What Attracts You in a Potential Mate?

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The discussion revolves around the complexities of attraction, emphasizing that initial attraction often stems from physical beauty but can quickly shift to personality traits such as intelligence and humor. Participants note that while physical appearance may grab attention, deeper qualities become more significant over time. Many express that their initial attractions often do not lead to lasting connections, primarily due to personality mismatches revealed during interactions. The conversation also touches on the importance of emotional connection and how feelings of attraction can be influenced by chemical reactions in the brain. Overall, the consensus highlights that while physical beauty is a starting point, personality and emotional compatibility are crucial for long-term relationships.
  • #31
Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
Well, that explains everything!
ROTFLMAO!
 
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  • #32
Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
Why Thank you, nicest thing I've heard 'Bout myself in quite a while, guess that Enigma thingy is still working for me!

WhoooHoooo?
(i just KNOW I'm going to be sorry for this...)

ALRIGHT! I'LL BITE! WHAT "Enigma thingy". (I just love the word 'thingy' ).
 
  • #33
Originally posted by Tsunami
(i just KNOW I'm going to be sorry for this...)
ALRIGHT! I'LL BITE! WHAT "Enigma thingy". (I just love the word 'thingy' ).
It was, briefly, my 'title' "Well know Enigma" as having been replaced with the "One Man Thunk Tank" Thingy :smile: :wink: who?
 
  • #34
Originally posted by Mr. Robin Parsons
It was, briefly, my 'title' "Well know Enigma" as having been replaced with the "One Man Thunk Tank" Thingy :smile: :wink: who?
uh...OK!
 
  • #35
Sassy and fiesty women turn me on anytime, anyday.
 
  • #36
Thinking about it, I'm not sure how much intelligence matters either; true, every girl I've fallen for has been fairly bright, but personality (including sense of humor) has always been the primary reason.
 
  • #37
I don't know what i look for in a girl, but a good personality would probably be number one. Obviously looks are the first thing I notice but once i have talked to a girl for abit her looks arent so important.

Dont know how to describe it but the feeling i get when i am alone with my girlfriend is just fantastic.
 
  • #38
Originally posted by Andy
(SNIP)[/color] Dont know how to describe *Snicker*Snicker* try using "words" Andy[/color] it but the feeling i get when i am alone with my girlfriend is just fantastic. (SNoP)[/color]
Why only when you are alone?
 
  • #39
I was thinking of how to describe it in words, but couldnt.

And because being alone with her just makes me feel so damn good, you must know what i mean.
 
  • #40
Originally posted by Andy
(SNIP) And because being alone with her just makes me feel so damn good, you must know what i mean. (SNoP)
Actually, that comment, just split the meaning(s)
 
  • #41
and why's that?
 
  • #42
Originally posted by Andy
and why's that?
"Being alone with..." In the park? in bed? on the couch, watching TV? "Feel so good" physically? Sexually? Emotionally? Three way splits...
 
  • #43
Thanks for clarifying what you meant, and doesn't matter where i am with her, could be laid in bed chatting or sat down on the couch watching a film, and it makes me feel good emotionally.
 
  • #44
Originally posted by Andy
Thanks for clarifying what you meant, and doesn't matter where i am with her, could be laid in bed chatting or sat down on the couch watching a film, and it makes me feel good emotionally.
"Thanks for clarifying what you meant"...
 
  • #45
Your welcome, Clarity is not my strong point.
 
  • #46
I have to agree with Andy. My being with my ex-girlfriend (when she still was my girlfriend) was the best feeling in the world, and i can't describe why. I only know that i miss whatever it is that made me feel damn good...maybe it was having a heart... [b(]
 
  • #47
awh, little tin-man :frown: everyone seems to be in the same ship though..
 
  • #48
...tin man...lol...cute.

so dorothy, where are your red shoes? and Toto? What is the name of this ship? "The boat of despair?" lol ...now I am just getting stupid.
 
  • #49
Well, one explanation from a program I saw on the discovery channel several years ago explained it scientifically. Supposedly, the "feeling" is the chemical soup that your brain is flooded with when you are "in love", "first attraction" to a person, etc... The effects last about 6 months at which time, if there is a deeper attraction will be replaced with other chemicals, the same ones that create the "mother/child bond". Oxytocin?

Well, I couldn't find the reference to the program I saw, but found this. http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/hottopics/love/index.shtml

*edit* to add link
 
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  • #50
Chemicals yea, that sounds good enough.
 
  • #51
Originally posted by Andy
Chemicals yea, that sounds good enough.
So then, when you are alone with your girlfriend you feel "good chemicals" right? (or is that Chemistry hee hee!)
 

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