Your opinion on this dating issue...

Moonbear

Though, if you do go on a date or two with her and decide you want to "go steady" (wow, that's a term I haven't heard in ages), then you'll have to get the previous girlfriend out of the picture. At that point, what outsider said does start to come into play that it'll be hard to give the new one your full attention if there's always the chance to go back to the old one. But that can certainly wait until you've gone on a few dates to find out if she's even worth it.

But as Evo mentioned, I've also seen it work out the other way, that a guy goes back to his ex after dating some other women and realizing he had it pretty good with the first one.

outsider

you make a good point... maybe i'm just old fashioned... i just don't believe in doing something new unless it is absolutely clear that i'm finished with the ex... i've never had the pleasure of going back to a finished relationship as there tends to be baggage that one wasn't willing to live with on either side...

i've learned that some things about females just come with the package if a male decides to stay straight... and that is the learning process... if i knew this when i was a kid, i would still be with my first love.... hahaha

JasonRox

I know what you mean by going steady.

I read the book Seveenth Summer, written in the 40's.

The girl went on a date with another guy while going steady with another. After that one date, she decided the guy she had now was much better.

Now, that I look at it into this perspective, everything is so much more clear.

Note: A friend of hers (that I know) gave me her e-mail. I e-mailed her, and let her know I was interested in talking and that I'm usually on MSN during so and so time.

Lately, I've been using this website for relationship help. Definitely the best place to go online. All good opinions that come from experience. :)

Evo

I just want to make something PERFECTLY CLEAR I was not born then. People were still going steady for decades after that.

You seem to have a pretty good head on your shoulders, I think things will work out for you.

Moonbear

Everyone thinks we're ancient! This is what I get for having twin sisters who are older than I am!

Evo

Sorry.

Moonbear is our MUCH YOUNGER twin sister! She's barely in her twenties!!!!

JasonRox

Haha, I didn't think you were that old, or any of you.

I always pictured you all as mid 30's or so. I don't think I'm missing by a long shot, not sure at all.

I just mentionned the date of the book.

I believe the whole going steady thing died in the mid 80's. Not sure, because I wasn't really around then either.

I like the idea of going steady much better. It's more casual, and from reading the book... much cuter!

Evo

I JasonRox. <stuffs a "get out of banning free" card into JasonRox's computer>

Moonbear

Okay, you're off the hook. "Going steady" was still going steady in the 80s, but I don't really know when it faded out of existence as a big deal since I was hitting that age when people were starting to pair up for long-term relationships and marriage anyway, so didn't take notice that the younger generation had undergone such a shift in dating activity. Now the term "dating" seems to have replaced "going steady," so it's confusing to distinguish between going on a date or dates vs. dating.

loseyourname

She would have been a statutory rapist. Now that's hot.