Roy_1981 said:
So what I claimed in the question is correct, first one has to write down the maximally symmetric spatial sections and then add time to the mix.
If you mean, first one has to assume that the spacelike hypersurfaces are maximally symmetric, yes, that is correct, because the theorem requires the submanifolds (which in this case are the spacelike hypersurfaces) to be maximally symmetric. But you don't have to make any other assumption about the particular form of the metric of the spacelike hypersurfaces, beyond maximal symmetry. In particular, you don't have to choose coordinates on the spacelike hypersurfaces that let you write their metric in the specific form you gave in the OP.
Roy_1981 said:
it relegates the ability to drop "dt dr" terms to some powerful theorem without making it obvious how/why
Well, then, there is no proof that meets your requirements for being "obvious". Sorry.
Roy_1981 said:
let's say I put in a dt dr term. Is there a coordinate transformation I can do to redefine the time variable, t, in a way which does not affect/touch the spatial at all other than just getting rid of the dt dr term
There must be a transformation that gets rid of the dt dr term, by the theorem. But if you mean, does the theorem explicitly tell you how to construct such a coordinate transformation, I don't think it does. But I am not familiar with the detailed proof of the theorem, so I don't know for sure.
Also, there is no guarantee that such a transformation will leave the spatial part of the metric unchanged, nor would it need to. See below.
Roy_1981 said:
If I write down such a redefinition of t, say t →t'=t'(t,r), then I can indeed set gtr=0, but the coefficient of dr2 term gets changed :( and the spatial sections do not look maximally symmetric form anymore!
You are missing two crucial points.
First, by "look maximally symmetric", you appear to mean "look like the spatial metric in the OP". But the way you wrote the spatial metric in the OP is not the only way to write the metric for a maximally symmetric 3-surface.
Second, if there is a dt dr term in the metric, then the spacelike hypersurfaces of constant ##T## in such a coordinate chart (I'm capitalizing ##T## here to make it clear that it's a different coordinate) will
not be the same as the hypersurfaces of constant ##t## in standard FRW coordinates. Which means the hypersurfaces of constant ##T## in such a chart will
not be maximally symmetric, since only the hypersurfaces of constant ##t## in standard FRW coordinates are.
In other words, you can't just wave your hands and say "put a dt dr term in the metric" and change nothing else. You have to actually look at how such a choice of coordinates would describe the spacetime geometry.