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Hello,
There's a person in my school I really want to help, yet I feel powerless. This guy isn't a bad person although many would think so after his deeds. He comes to class once every 2-4 weeks. I feel like I'm the only person talking with him, it's just not the normal talk, all I want to do is help him, and create some inspirations and courage in him.
Everytime he comes I try to get something out of him, because feeling a person is one way to understand a person, but knowing as much as you can about a person is the key to feel like the person and understand his life. I know that he lives with his mom, brothers and sisters and his father died. I know that he smoke weed, as he said he smokes a lot of it. He's a nice guy after all. Everytime I try to tell him something about life, school, that he needs to pass every subject. High shool is needed for later job anywhere.
I'm sure he understands all I say in full meanings, and it always keeps only on promises and talks. He takes notes, participate, and after that, he's gone for another 2-4 weeks. It's not hard to guess his grades, 40-40-...
I once asked him, have you ever shown your report card to your mom? He said yeah, and my mom said nothing. Alright so again, he keeps on promises that he's going to come, and do the work, and well he did for some part of the year, but since he has missed about 7/8 of all days, an English teacher, which I also have, told him that he has no chances to pass the class. After that I haven't seen him for 2 months.
And here he came yesterday and the same thing over and over again - only conversation which doesn't change anything. This English teacher is not a cruel person, but she keeps on yelling on people and her attitude toward people like him is bad. Doesn't she understand that such people need help, not punishment? The school is no different than her.
They keep on punishing him, but well it doesn't work! Don't they understand that people like that need help not punishment? that they already have received enough of punishment and now it's time to make changes and help people find their way in life? Do those people have any feelings? I bet they all would wish to receive help from others or wouldn't they? I also think that it's not really him who doesn't want to come to classes, it's just his friends who don't come and so keep him meanwhile. He just needs a good push and courage to get away from such people but how can he receive it?
And so my ask for help is here, Can you give me some ideas and ways to help such a person? How would you help him or what would you do?
Thanks
There's a person in my school I really want to help, yet I feel powerless. This guy isn't a bad person although many would think so after his deeds. He comes to class once every 2-4 weeks. I feel like I'm the only person talking with him, it's just not the normal talk, all I want to do is help him, and create some inspirations and courage in him.
Everytime he comes I try to get something out of him, because feeling a person is one way to understand a person, but knowing as much as you can about a person is the key to feel like the person and understand his life. I know that he lives with his mom, brothers and sisters and his father died. I know that he smoke weed, as he said he smokes a lot of it. He's a nice guy after all. Everytime I try to tell him something about life, school, that he needs to pass every subject. High shool is needed for later job anywhere.
I'm sure he understands all I say in full meanings, and it always keeps only on promises and talks. He takes notes, participate, and after that, he's gone for another 2-4 weeks. It's not hard to guess his grades, 40-40-...
I once asked him, have you ever shown your report card to your mom? He said yeah, and my mom said nothing. Alright so again, he keeps on promises that he's going to come, and do the work, and well he did for some part of the year, but since he has missed about 7/8 of all days, an English teacher, which I also have, told him that he has no chances to pass the class. After that I haven't seen him for 2 months.
And here he came yesterday and the same thing over and over again - only conversation which doesn't change anything. This English teacher is not a cruel person, but she keeps on yelling on people and her attitude toward people like him is bad. Doesn't she understand that such people need help, not punishment? The school is no different than her.
They keep on punishing him, but well it doesn't work! Don't they understand that people like that need help not punishment? that they already have received enough of punishment and now it's time to make changes and help people find their way in life? Do those people have any feelings? I bet they all would wish to receive help from others or wouldn't they? I also think that it's not really him who doesn't want to come to classes, it's just his friends who don't come and so keep him meanwhile. He just needs a good push and courage to get away from such people but how can he receive it?
And so my ask for help is here, Can you give me some ideas and ways to help such a person? How would you help him or what would you do?
Thanks