Why Do Some Women Use Threats of Castration in Relationships?

[Moonbear]

It's funny how girls say they like nice guys when they never go for them.

I commented on this a page back (or so). Part of the problem seems to be the confusion between nice and push-over.

I can assure you I've never dated a guy who wasn't nice. Well, that's not entirely true. I've gone out on dates with guys who were jerks, but I didn't realize they were jerks until I got out on a date with them. I didn't go on second dates with them. I have also dated two rather pathetic push-over types. One was when I was still in high school, and that lasted a month or two because I didn't know any better and started out thinking it was sweet of him to be so attentive, then realized he was clinging to me everywhere I went and it wasn't so sweet anymore. Then he didn't even get it when I dumped him, so I wound up screaming at him to go away and stay away in the middle of the crowded hall in the high school during class changes when I finally got so fed up I couldn't take it anymore; he finally got the hint then. The other one only lasted a few dates. Basically, the first time I visited his apartment and noticed it was decorated in a very feminine style, I asked if he had previously had a live-in girlfriend (I was suspicious if he still had another girlfriend even) and he told me his MOM decorated his apartment for him. It was downhill from there as it quickly became apparent he was a complete momma's boy. Being a momma's boy is not synonymous with being a nice guy. I want someone with a spine.

 

[Gale]

I guess you have to keep trying. It may take more than one time to do it.

no... no it doesn't work... I've tried too... they get scared, flustered as moonbear said. trust me... i wish it were so easy.

 

[Moonbear]

A shotgun helps. Then they truly understand it's in their best interest.

I don't ask them twice. Once they know I'm interested, if they realize they want to go out, then it's their turn to ask. If they can't get over their shyness enough to even ask out someone who just asked them out and is clearly interested, then it's not going to work out anyway.

 

[Chrono]

A shotgun helps. Then they truly understand it's in their best interest.

I knife would work well, also, I'm sure.

You never did say how it's going with your sister.

 

[franznietzsche]

A shotgun helps. Then they truly understand it's in their best interest.

I like. Very direct, forward. Very impressive.

 

[Moonbear]

I knife would work well, also, I'm sure.

You never did say how it's going with your sister.

A knife works extremely well! I got two of my previous boyfriends by holding them at knifepoint. Seriously! I think I told those stories somewhere here before. Well, actually, if you count a sword made from a balloon, then it's three. Maybe that's why I've had so much trouble finding a date in this town; I don't carry a knife on me anymore.

 

[Chrono]

A knife works extremely well! I got two of my previous boyfriends by holding them at knifepoint. Seriously! I think I told those stories somewhere here before. Well, actually, if you count a sword made from a balloon, then it's three. Maybe that's why I've had so much trouble finding a date in this town; I don't carry a knife on me anymore.

Speaking of knives, I got a bit of a story. It's between a couple of my martial arts buddies. They both, before I started going there, were dating each other. I'm not sure of the whole story between those two, but they ended it off. Anyway, she always threatens him with the word, "castrate".

Not much of a story now that I went through it.