It sounds to me like you are basically asking, what is the connection between the thermal kinetic energy of the H and He on the surface of a neutron star, and their infall kinetic energy? I think the latter must vastly exceed the former, so the question is, how much kinetic energy is lost during temperature equilibration, that is, what sets the temperature on the surface?
For most stars, there is no connection between the surface temperature and the infall energy, because surface temperature is set by very different physics. I don't know what physics sets the surface temperature of a neutron star, but it sounds like the X-ray flashes are similar to what are called thermal pulses deep in the interiors of more typical kinds of stars. Your question seems to boil down to, is there ever a mass of a neutron star that yields a surface temperature above about 108 K, such that He would fuse even at the surface? We know that would not be possible over the whole surface-- a blackbody with that T would be spectacularly X-ray bright all the time. But could there be tiny hot spots like that just where accretion is occurring? I don't really know, only that the high T would need to remain very concentrated, and heat transport might be an issue.
Put differently, what I mean is, the infall energy of the H is spectacular, so either it just fuses without equilibrating to a temperature, or it heats the H at the surface above 10 million K. I don't know which, all we know is the H does fuse. You're wondering if there is a connection between the resulting T, and that initial infall energy. That would seem to connect to the question, does the He so produced remain hot long enough to fuse again, or does it cool to the prevailing surface temperature, piling up until it gets thick enough to see the T rise up to He fusion levels? I guess we first have to understand how the H fuses-- does it just crash into a nucleus on the way in, at its infall energy, or does it thermalize first in a hot spot of X-ray gas that is constantly maintained whenever there is accretion? If the latter, what sets the T of that gas?