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One of the most painful parts of growing older has been the loss of family. Perhaps the saddest part for me is that my siblings and I have grown apart. I'm only close with one of three now. Grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, and now one parent, are gone. Geography and time has dulled the close connection once felt with other family members. Additionally, over time, even old friends tend to drift away. A few years ago, my closest friend for 30 years died.
I guess it is even more poignant given that we don't have kids, but I know other people have talked about the same sense of loss, with age. Once the kids move out, life can change dramatically. The empty nest syndrome can be pretty tough for some folks. Often, the kids were their entire life, so the sense of loss can be even worse. Suddenly people find themselves isolated.
Also, it seems that as we age, we find it harder to tolerate each other. I know this is true for me and other people I've known. Some of the distance is certainly self-imposed on my part. There are people I love with whom I've spent a great deal of time, but now my patience wears thin pretty quickly. A little time goes a long way. So while it is sad, it seems to be a natural progression.
I'm a little sad as I had to make a difficult decision recently. This was the motivation for the thread.
One of the most painful parts of growing older has been the loss of family. Perhaps the saddest part for me is that my siblings and I have grown apart. I'm only close with one of three now. Grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, and now one parent, are gone. Geography and time has dulled the close connection once felt with other family members. Additionally, over time, even old friends tend to drift away. A few years ago, my closest friend for 30 years died.
I guess it is even more poignant given that we don't have kids, but I know other people have talked about the same sense of loss, with age. Once the kids move out, life can change dramatically. The empty nest syndrome can be pretty tough for some folks. Often, the kids were their entire life, so the sense of loss can be even worse. Suddenly people find themselves isolated.
Also, it seems that as we age, we find it harder to tolerate each other. I know this is true for me and other people I've known. Some of the distance is certainly self-imposed on my part. There are people I love with whom I've spent a great deal of time, but now my patience wears thin pretty quickly. A little time goes a long way. So while it is sad, it seems to be a natural progression.
I'm a little sad as I had to make a difficult decision recently. This was the motivation for the thread.
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