When a particle accelerates, it's "longitudinal mass" increases by a factor of \gamma^3, see for instantce Doc Al's post
https://www.physicsforums.com/showpost.php?p=687759&postcount=71
or scrutinize the addendum to the sci.physics.faq
http://math.ucr.edu/home/baez/physics/Relativity/SR/mass.html
or just differentiatie the expression
p = m v / sqrt(1-(v/c)^2)
with respect to v.
Perpendicular to it's direction of motion, the "transverse mass" increases by a factor of gamma (same two references).
The gravitational field of a moving mass is not the same in all directions. It experiences a large increase when the motion is transverse, and no change when the motion is directly towards or away from the source.
I've done some calculations on the tidal force of a moving mass, which is easier to define in the strong field case. You can't measure the gravitational field of a moving object directly without an external reference frame to define what a "straight line" is, making the calculation a bit ambiguous, but you can measure the tidal force an object experiences directly with no ambiguity.
Early versions of this caclulation were flawed, but I think I'm getting the right answer this go-around. I've actually had this result for a while, but have been too busy to post it (also I thought I'd just wait until the question came up again, this is a question that comes up all the time).
The results in Schwarzschild coordinates are
For an unmoving mass, and in Schwarzschild coordinates, the tidal forces are
in the \hat{r} direction 2m/r^3
in the \hat{\theta} direction -m/r^3
in the \hat{\phi} direction -m/r^3
For a mass moving directly towards or away from the source (i.e in the \hat{r} direction), there is no change in tidal force. (This is documented in MTW's gravitation, for instance, I can find the page # if anyone is interested).
For a mass moving at right angles to the source (i.e. in the \hat{\theta} direction), the tidal forces become
in the \hat{r} direction (2m/r^3)*(1+v^2/2)/(1-v^2)
in the \hat{\theta} direction -m/r^3 - no change!
in the \hat{\phi} direction -(m/r^3)*(1+2*v^2)/(1-v^2)
Note that geometric units were used for the above caclulations, so factors of G and c have been replaced with '1'.
These results haven't been checked by another person yet, and there isn't any textbook reference for them that I've been able to find (except the MTW reference about how the tidal forces do not change when you move directly towards the source).
The good news is that the trace (sum of the digaonals, i.e. the three formula above) is zero, which is what one expects. The fact that the 'r' and 'phi' components behave differently is not surprising because Schwarzschild coordinates are not isotropic.
A rough outline of the calculation: calculate the Riemann tensor in the Schwarzschild basis (or in Schwarzschild coordinates and normalize the metric so that the basis vectors are all the same length), boost the Riemann by the velocity, and calculate the tidal forces via the geodesic deviation equation.
[sidenote: there is an induced rotation relative to the fixed stars due to the passage of a large mass, quite analogous to geodetic precession, but the centrifugal forces due to this induced rotation do not contribute to the geodesic deviation.]
One of these days I want to do a similar analysis with the energy pseudotensors, which will answer the original question a bit more directly. This should be a "gauss-law" sort of intergal of the "force-at-infinity" over a sphere. MTW's coverage of this is a bit murky, however.