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I'm more of a 6 minute person myself
What's it like to be single all your life?
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The discussion explores the experiences and feelings associated with being single for life, highlighting that social interaction is important for happiness, regardless of relationship status. Participants express varying views on the necessity of companionship, with some feeling content being single while others desire a partner. Concerns about loneliness and potential depression are raised, suggesting that those who consistently prefer solitude might need psychological support. The conversation also emphasizes that being single does not equate to being lonely, as many find fulfillment in friendships and personal freedom. Ultimately, the consensus is that happiness can be found in both single and relationship lifestyles, depending on individual preferences.
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People in that age group are usually in school and have the ability to meet people and socialize. If they instead opt to lock themselves away and sit on the computer all day, you're absolutely right.JasonRox said:
It's when you get older that the opportunity to meet someone in person becomes really slim.
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Evo said:
You could be right about that one, but you could be terribly wrong as well. It all depends on the persons we're talking about.
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Being in a long term relationship requires both parties to be emotionally secure, trusting and mature (which should include being honest, open, compassionate, sensitive, communicative, . . . ) for it to be successful.
I think it starts younger. Pre-teens and young teenagers are using the internet to socialize. Hopefully, there is parental oversight, but we have seen cases, some tragic, where there is not. There are some adults who prey upon children and young adults.
The internet, or for that matter telecommunications, should not be a substitute (exclusively that is) for in-person relationships. But it allows communications/correspondence with those far away, as much as writing letters to someone faraway, e.g. across the country or overseas.
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Have you seen the new reality tv show on MSNBC "To Catch a Predator" where scumbags of all types are lured onto television and exposed. It's great fun for the whole family.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10912603/
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/10912603/
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Huckleberry said:
Didn't they catch a rabbi, and also a school teacher on that show?- #67
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JasonRox said:
Do you mean people shouldn't go out hunting for a relationship when they don't have their own life on a set path? I can see how that would make sense; a relationship would at least go under some strain if it's created under certain conditions, then those conditions completely change (get a new career, move to a new city, etc).
Regardless of age, the internet is an interesting place to meet people. You find out very quickly what you don't want to be with, and sometimes knowing what you don't want is the first step towards knowing what you do want. I've had a lot of bad internet dating experiences, and I can say with at least some confidence that I learned more in 1 year of internet dating than I did in 19 years of real life dating (yeah I'll count those kindergarten crushes as dating).
The one lesson in particular that sticks out is how common interests seemed to have nothing to do with how well a relationship works, but openness had everything to do with it. My current girlfriend loves reading books, I don't give her a hard time about it; I like technology and video games, and she doesn't bug me about it. Another thing was that career path had nothing to do with compatibility. I dated a girl who was a chemistry major, but her apathy towards work really bugged me. My current girlfriend is an art major (exact opposite of my career), but she has 2 part-time jobs and she sells paintings and prints she did for her school projects; that's very impressive.
You might not find anybody important on the internet, but you'll save a lot of time learning important dating lessons. If the site tries to match based on questionaires, it's almost like you get to pick and choose your test subjects then see why the relationship fails.
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I don't know, but from what I hear there seems to be no identifying factor in the predators. They come from all classes, races, religions, etc. It's kind of scary. I wonder what the hell these people are thinking? MSNBC is posing as a 15 year old girl or something and the guy goes to where she lives. Internet predators seem to be very trusting (desperate) people.
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Huckleberry said:
Internet predators are usually not on internet dating services. They go in chat rooms.
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JasonRox said:
And what are you basing this on?
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mattmns said:
You guys are talking about MSNBC, and they got them all on chatrooms and the guys on there said most of them go in chatrooms.
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I doubt many kids use online dating services. So there would be no point for a predator to be looking there.
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JasonRox said:
Speaking of which, it was some TV show about pedophiles that pointed out the hilarious irony of "kid safe" chat rooms. If your kids are restricted to using the kids only chat rooms, guess where the pedophiles go. Yeah.
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Woops, I thought you were talking about internet predators in general, not just pedophiles.