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My boyfriend is a great boyfriend. He constantly tells me that I'm pretty, texts me often, is affectionate, always wants to spend time with me, cares about me etc. I could have never imagined that a guy would treat me as well as he does. He makes me feel like the only girl in the world. He's also responsible and very family oriented and he plans on moving in with me when I go to graduate school. We've discussed marriage a lot and he's told me multiple times that he wants to marry me. Also, his family is wonderful towards me. They've really made an effort to make me feel like part of the family.
Here's the main problem: our ideologies are completely different. I was raised in a secular household and religion has never been a part of my life. I'm liberal, I believe in climate change, I care for the environment and I'm not homophobic. He and his family are of course the opposite. My boyfriend doesn't believe in climate change and his sister has called people concerned about the environment hippies twice now. My bf thinks that climate change is just a big lie invented to make money. Both he and his sister believe that being gay is a choice and constantly make homophobic remarks. My bf even joked once that he'd break up with me if I wasn't homophobic even though he knows that I have close gay friends. I asked him once why he thought being gay was a choice and he told me that he thinks it's just a fad. I then tried to reason with him but he just ignored me and changed the topic. Also, his sister is a young Earth creationist even though she's really smart and a biology major. It just blows my mind how she can so readily disregard established scientific theories that conflict with her beliefs (such as the evidence for climate change, evolution etc). What's worse is that my boyfriend never wants to engage in friendly debates. I'm not one of those in your face debaters, I would just like to defend my position sometimes.
My mom doesn't think I'll be happy in the long run, however I think my bf is one of a kind. No guy has ever treated me this well before and I think that he will be a wonderful father. I also have already developed strong feelings for him. Also I'm almost 22 and I feel like time is passing me by. I will be entering grad school at almost 23 (I took time off after high school and I have a fall bday). It won't be long before I'm past my prime and I feel a lot of pressure to find a guy who is marriage material by then. I always read things on the internet about how women are past their prime after 25 and it makes me nervous (also, female fertility starts to decline in the late 20's). I kind of feel he's my last chance...
Here's the main problem: our ideologies are completely different. I was raised in a secular household and religion has never been a part of my life. I'm liberal, I believe in climate change, I care for the environment and I'm not homophobic. He and his family are of course the opposite. My boyfriend doesn't believe in climate change and his sister has called people concerned about the environment hippies twice now. My bf thinks that climate change is just a big lie invented to make money. Both he and his sister believe that being gay is a choice and constantly make homophobic remarks. My bf even joked once that he'd break up with me if I wasn't homophobic even though he knows that I have close gay friends. I asked him once why he thought being gay was a choice and he told me that he thinks it's just a fad. I then tried to reason with him but he just ignored me and changed the topic. Also, his sister is a young Earth creationist even though she's really smart and a biology major. It just blows my mind how she can so readily disregard established scientific theories that conflict with her beliefs (such as the evidence for climate change, evolution etc). What's worse is that my boyfriend never wants to engage in friendly debates. I'm not one of those in your face debaters, I would just like to defend my position sometimes.
My mom doesn't think I'll be happy in the long run, however I think my bf is one of a kind. No guy has ever treated me this well before and I think that he will be a wonderful father. I also have already developed strong feelings for him. Also I'm almost 22 and I feel like time is passing me by. I will be entering grad school at almost 23 (I took time off after high school and I have a fall bday). It won't be long before I'm past my prime and I feel a lot of pressure to find a guy who is marriage material by then. I always read things on the internet about how women are past their prime after 25 and it makes me nervous (also, female fertility starts to decline in the late 20's). I kind of feel he's my last chance...