What Are Your Thoughts on Open Relationships?

  • Thread starter Thread starter JasonRox
  • Start date Start date
  • Tags Tags
    Relationships
Click For Summary
The discussion centers around open relationships, with participants sharing their thoughts and experiences. The original poster, who has been in an open relationship for nearly four years, describes it as fulfilling yet challenging. They seek mature responses and clarify that they are not referring to casual "friends with benefits" arrangements. Participants express a range of views, with some questioning the nature of open relationships and whether they can truly be considered relationships at all. There is a consensus that all parties involved must consent to the dynamics of an open relationship, and communication is essential. Some participants reflect on the evolution of dating norms, suggesting that younger generations may rush into exclusive relationships without adequately exploring their options. The conversation also touches on the importance of character and compatibility in relationships, with some emphasizing that true connection goes beyond mere physical attraction. Overall, the dialogue highlights the complexities and personal nature of relationship choices, advocating for honesty and mutual understanding among partners.
  • #31
mcknia07 said:
I guess I don't really get the point to being in an open relationship, but if you are happy and your partner, that's all that matters, not what others think or even say. I know a lot of girls that like to go for guys in relationships, I guess they think it's more tempting...

I think they see me as very respectful, honest, and open. As well as confident, fun and happy. It rubs off on people.

I'm actually the first TA at my school that ever got their name written on the comment feedback thing. When I first started TAing, a buzz went around the faculty on all the positive feedback I was getting. I'm glad because my help centre hours are usually busy, and I like that.
 
Physics news on Phys.org
  • #32
another relationship thread!

:!) :smile:
 
  • #33
rootX said:
another relationship thread!

:!) :smile:

This one actually involves relationships. :smile: Most only involve people TRYING to get in a relationship. :rolleyes:
 
  • #34
JasonRox said:
I have no idea what you're saying.

I think she might have just been suggesting that the woman you ditched as a bad kisser and bad lead-in to sex might have been able to learn had you been more patient. It's possible...maybe she'd only been with really inexperienced guys who thought anything she did was great and she could have learned from you and gotten better. But, that's your decision if you wanted to put in the time and effort to find out if things could improve with experience.
 
  • #35
JasonRox said:
I'm not looking for someone faithful. I put no value into it.
Faithful is important. My wife was in a horrible accident. It did not disfigure her like the accident John McCain's wife was in, but she was partially paralyzed and lost almost all her vision. She has recovered most of her function and vision and is as tough as hell, though the disparity in the length of her leg-bones has given her ongoing skeletal problems. I've been through a lot, too, and she has stood by me through some crap when other women would have walked out.

For me "faithful" means a whole lot more than "I won't go out on you if we agree not to". That's juvenile. Faithful means that when your life hands you the worst day-week-month-year that you think you'll ever see, you have a soul-mate willing to stand by you. I hope you get that, even if you discount it now.
 
  • #36
rootX said:
another relationship thread!

:!) :smile:

:smile: Except he's not asking for advice, just opinions.
 
  • #37
turbo-1 said:
Faithful is important. My wife was in a horrible accident. It did not disfigure her like the accident John McCain's wife was in, but she was partially paralyzed and lost almost all her vision. She has recovered most of her function and vision and is as tough as hell, though the disparity in the length of her leg-bones has given her ongoing skeletal problems. I've been through a lot, too, and she has stood by me through some crap when other women would have walked out.

For me "faithful" means a whole lot more than "I won't go out on you if we agree not to". That's juvenile. Faithful means that when your life hands you the worst day-week-month-year that you think you'll ever see, you have a soul-mate willing to stand by you. I hope you get that, even if you discount it now.

Oh, for sure I'll stand by her. No doubt about that.
 
  • #38
turbo-1 said:
Faithful is important. My wife was in a horrible accident. It did not disfigure her like the accident John McCain's wife was in, but she was partially paralyzed and lost almost all her vision. She has recovered most of her function and vision and is as tough as hell, though the disparity in the length of her leg-bones has given her ongoing skeletal problems. I've been through a lot, too, and she has stood by me through some crap when other women would have walked out.

For me "faithful" means a whole lot more than "I won't go out on you if we agree not to". That's juvenile. Faithful means that when your life hands you the worst day-week-month-year that you think you'll ever see, you have a soul-mate willing to stand by you. I hope you get that, even if you discount it now.

wow, this has a lot of wisdom to it. I'm only 19 and had my fair share of immature relationships relative to others at my age. This puts a lot of things into perspective for me. Thank you. You are a very good, kind-hearted person for doing what you did...
 
  • #39
Moonbear said:
I think she might have just been suggesting that the woman you ditched as a bad kisser and bad lead-in to sex might have been able to learn had you been more patient. It's possible...maybe she'd only been with really inexperienced guys who thought anything she did was great and she could have learned from you and gotten better. But, that's your decision if you wanted to put in the time and effort to find out if things could improve with experience.

Yes, but but character was lacking as well. I hung out with her several times.

Character is key for me. Many pretty girls around, so that's nothing special. Pretty plus character, I like! :smile:
 
  • #40
Guess he wants an ego boost or something?
 
  • #41
binzing said:
Guess he wants an ego boost or something?

Yeah, my ego isn't big enough. I want it expand and touch everyone in the world!
 
  • #42
Moonbear said:
:smile: Except he's not asking for advice, just opinions.

How's the current boyfriend right now Moonbear? o:)
 
  • #43
JasonRox said:
Yes, but but character was lacking as well.

Yes, that's far more important. I also think if personalities match, bad kissing doesn't really seem so bad. But, if personalities don't really match, then even decent kissing can seem really bad.
 
  • #44
JasonRox said:
How's the current boyfriend right now Moonbear? o:)

Still current. :biggrin:
 
  • #45
Moonbear said:
Yes, that's far more important. I also think if personalities match, bad kissing doesn't really seem so bad. But, if personalities don't really match, then even decent kissing can seem really bad.

If character and personality was fantastic, I wouldn't mind the bad kissing. And you're right, it's not so bad. It can be a laughing matter later too. I used to be a horrible kisser... you can ask the current girl.
 
  • #46
moonbear said:
still current. :biggrin:

bmw... :!)
 
  • #47
john16O said:
wow, this has a lot of wisdom to it. I'm only 19 and had my fair share of immature relationships relative to others at my age. This puts a lot of things into perspective for me. Thank you. You are a very good, kind-hearted person for doing what you did...
I don't think of myself as kind-hearted. When my wife was released from the hospital, she had two broken legs, a broken arm (paralyzed) and she had just enough vision to recognize faces if you stood right in front of her and she had time to scan your face over and over. Her mother was retired and agreed to take care of her because I worked rotating shifts with mandatory overtimes and hold-overs and couldn't provide off-time coverage. I spent as much time at my mother-in-law's place as I could, I bought all the groceries for both of them every week and chipped in with utilities, etc, as much as she would let me. The next summer, my wife and I toured maritime Canada with her mother, and invited her mother's sister, so she would have a companion of like age. It was a small thing to do.
 
  • #48
turbo-1 said:
I don't think of myself as kind-hearted. When my wife was released from the hospital, she had two broken legs, a broken arm (paralyzed) and she had just enough vision to recognize faces if you stood right in front of her and she had time to scan your face over and over. Her mother was retired and agreed to take care of her because I worked rotating shifts with mandatory overtimes and hold-overs and couldn't provide off-time coverage. I spent as much time at my mother-in-law's place as I could, I bought all the groceries for both of them every week and chipped in with utilities, etc, as much as she would let me. The next summer, my wife and I toured maritime Canada with her mother, and invited her mother's sister, so she would have a companion of like age. It was a small thing to do.

Small thing or not. It was a very valuable thing you did.
 
  • #49
JasonRox said:
bmw... :!)

:smile: HE can afford the BMW, I just go along for the ride. :biggrin:
 
  • #50
Moonbear said:
:smile: HE can afford the BMW, I just go along for the ride. :biggrin:

Well, I like BMW's... share the love... be poly! :eek:
 
  • #51
I have a friend who is a poly. She attends poly socials. Did you have any questions you wanted to ask her?
 
  • #52
DaveC426913 said:
I have a friend who is a poly. She attends poly socials. Did you have any questions you wanted to ask her?

Poly socials, like what?
 
  • #53
JasonRox said:
Small thing or not. It was a very valuable thing you did.
Her mother is 92 now, and suffering from dementia, but when I see her, she always has a smile for me. Our days in the maritimes were the first time she'd ever been out of the country, and I made sure to plan to visit attractions that she and her sister would like, so we wandered up the east shore of Fundy and visited the Evangeline Chapel, the Royal Gardens at Annapolis Royale, Victoria Park in Truro, and all kinds of other stops. The sisters were still telling people about it weeks later.

That was all great, but how could it compare to knowing that someone would take care of the love of my life when she was practically helpless? I should have taken those old ladies to Hawaii for a week - I just couldn't afford it.
 
  • #54
turbo-1 said:
Her mother is 92 now, and suffering from dementia, but when I see her, she always has a smile for me. Our days in the maritimes were the first time she'd ever been out of the country, and I made sure to plan to visit attractions that she and her sister would like, so we wandered up the east shore of Fundy and visited the Evangeline Chapel, the Royal Gardens at Annapolis Royale, Victoria Park in Truro, and all kinds of other stops. The sisters were still telling people about it weeks later.

That was all great, but how could it compare to knowing that someone would take care of the love of my life when she was practically helpless? I should have taken those old ladies to Hawaii for a week - I just couldn't afford it.

Hawaii is something you remember for short periods of time (hence, why people go every year).

What you did is more unique and thoughtful.
 
  • #55
Watch out, Jason! Cyrus just got un-banned. Actually, he might have to leave your thread alone...
 
  • #56
JasonRox said:
Small thing or not. It was a very valuable thing you did.

I agree. When things get tough, that's the truest test of a relationship.
 
  • #57
Terms of his parole?
 
  • #58
JasonRox said:
Poly socials, like what?
Uh, sort of a meet & greet with like-minded people. She's met many of her relationships at such things.
 
Last edited:
  • #59
DaveC426913 said:
Uh, sort of a meet & greet with like-minded people. He's met many of her relationships at such things.

I thought about such things. I just don't think it's quite big in my area.

I thought you were talking about partner swapping for a second. :rolleyes:
 
  • #60
What's the difference in being in an open relationship and just dating someone non-exclusively?
 

Similar threads

Do you think you have to be mature to succeed in life?
  • · Replies 28 ·
Replies
28
Views
3K
Getting Ignored is Worst Type of Rejection
  • · Replies 17 ·
Replies
17
Views
7K
How Does Increasing Size Affect Punching Speed and Light Speed Limits?
  • · Replies 27 ·
Replies
27
Views
2K
DNA-maternity test - could you see other relationship than mother?
  • · Replies 14 ·
Replies
14
Views
3K
References for Improving and Maintaining Relationships
  • · Replies 2 ·
Replies
2
Views
2K
Discussion on the science-literature relationship and more
  • · Replies 14 ·
Replies
14
Views
3K
'How Does Your Garden Grow' thread - raised beds
  • · Replies 36 ·
2
Replies
36
Views
2K
How do people explore new ideas in physics?
  • · Replies 52 ·
2
Replies
52
Views
2K
Can pressure differential close lateral window?
  • · Replies 9 ·
Replies
9
Views
1K
A What is Exponent b in Voltage-to-Area Flaw Relationships?
  • · Replies 7 ·
Replies
7
Views
523