DaveC426913 said:
You're dancing around the issue!
I am not dancing around the issue, I am just providing an equivalent alternative picture. Often one approach may not work for a particular individual and another will. The OP asked some follow-up questions which I answered, he will either decide the explanation doesn't work or he will continue to ask questions until he understands.
DaveC426913 said:
So, how would you describe an object falling toward Earth without hand-waving it as a fictitious force? That doesn't explain what causes the movement. It's a cop out.
It is not a cop out, it is a perfectly legitimate approach. It is completely equivalent to what you are saying. I don't know why you would say something like this, as though I am doing something dishonest in my reply.
If I wanted to avoid handwaving then I would associate the fictitious forces with the Christoffel symbols, as is usually done when you want to be rigorous. Then I would demonstrate how Christoffel symbols are zero in regular inertial reference frames in flat spacetime and non-zero in non-inertial reference frames even in flat spacetime. Then I would describe how in curved spacetime you can find a coordinate system where the Christoffel symbols are 0 at any given event in spacetime (local inertial frames), but not globally. In a local inertial frame there are no fictitious forces, and objects move only under the effect of real forces, but you can only do that locally. Globally in curved spacetime you will have to use non-inertial coordinates which mean non-zero Christoffel symbols and non-zero fictitious forces. In the weak field limit these fictitious forces are equal to the Newtonian force of gravity plus any Newtonian fictitious forces.
I would rather wave my hands at this point because I didn't get the impression that the OP was ready for a discussion about Christoffel symbols.
DaveC426913 said:
Why would the Earth accelerate upwards?
Remember, you can only do the inertial reference frame locally in curved spacetime, so it is not the whole Earth accelerating upwards, but just the small patch of the surface of the Earth in the local inertial reference frame, as I said above.
It accelerates upwards because there is a normal force pushing up on it from below which (in the local inertial frame) is not balanced out by other force. Therefore, it accelerates according to Newton's 2nd law.