I fell in love with a married woman.

[revnaknuma]

I fell in love with a married woman.
she is in my facebook friend list. she was a high school classmate.
is it hopeless?
do I have any chance?

 

[turbo]

If she's married and is willing to play the field, what kind of partner would she make for you? If she remains faithful to her spouse and wants to be "just friends", you're out of luck. If she is willing to dump her spouse or cheat on him, you're (probably) still out of luck, because if you hook up with her, you may be the next lover she cheats on.

 

[FrancisZ]

If she's married and is willing to play the field, what kind of partner would she make for you? If she remains faithful to her spouse and wants to be "just friends", you're out of luck. If she is willing to dump her spouse or cheat on him, you're (probably) still out of luck, because if you hook up with her, you may be the next lover she cheats on.

Exactly.

I fell in love with a married woman.
she is in my facebook friend list. she was a high school classmate.
is it hopeless?
do I have any chance?

Try to think of how you would feel if someone else broke up your marriage. It's not right, any way you slice.

If you want to find sincerity, you have to walk away.

 

[cobalt124]

If you want to find sincerity, you have to walk away.

Yep.

 

[Jimmy Snyder]

I fell in love with a married woman.
she is in my facebook friend list. she was a high school classmate.
is it hopeless?
do I have any chance?

The first woman I kissed was another man's wife.

 

[Ivan Seeking]

The first woman I kissed was another man's wife.

Mom doesn't count.

 

[Math Is Hard]

Oscar Wilde said that a man who marries his mistress leaves a vacancy in that position. It could be said the same way about a woman who leaves her husband and marries her lover...

 

[Ivan Seeking]

Oscar Wilde said that a man who marries his mistress leaves a vacancy in that position. It could be said the same way about a woman who leaves her husband and marries her lover...

So the message is, mess around but stay married?

 

[Math Is Hard]

So the message is, mess around but stay married?

I think the message is, "If you marry the lover who left his/her spouse for you, just be advised that there could still be a need for them to scratch the extramarital itch".

 

[Ivan Seeking]

I think the message is, "If you marry the lover who left his/her spouse for you, just be advised that there could still be a need for them to scratch the extramarital itch".

Not to mention the possiblity of an angry or even vengeful husband.

 

[physics girl phd]

I think the message is, "If you marry the lover who left his/her spouse for you, just be advised that there could still be a need for them to scratch the extramarital itch".

for some people, attraction is only in the untouched and forbidden fruit...

There are good chances that this could be part of her allure, or part of her interaction with you. I'd recommend cooling your conversation and even de-friending.

 

[Dembadon]

for some people, attraction is only in the untouched and forbidden fruit...

There are good chances that this could be part of her allure, or part of her interaction with you. I'd recommend cooling your conversation and even de-friending.

Bingo! I feel the exact same way about this.

 

[nismaratwork]

Only pain for both of you, the other spouse and any children can result. What form that pain takes... who knows, but contrary to what Hollywood portarys the ashes of an old relationship are not a sturdy platform for new love.

 

[Dembadon]

Only pain for both of you, the other spouse and any children can result. What form that pain takes... who knows, but contrary to what Hollywood portarys the ashes of an old relationship are not a sturdy platform for new love.

Well said, and I think Hollywood plays a huge role in people's perceptions of how situations like this play-out.

 

[nismaratwork]

Well said, and I think Hollywood plays a huge role in people's perceptions of how situations like this play-out.

I agree, along with the ultra-despicable, "You just killed the guy who tried to (or did) rape/assault me! I'm instantly ready to bed you my hero!"

Real life... not so much.

Hollywood has a lot to answer for, not the least of which is 'Ishtar'.

 

[Dembadon]

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Hollywood has a lot to answer for, not the least of which is 'Ishtar'.

The Babylonian goddess of fertility, love, sex, and war?

 

[nismaratwork]

The Babylonian goddess of fertility, love, sex, and war?

OOPS! I meant... Ereshkigal!

 

[Tregg Smith]

Well that's too bad because unless the two of you can get together often like every day you are fu**** because you will constantly be thinking about her and not able to have her. This torment will go on for a long time. BTDT

 

[DanP]

I fell in love with a married woman.
she is in my facebook friend list. she was a high school classmate.
is it hopeless?
do I have any chance?

Nobody can tell if you have a chance or not. But if you don't, it's not because she is married.

 

[DanP]

Try to think of how you would feel if someone else broke up your marriage. It's not right, any way you slice.

You place the responsibility on the wrong person. It is not the 3rd party who breaks the marriage. It is the married man or women who decides to quit a marriage for another man, or which chooses to cheat who is responsible for the decision. And I say decision, and not blame. Nobody should tell what IMO are platitudes about the "sanctity" of marriage, for you have no idea about a couple's life and so on.

If she wants to cheat on her husband with you, it is not you who owe any allegiance to her husband. So take what's offered, if it comes to that. If you are stupid enough to not take it, another man will.

 

[DanP]

for some people, attraction is only in the untouched and forbidden fruit...

There are good chances that this could be part of her allure, or part of her interaction with you. I'd recommend cooling your conversation and even de-friending.

Why ? Never pass on some potentially good sex.

 

[physiqueper4]

Bars,Cafeterias, Public places...the world! is plenty of woman, pick your self one who may start with you a relation, why are you willing to still some thing belongs to an othor man who is making a familly and probably is working hard and faithfully to maintain and garantee the future .I think you can stay her friend if only get your self some girl makes you happy and by that you will look back and say with a big smile to your self ( how I was stupid and desprate to think in some one's wife). Good luck dear friend

 

[jannkahon]

Hi, for me you have to move on. God has another plan for you. Maybe there's a better woman that is destined for you and you have just to wait. She's already married right and I know if you really love a person you have to set her free. Her happiness is your also. Maybe we can say that "its a right love at a wrong time".

Thank you for sharing this, Its a nice way of expressing your feelings and ask advice from the readers.

God Bless! I am hoping you can find the right girl for you.

 

[DaveC426913]

Not to mention the possiblity of an angry or even vengeful husband.

As my good friend often says about death: his choice would be to go at the hands of a jealous husband.