Bernhardt]

$225.50/$250 has been raised!

 

[OmCheeto]

$225.50/$250 has been raised!

Thank you everyone. I was not looking forward to going back to dirt baths...

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"But you looked really happy Om?"
Happy? Sure! Mom wasn't spitting on a rag, and rubbing my face with it.
And she'd stolen a shirt from the 2nd hand store, that kinda hid the fact that I still wasn't wearing any pants...

 

[Greg Bernhardt]

$245.50/$250 has been raised!

 

[Evo]

Did we get the last $4.50?

 

[OmCheeto]

Did we get the last $4.50?

Shhh... Greg is watching World Cup.

And yes, he got the last $4.50.

 

[Greg Bernhardt]

We've raised the money! I will be requesting they take a photo of the wreath so we can all take solace in our small gift to Arild and his family.

 

[Evo]

Very nice, thank you to everyone that contributed!

 

[OmCheeto]

I should mention to the family, that I've not been on this forum very long.

But this it the first time, I've ever seen such an outpouring of affection, and sadness, for a fellow member.

If someone had told me, 6 years ago, that I would shed actual tears, for someone I had never met, I would have called them, a liar.

Thank you for taking the time to greet us.

Farvel, og vær så snill å komme tilbake og besøke. Du er alltid velkommen her.


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Jeg vil sparke Greg i testiklene, dersom han bestemmer noe annet ...

 

[Arilds family]

IMPORTANT NOTICE!

I managed to get a typo on the date for the ceremony. I was working so hard finding the right words that I managed to get the information wrong. The correct date for the memorial service is 26th of JUNE. Many apologies for any misunderstandings. Mods, I would appreciate it if you could correct this information. The time is 12:30 pm, and the full address is "Haslum Krematorium, lille kapell" in Bærum outside Oslo.

Thank you for your fundraising, I will provide some pictures of the ceremony and your contribution to it. This is very much appreciated.

Regards,

Andreas, on behalf of the family.

 

[Borek]

The correct date for the memorial service is 26th of JUNE.

Corrected in the original post..

 

[SpecialPerson]

I obviously never had a chance to interact with arildno since I just joined, but still am saddened by this news!

My condolences to the family.

 

[HeLiXe]

Literally crying right now.

 

[SpecialPerson]

Literally crying right now.

:(

Just think that at least he is out of the suffering that he was facing before taking such a step.

 

[OmCheeto]

Happy belated kid.

https://www.physicsforums.com/showpost.php?p=2761523&postcount=15

 

[mesa]

With Arildno no longer with us on PF we have a deficiency that may never fully heal. To the family who knew him better than we ever could, I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[Greg Bernhardt]

We have the wreath purchased signed "With Love and Respect" - Physics Forums Family

The funeral is the 26th.

 

[Evo]

Thank you Greg for working with Arild's family on this.

 

[Drakkith]

Nice job, Greg. Thanks so much.

 

[DennisN]

Very nice, Greg!

 

[StatGuy2000]

My apologies for being late to this thread. I'm afraid I never had the chance to interact with arildno directly or knew him in person, but I too am saddened to hear that he has passed away -- it's always sad to hear that an important participant to PF Forums is no longer among us.

My deepest condolences and sympathies to his family in this time of mourning and grief.

 

[OmCheeto]

I had a dream about Arild this morning.

Not too much I can remember, besides a couple of images.

One was a picture of him, in clean room, blue and white garb, smiling over his shoulder. At first I thought he was a meat cutter in a factory. But seeing no blood, I decided he worked for some high-tech firm.

The other image, was the cover of a light brown, leather bound book, which I knew was his diary. The title was; "Asleep"

Dreams are strange.

 

[Kurdt]

Really sorry to hear of such a tragic loss. These kinds of problem should not be allowed to get to this stage.

 

[lisab]

I had a dream about Arild this morning.

Not too much I can remember, besides a couple of images.

One was a picture of him, in clean room, blue and white garb, smiling over his shoulder. At first I thought he was a meat cutter in a factory. But seeing no blood, I decided he worked for some high-tech firm.

The other image, was the cover of a light brown, leather bound book, which I knew was his diary. The title was; "Asleep"

Dreams are strange.

Dreams are strange, true, but fully-awake brains are strange too. As I was reading your dream, this song came into my head:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W8KmhmpaKuk

 

[OmCheeto]

Dreams are strange, true, but fully-awake brains are strange too. As I was reading your dream, this song came into my head:

...

As I completed writing down my dream, the movie title "What Dreams May Come", popped into my head. I didn't really remember the plot line, so I watched the trailer.
I decided against posting it, as I decided people might get the impression that I was obsessed with Arild, and wanted to stalk him in the afterlife.
I wasn't at all obsessed with Arild. I would call it more, a dumbfounded awe.
I think it may have been the Gaza thread.
I like to imagine, that we battled against the forces of darkness, with no words shared, but an instinctive understanding, that we were, brothers in arms.

As I said previously, not a day goes by, that something doesn't remind me of him.
But as Pat sang to me the other day; "Om, just let him go".
She also told me; "Don't let it Show", but it was already too late.

Joni tried to tell me that also; "...and if you care, don't let them know. Don't give yourself away".

I'm apparently bad at following the rules.

Anyways...

Goodnight, Arild.

I am humbled to have been in your presence.

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ps. As I was about to push the "Submit Reply" button, a gust of wind violently blew one of my plastic chairs off the front porch. It reminded me of the movie: "Sixth Sense".
I'm guessing that Arild was pointing out that I'd forgotten a comma...
Ok! I put it in! Good grief...

 

[jedishrfu]

Here's a reference to the What Dreams May Come movie, I think the circumstances here caused you to dream about it in particular:

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_Dreams_May_Come_(film )

 

[OmCheeto]

Here's a reference to the What Dreams May Come movie, I think the circumstances here caused you to dream about it in particular:

http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/What_Dreams_May_Come_(film )

Good grief.
The ending, actually happened, in my family, quite recently.
If one believes in such things.

Thank you, jedishrfu.

Chris proposes reincarnation, so he and Annie can experience life together again. The film ends with Chris and Annie meeting again as young children in a situation that parallels their first meeting.

One day, I will tell the story.

 

[Arilds family]

Dear Physics Forums Family,

It has been a week since we said our last farewell to Arild in an overcrowded chapel. Our approach to the ceremony was as honest as it has been the whole time, and we believe we managed to keep it in the spirit that Arild would have wanted. Lots of music, and words from a funeral speaker from the Norwegian Humanist Association and Arild's mother. We thank you for your gift, see images below.

After the ceremony we gathered at a nearby restaurant to share our stories and memories. Arild had many sides, and I think everyone feels that we learned more about him during the day.

Most of all, we think Arild would have been very surprised that so many people had been touched by him, and wanted to say their last farewells. Arild's death has caused more sorrow and despair than he could imagine, and the only positive thing it can bring is this realisation. No matter how alone you feel, there are more people than you would imagine who care about you. Who will respond if you reach out. If we can all keep this knowledge in our hearts and share it with the people we meet, Arild will also live on.

For those of you who want to have a last moment to remember him, here is the music that was used in the funeral:

- Franz Shübert: An die musik:
- (everyone singing) Din tanke er fri (Die gendanken sind frei): - Seeger's version in English:
- Arvo Pärt: My Heart's in the Highlands:
- Antonin Dvorak: Rusalka - Song to the Moon:
- Samuel Barber: Adagio for Strings:
- (everyone singing) Henri Mancini: Moon River:
- (while exiting, and while people were approaching the urn to say their last farewell) Arvo Pärt - Cantus in memoriam Benjamin Britten:

We thank you all for your support during the last few weeks, it has meant more than you can imagine to read and take part in your memories of Arild.

Finally, in the spirit of Arild's news about Norwegian nature we'd like to share this. As we were all going home from the funeral, the heaviest rains in recorded history hit Oslo, with 44.5 mm in an hour at the official measurement site and worse elsewhere (that's about a normal month's worth). Cars were stuck in roads suddenly turned rivers, and there were hailstorms leaving the roads filled with snow at high summer.

http://www.dittoslo.no/nordstrands-blad/nyheter-nordstrands-blad/kraftig-uver-i-oslo-1.8490493

With love,

Gerd, Anders and Andreas.

 

[Evo]

Thank you. What a beautiful post, yes Arild touched more people in more ways than he ever imagined. He was a truly wonderful person, he is very missed.

My heart goes out to his family and friends.

 

[PhysicoRaj]

Thanks for sharing..
RIP again, Arild.

 

[micromass]

Thank you for sharing this post. And thank you a lot for communicating so well with us. Arild was precious to us and your communication with us has helped us a lot.

I will be playing the entire music collection in your post in his honor.

 

[Evo]

Reposting here in case the post is missed on the previous page. Pictures of the flowers are in post #144

Dear Physics Forums Family,

It has been a week since we said our last farewell to Arild in an overcrowded chapel. Our approach to the ceremony was as honest as it has been the whole time, and we believe we managed to keep it in the spirit that Arild would have wanted. Lots of music, and words from a funeral speaker from the Norwegian Humanist Association and Arild's mother. We thank you for your gift, see images below.

After the ceremony we gathered at a nearby restaurant to share our stories and memories. Arild had many sides, and I think everyone feels that we learned more about him during the day.

Most of all, we think Arild would have been very surprised that so many people had been touched by him, and wanted to say their last farewells. Arild's death has caused more sorrow and despair than he could imagine, and the only positive thing it can bring is this realisation. No matter how alone you feel, there are more people than you would imagine who care about you. Who will respond if you reach out. If we can all keep this knowledge in our hearts and share it with the people we meet, Arild will also live on.

For those of you who want to have a last moment to remember him, here is the music that was used in the funeral:

- Franz Shübert: An die musik:
- (everyone singing) Din tanke er fri (Die gendanken sind frei): - Seeger's version in English:
- Arvo Pärt: My Heart's in the Highlands:
- Antonin Dvorak: Rusalka - Song to the Moon:
- Samuel Barber: Adagio for Strings:
- (everyone singing) Henri Mancini: Moon River:
- (while exiting, and while people were approaching the urn to say their last farewell) Arvo Pärt - Cantus in memoriam Benjamin Britten:

We thank you all for your support during the last few weeks, it has meant more than you can imagine to read and take part in your memories of Arild.

Finally, in the spirit of Arild's news about Norwegian nature we'd like to share this. As we were all going home from the funeral, the heaviest rains in recorded history hit Oslo, with 44.5 mm in an hour at the official measurement site and worse elsewhere (that's about a normal month's worth). Cars were stuck in roads suddenly turned rivers, and there were hailstorms leaving the roads filled with snow at high summer.

http://www.dittoslo.no/nordstrands-blad/nyheter-nordstrands-blad/kraftig-uver-i-oslo-1.8490493

With love,

Gerd, Anders and Andreas.

 

[Borek]

 

[OmCheeto]

Just a couple of thoughts, as I'm late for a rendezvous with family. (I could write a novel about my thoughts generated over the last 4 weeks.)

Thank you. What a beautiful post, yes Arild touched more people in more ways than he ever imagined. He was a truly wonderful person, he is very missed.

My heart goes out to his family and friends.

Ditto.

"Adagio for Strings" sent me into my 3rd crying fit.

One clarification, of an earlier post I made regarding the song: "Moon and Stars":

It's usually one line that triggers emotions or thoughts in my head. In that case, it was; "And people would ride from far and wide just to seek the word he spread"

I really have to give kudos to Greg, for creating PF, with rules that created a unique environment, without which, I don't think I would have run across someone like Arild. Looking at the Google Earth image of how far apart Arild and I lived

plunked Greenland right smack dab in the middle of us.

Which of course, triggered more brain cells...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cRa-SLdoTqI​

Farewell, to Arildno
Farewell, to my comrade, for a while, we must part...