- #36
leroyjenkens
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Here is the proper door etiquette:
If you're in front and someone is directly behind you, after you go through the doorway, hold the door slightly for them to grab it. Some people will come to a complete stop while holding it. There's different lengths of time which you can stand there holding the door after you've breached the threshold. Some people will stop and hold it for a second or two until the person gets close enough to grab it. I've seen people wait in excess of 3 or 4 seconds holding the door open. That's too long of a wait.
If the person is too far behind you, just let it close. Don't sit there for more than 2 seconds holding the door. How far is too far? It's hard to say. Depending on their velocity, it can vary. If they're too far away for me to hold the door while remaining in motion, then I'll kinda push it further open and hopefully by the time they get to the door, it won't have closed and they can grab it. I know that may appear a little aggressive, but I don't feel comfortable doing a stopping hold. I'm too much of a cool cat to impede my motion.
Now, if you're the person in back, there's a few rules you're supposed to abide by. If the person in front does a moving door hold, and you're almost right behind them, you reach forward and take over while quietly thanking them. Your thanks doesn't have to be very loud or well enunciated. They didn't do you that big of a favor.
If they do a stopping door hold and you're a little bit further behind them, you increase your velocity slightly and reach forward and take the door, as if the door is really heavy and you're relieving them of it. Now, increasing your velocity can be tricky. Don't run or jog or anything ridiculous like that, just act like you're in a slight hurry to relieve this person of the great burden of holding the door. Some people like to slowly walk with a swagger, as if they have nowhere to be and no time limit to be there. If you walk like that and someone does a stopping door hold, you better cut that out, hurry your butt up and grab ahold of that door.
Now if you're worried about how you'll look, speeding up your gait to grab the door, just remember this secret: You don't have to actually speed up, you just have to appear as though you're making an effort to go faster.
If you've noticed people in parking lots, some of them know this secret. You'll stop your car to let them pass in front of you and they'll "speed up" to get out of your way, yet they didn't actually increase their speed at all. They just made it appear like they were moving faster by making themselves appear to be making an effort to cross faster.
And again, thank them, but don't overdo it. Just a slight "thanks" almost under your breath will suffice, just to show you're appreciative of the door hold.
If you're in front and someone is directly behind you, after you go through the doorway, hold the door slightly for them to grab it. Some people will come to a complete stop while holding it. There's different lengths of time which you can stand there holding the door after you've breached the threshold. Some people will stop and hold it for a second or two until the person gets close enough to grab it. I've seen people wait in excess of 3 or 4 seconds holding the door open. That's too long of a wait.
If the person is too far behind you, just let it close. Don't sit there for more than 2 seconds holding the door. How far is too far? It's hard to say. Depending on their velocity, it can vary. If they're too far away for me to hold the door while remaining in motion, then I'll kinda push it further open and hopefully by the time they get to the door, it won't have closed and they can grab it. I know that may appear a little aggressive, but I don't feel comfortable doing a stopping hold. I'm too much of a cool cat to impede my motion.
Now, if you're the person in back, there's a few rules you're supposed to abide by. If the person in front does a moving door hold, and you're almost right behind them, you reach forward and take over while quietly thanking them. Your thanks doesn't have to be very loud or well enunciated. They didn't do you that big of a favor.
If they do a stopping door hold and you're a little bit further behind them, you increase your velocity slightly and reach forward and take the door, as if the door is really heavy and you're relieving them of it. Now, increasing your velocity can be tricky. Don't run or jog or anything ridiculous like that, just act like you're in a slight hurry to relieve this person of the great burden of holding the door. Some people like to slowly walk with a swagger, as if they have nowhere to be and no time limit to be there. If you walk like that and someone does a stopping door hold, you better cut that out, hurry your butt up and grab ahold of that door.
Now if you're worried about how you'll look, speeding up your gait to grab the door, just remember this secret: You don't have to actually speed up, you just have to appear as though you're making an effort to go faster.
If you've noticed people in parking lots, some of them know this secret. You'll stop your car to let them pass in front of you and they'll "speed up" to get out of your way, yet they didn't actually increase their speed at all. They just made it appear like they were moving faster by making themselves appear to be making an effort to cross faster.
And again, thank them, but don't overdo it. Just a slight "thanks" almost under your breath will suffice, just to show you're appreciative of the door hold.