What falling in love feels like to you

[cronxeh]

Martyrdom philosophy ? Just live Cron. Whatever that chick did to you, in time you'll forget it all :P

And another basic truth is that you can love her, you can respect her, you could do everything for her, and she just might not care. Because she doesn't want all those things from you, she wants them from another man. And there is squat you can do about it.

Too often I heard "I would do so much for him//her,and he/she doesn't care". I think this is what you mean with "liner response". Just recognize that she doesn't want you, she wants another one, and move away. There is no need for "unhappiness is the most cool thing in love". It is not.

Hey its not about any particular person for me. And how is this about me, again? I never hammer anything into anyone, if anything I am a minimalist on the outside, its the inside of my mind that is a brewing caldron of passion. I don't chase after them, I let the dance of life take its course. You give, you take it back, its all a spiral.

Like you said, linear response is what its all about. Another guy could put a fraction of the effort and do the exact same things and get an amplified response. Life is non-linear, hilarious and ironic, and all relationships end. Friendships, parents, coworkers, partners, bf/gf, spouses. Both interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships end. Heck, even your relationship with your body eventually ends and it fails on you.

 

[Galteeth]

Hey its not about any particular person for me. And how is this about me, again? I never hammer anything into anyone, if anything I am a minimalist on the outside, its the inside of my mind that is a brewing caldron of passion. I don't chase after them, I let the dance of life take its course. You give, you take it back, its all a spiral.

Like you said, linear response is what its all about. Another guy could put a fraction of the effort and do the exact same things and get an amplified response. Life is non-linear, hilarious and ironic, and all relationships end. Friendships, parents, coworkers, partners, bf/gf, spouses. Both interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships end. Heck, even your relationship with your body eventually ends and it fails on you.

Getting a little eastern? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sa%E1%B9%83s%C4%81ra_(Buddhism )

 

[cronxeh]

Getting a little eastern?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samsara_(Buddhism )

I hope not. All their talk about suffering and assumptions they make from everyday, disconnected objects that have no meaning to the original argument just make me think that Buddhism is yet another form of delusional rhetoric that clouds the mind from clarity.

To me, life is all about pleasure. Its like a long island iced tea. Part epicurean, part absurdism, part chaos theory, and vodka. Occasionally I like some mint leaves like Salvia divinorum in my long island iced tea

 

[cronxeh]

Just when you hit a rock bottom, a woman comes along in your life, and you realize you can sink much, much lower

 

[Astronuc]

On the other hand,

I was listening to an interview with Hal Holbrook about a recent movie he made. In the movie, there are segments cut in where Holbrook is seen holding hands, hugging, playing or dancing with Dixie Carter, his real wife. When asked how that acted those scenes, Holbrook responded that it wasn't acting, it was Holbrook and Carter having fun and loving - loving the other's presence.

That's what loving is about. Long after the exhiliration or infatuation wears off or subsides, there is just a steady feeling that one carries inside. It's a bit like gratitude or gratefulness - grateful for the other's presence - cherishing the other's presence in one's life. And really comes out when one's partner faces a life threatening illness, and for while, one doesn't know if one will lose one's partner or not.

Dixie Carter died April 10, 2010 from cancer. She and Holbrook were married for 26 years.
http://www.dixiecarter.com/home.html

I'm sure he misses her very much.

 

[Loren Booda]

Indeed, love is more than a physical pairing, but lives intertwining.

Contrariwise, in my experience, the betrayer of love is promiscuity.

 

[MadLove31]

AHH! i hate love... It just messes up ur life :)

 

[Evo]

Like the song says "Love Stinks".

 

[Galteeth]

Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.
-"Friedrich Nietzsche" as quoted by Matt Groening

 

[nucleargirl]

I love love :) its the best high!... hm maybe not the best, achieving something amazing would be the best, but it is one of the best ones.

 

[BobG]

Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.
-"Friedrich Nietzsche" as quoted by Matt Groening

Like the song says "Love Stinks".

You're just jealous you couldn't describe love as well as Galteeth.



Wait! Wasn't that your signature for a while?

 

[turbo]

Falling in love feels like accidentally sitting on a small bag of Wise Vinegar and Onion potato chips and popping it. There's nothing like it.

 

[Fizex]

Feels like being addicted to crack.

 

[Astronuc]

When the time is right -

How to make your spouse happy (adapted from an extract from the 1877 Almanac)

• Never speak slightingly of or to your spouse in the presence of other people (or any other time).
• Treat your spouse as politely and kindly as when you were wooing him or her.
• Do not neglect neatness of person and surroundings.
• Do not speak lightly of his or her cares and fatigues, but sympathize with his or her troubles.
• Share your pleasures and cares, and show that you value her or his society and advice.
• Speak gently always, and do not allow your voice to become sharp and loud.

Their favorite saying: "For a happy marriage, never speak loudly to one another unless the house is on fire."

 

[Loren Booda]

Their favorite saying: "For a happy marriage, never speak loudly to one another unless the house is on fire."

...or you might get burned.

 

[burkie.31]

I'm through with love. I'm just looking for someone that can tolerate me.

Also, my older daughter "spawn" who's birthday is also today, reminded me she gave me the fruitbat and that's all the love I need in life.

I reminded her that he's a little dog and might only have another 8 years to live. She assured me I'd die first, so won't have to worry about it. She always knows how to cheer me up.

your daughter is da best! FTW

 

[Triple_D]

It's like going 80mph on a jet ski. It seems like a good idea, until you fall off.

 

[Tregg Smith]

Let's call it what it is-lust/the reptillian creative urge eminating from deep in the subconscious. We just call it love. Craving for that indescribable pleasure of the orgasm, for that beautiful creature that you can own and who will add to your "self". (that's why it tears you up when you loose it). But love for me came after years of living with her and learning to appreciate her companionship, her caring for me, learning to understand and accept her imperfections. Now when I say I love you I really mean it and not a disguise for I want, I need to own you.

 

[Darken-Sol]

love was nothing, till i lost it. everything i find now is not it. to me love is a memory

 

[Lichdar]

For me? Stability, for lack of a better word.

I've been in a steady, live-in relationship for almost two years by now. There's something to be said to be able to come home to a girl who loves me and a dinner waiting; someone who I can at least expect to care for my feelings and accept me for who I am. Our relationship might not have begun as normally as many, but there is something in the steadiness that makes both her and myself extremely happy.

I think a good deal of tolerance, communication and understanding is the ultimate secret. I can't exactly deny that my initial reasons for wanting her were primarily sexual and controlling, and her initial motivator was to be rescued; over time, though, my mutual desire to see each other happy readjusted us into something genuinely healthy for both of us. This has required concession and negotiation from both of us, but it helped that neither of us never ever seriously considered splitting as an option.

 

[JhonMoney]

no love no tention...i have decided to live forever so far so good.....

 

[Tosh5457]

Love is very tricky for me. I can have that feeling for a girl (which you call love) one day, but if that girl doesn't want anything with me, I can stop having that feeling the next day. I just have to think about her defects and voila, I don't love her anymore.

I'm not even sure that if it's love or not, when I have that feeling. Yeah, love is not a sea of roses for me... *smokes cigarette*

 

[Loren Booda]

The more emotional investment in a person, the more potential for intense love toward them.

 

[Mépris]

Love is ineffable in different ways, most times.

 

[Edin_Dzeko]

One doesn't "fall" in love. This whole, I got struck by Cupid's arrow is just fictitious stuff for children. Love is a decision and NOT a feeling.

 

[Lancelot59]

One doesn't "fall" in love. This whole, I got struck by Cupid's arrow is just fictitious stuff for children. Love is a decision and NOT a feeling.

I agree. It's more of an adjective describing the sum of a bunch of different emotions rather than being a feeling itself.

 

[Mathguy15]

I'm sorry for reviving this thread, but I felt this was a great thread.

What it feels like to be in love. Hmm. I'm only fifteen, but there is a girl I like very much. She's sweet, smart, funny, nice, just a very effervescent and bubbly person! Speculating on the future feelings that may be drawn out of me by this girl, I would say being in love is finding that part of you you knew was missing but didn't know how to fill. You feel as though the one and you are inextricably linked, in a way that draws you naturally to him/her. As you accept the faults in yourself, you accept the faults in that person. They show you new outlooks and ideas. You feed off each other, enriching each other in a way that is incomprehensible to everyone accept the two of you.

 

[aabottom]

Love is when a friend asks you for another push on the tricycle, and it's the 147th time, but you do it anyway.

The only woman who ever annoyed me forgot to lock the door when she left. I ran into her again a year later. She was annoyed I did not hate her.

Thanks Chronos, the most hysterical post in the thread.

 

[shashankac655]

"When one is in love, one always begins by deceiving one's self, and one always ends by deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance."
— Oscar Wilde

 

[Topher925]

What it feels like to fall in love? Like suffering from a severe head injury making me dazed and confused followed by having my heart ripped out like in Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom.

Ok, so I've never actually been in "love" but I imagine that this is what it would be like.

 

[shashankac655]

It takes a woman twenty years to make a man of her son, and another woman twenty minutes to make a fool of him. ~Helen Rowland

 

[Lancelot59]

It takes a woman twenty years to make a man of her son, and another woman twenty minutes to make a fool of him. ~Helen Rowland

I've seen it happen in even less time than that.

 

[netgypsy]

It's love when, if you fight with them, you are fighting with yourself
If you see them injured you can viscerally feel the pain
If their smile warms you like the sun
If sitting with them silently watching the sun rise makes you so happy you almost cry
If you finish each other's sentences
If their touch causes you to melt
If you don't really care what you're doing because doing it with them is always fun
If they make you a better person than you could ever be alone

Love is never painful unless you lose the one you love and even then the wonderful memories never fade

so it's worth it to keep looking until you find the real thing.

 

[widereader]

You write like a novelist of a romance book. Although this may seem like love, it is more of infatuation or even lust.

 

[netgypsy]

The person who shared that with me has been married to the same person for nearly 50 years. Lust - for sure - but certainly not infatuation. They say it was just dumb luck they found each other and they're not complaining.

One other thing I find interesting - in a relationship where both people are in love with each other, there is not a 50 50 sharing of duties, chores, unpleasant tasks. There is a 100% willingness to carry the entire load when needed on both parts and that is without ever being asked to do it.

There is no need to say I love you because both parties know it is true.

When either person sees something that needs to be done, they do it and when the other person sees them working, they will pitch in and help or do something else that needs to be done. They are a real team.

There are no games, no hurt feelings, no crying and no real fighting. There are disagreements that are settled based on who wants it the most and risk vs benefit. It's not a power game because both parties have equal power and no need to try to increase that power.

People in love are NICE to each other, kind, pleasant, supportive and pay attention to the other one so they know if one is sad or tired or just needs a back rub. And it's not hard, it's a joy to find someone who really cares about you and never needs to be told that you care.

 

[ArcherofScience]

Idk if its possible for youngsters to truly fall in love, but that's my case here. I fell in love with a guy who loves me back. Problem is, he lives in Europe and I live in Usa. Which sucks, because of the distance. Although I fell for him, and He fell for me, we've had many problems, fights, bla bla bla. But when we sew it all back together, he's the sweetest kid and he has a charming personality. He won my heart when I noticed that he was always there for me, and if I ever fell, he would always pick me up and help me. It's not actually easy for us, because there is a huge chance we may never meet, and never get married (because he asked me to marry him like in the summer lol). And yeah, I know that fear that grows inside me. I can't say that I'm tough, although when me and him broke up a few times, it did get me stronger and teach me things that I haven't learned before. To be honest, I never actually dated before this guy. I come from a religious background and it's not really approved of me to "date" him. Though I consider him more as my promised guy, then my boyfriend. Idk I see downsides to the word boyfriend lol. But yeah, anyway, I face that fear not meeting him and fulfilling everything he told me he'd do for me in the end. Of course fate will take on the course.

So yeah. Sounds a bit silly I'm posting this and I "think" I know love, but truth is, as a youngster, maybe not serious love lol.

Anyway wanted to share,

:),
ArcherofScience.

 

[Astronuc]

http://www.npr.org/2012/01/31/146151332/winter-songs-young-love-in-ithaca-with-schumanns-help
Alice and Burt Swersey have been married for 52 years.

 

[Astronuc]

What Falling in Love Does to the Brain
http://news.yahoo.com/falling-love-does-brain-191805648.html

 

[mathwonk]

This discussion seems mostly about romantic attraction. But a few people lately have raised the issue of actual love, which is a slowly developing constancy of devotion and consideration which lasts a lifetime. That is what people are talking about who have been married for decades.