lisab said:
For example, see if you can get extra vacation time. Or, get them agree to provide training in some skill you'd like to learn.
I've found it almost impossible to get a company to commit to extra vacation time in writing. The problem is that if they give you more or less money, no one else in the company will know, but if you have extra vacation time in writing, then everyone will know and then demand that also.
However, I've been in places where people were able to take extra vacation time "informally." What would happen is that no one really kept track of vacation so that if you wanted an extra few days off, you'd just ask the boss nicely and they were rather flexible about this. However, it worked the other way. If the boss needed for you to work on the weekends, he or she'd ask you nicely, and you'd be expected to be rather flexible about this.
But you couldn't negotiate this straight up.
The other thing is that it makes a very big difference if you are dealing with a small company or a big company. If you are dealing with a small start-up of 20 people, then you can talk to the CEO of the company and get anything flexible done. If you are dealing with a 200,000 person company, then everything is set up with extremely rigid rules, and the person you are talking with can't change it, and might hate the rules as much as you do. The hiring manager generally can't offer more money even if they wanted to, since salary is set by HR, and HR isn't going to make an exception for you since you are just one of 500 new hires.
Finally, never forget that you are in a semi-adversarial relationship with your employer. Your employer's goal is to squeeze as much work out of you as they can get away with and pay you as little as they can get away with. The only real recourse you have is if someone else is willing to give you a better offer, which poses a major problem if that's the only thing on the table. With a big company,