Are Men on OKCupid Desperate for Attention?

[lisab]

You pick women up in restaurants? How does that work?

Pick up line: "Hi...you going to eat that?"

 

[Astronuc]

You pick women up in restaurants? How does that work?

I don't think I ever 'picked up' a woman. I usually met them in class or on campus, and invited them out.

When I went to a bar, I went to drink with mates. And on campus, I usually wore shorts, T-shirt and went barefoot. Not exactly designed to attract women, although I did meet some nice women.

What I meant was that I would go to a bar to meet women.

One of my memories from university was meeting a group of women I knew from class or around campus. All three were sitting on the steps outside the bar when I was leaving. All three were quite attractive and quite popular. They were sitting there complaining about the poor quality of mean who approached, and they were wondering where to go for the evening.

Or a first date could be a park, museum (which is interesting and quiet), a zoo (if it's not too crowded), botanical garden, beach, or some other place of interest.

 

[rhody]

Hi micromass.

Very good Jimmy. Can we start calling you Shallow Jimmy now ?

Rhody...

 

[Astronuc]

Easy.

When the guy goes to use the restroom, you handcuff him to the toilet and depants him. He'll spend at least 60 minutes or so trying McGyver-like solutions before he admits he's going to have to ask for help, no matter how embarrassing his situation is.

That gives you 60 minutes to console the poor woman who's date decided to play dine and dash, leaving her stuck with the check. You simply have the waitress combine his meal and her and her date's meal on one check and then strike up a conversation. Given that one man has just left her stuck with a check, she'll at least carry the possibility of getting stuck for an even more expensive check in the back of her mind and will be a little more receptive and friendly to your advances, at least until the check is paid.

So you've got about 60 minutes to sell yourself before deciding whether to take her home or not (and before deciding whether to pay the check or not).

That's an interesting approach.

Or wait until the couple is leaving, and then pick her up.

I wouldn't do that.

 

[jtbell]

"My favorite food is roast uniform cow of spherical density,"

Spherical density? If I saw that, I'd probably think, "probably a sloshed physics major."

 

[Galteeth]

Try the experiment again, but clarify that you're a fundamentalist christian who doesn't believe in sex before marriage, or for any other purpose then reproduction.

 

[HeLiXe]

Easy.

When the guy goes to use the restroom, you handcuff him to the toilet and depants him. He'll spend at least 60 minutes or so trying McGyver-like solutions before he admits he's going to have to ask for help, no matter how embarrassing his situation is.

That gives you 60 minutes to console the poor woman who's date decided to play dine and dash, leaving her stuck with the check. You simply have the waitress combine his meal and her and her date's meal on one check and then strike up a conversation. Given that one man has just left her stuck with a check, she'll at least carry the possibility of getting stuck for an even more expensive check in the back of her mind and will be a little more receptive and friendly to your advances, at least until the check is paid.

So you've got about 60 minutes to sell yourself before deciding whether to take her home or not (and before deciding whether to pay the check or not).

OMG
You scare me sometimes BobG

 

[micromass]

What about this message

People call me Dave, but you can call me tonight!​

Seriously? Does such a line ever work?? I'm losing my faith in humanity here

 

[lisab]

What about this message

People call me Dave, but you can call me tonight!​

Seriously? Does such a line ever work?? I'm losing my faith in humanity here

Good lord, what a horrible pick up line!

 

[Astronuc]

What about this message

People call me Dave, but you can call me tonight!​

Seriously? Does such a line ever work?? I'm losing my faith in humanity here

Or slightly less than one-half of it.

 

[Drakkith]

What about this message

People call me Dave, but you can call me tonight!​

Seriously? Does such a line ever work?? I'm losing my faith in humanity here

It can. Many women like that the man is approaching them even it is a terrible pickup line. It isn't about WHAT you say, but how you say it and your attitude that matters.

The issue here is that any time you approach a total stranger you are going to judge them based on criteria that is known at the time. Looks and perceived status. It is normal and natural for that to happen.

Also, have you considered that some men may be giving women the benefit of the doubt if you will? It's possible the girl has a great personality in real life, and her profile could be joking, you could be misunderstanding it, and etc. Some people don't really care as long as the other person makes them happy. I know that I really don't care if the girl thinks the Galaxy is on Orions Belt if I like her and she makes good decisions in life in general. As long as we get along and all that you know.

 

[daveb]

You also have to remember it's a numbers game. All a man needs is one female to positively respond to his inane pick-up line, and it is therefore successful (in his eyes). I know someone that would go up to random women in bars and directly ask them if they wanted to have sex - by asking literally dozens of women, every now and then one wouild say yes.

 

[qspeechc]

Or a first date could be a [..] museum [...] botanical garden

Not if you want to see her again.

 

[Topher925]

What about this message

People call me Dave, but you can call me tonight!​

Seriously? Does such a line ever work?? I'm losing my faith in humanity here

HA! I'm adding that one to my book. The whole sub-par human being thing goes both ways though. I'd say 98% of the girls on OKC are dumb bimbos and are also teenage mothers with multiple children or are morbidly obese.

 

[khemist]

Are you guys actually surprised?

It is the internet...

 

[HeLiXe]

Are you guys actually surprised?

It is the internet...

It is the same off the internets unfortunately -_-

 

[Pengwuino]

The whole sub-par human being thing goes both ways though. I'd say 98% of the girls on OKC are dumb bimbos and are also teenage mothers with multiple children or are morbidly obese.

Actually, I live near san francisco, and it seems like there are a TON of eligible females over there (mainly at Berkeley). I hate living 150 miles away :(. The crazy thing is that I'm seeing tons of people who aren't... you know, "berkeley people". They're normal! Then again, OKC probably filters the weirdos.

I need to move.

Where I live, yah, it's girls who are clearly dumb, single mothers, or morbidly obese.

Honestly, it's almost a turn off in my eyes if a girl can STAND okcupid. Clearly their instincts to run away from horrible people and horrible situations is malfunctioning.

 

[Astronuc]

Not if you want to see her again.

Actually, I encountered a very attractive woman at a museum, and I probably could have gotten a date.

I first met my wife at a park with an outdoor theatre, and I was wearing shorts, t-shirt and was barefoot. A close friend and I played frisbee, then joined a group of women for grapes, wine and cheese, and crackers. I was pretty hot and sweaty from running around. We then went back to my friend's place for dinner (my wife (then a stranger) was best friends with his girlfriend). I probably took a shower and changed into clean clothes before dinner.

My wife and I encountered each other at my friend's place on several occasions periodically for about 6 months (weekends or holidays), since I lived 90 miles away. We started dating 6 months after we met, then got engaged 3 months later, and we've been together for 30+ years.

When I first met her, my wife told me she'd given up on men, was never getting married, and definitely not having children. I kind of changed her perspective.

 

[Evo]

Actually, I live near san francisco, and it seems like there are a TON of eligible females over there (mainly at Berkeley). I hate living 150 miles away :(. The crazy thing is that I'm seeing tons of people who aren't... you know, "berkeley people". They're normal! Then again, OKC probably filters the weirdos.

I need to move.

Where I live, yah, it's girls who are clearly dumb, single mothers, or morbidly obese.

Honestly, it's almost a turn off in my eyes if a girl can STAND okcupid. Clearly their instincts to run away from horrible people and horrible situations is malfunctioning.

Ooh, pengwuino, change your OKC location to a zip code in the Atlanta area where you plan to live and see what comes up.

 

[Pengwuino]

Ooh, pengwuino, change your OKC location to a zip code in the Atlanta area where you plan to live and see what comes up.

Oh I've already looked around ;)

Let's just say maybe I should try to not have a roommate ;)

 

[HeLiXe]

lol penguwino...I thought it was only the guys. When I first went there I thought, "this would be the perfect place to practice celibacy."

 

[TheStatutoryApe]

Males are generally expected to be the ones to go after the females. Aggressive females are relatively rare and considering that they will still have plenty of males coming after them anyway they are quite capable of being choosy over whom they go after. Even then more aggressive females still tend to just try getting a males attention in hopes of the male chasing them, its exceptionally rare that a female will actually chase after males and they quite frequently are looked down upon for it.

There is a quite aggressive woman that goes to the bar I frequent every now and then. When ever I see her there she has a different guy with her who she will leave by themselves while she goes around flirting with, and sometimes kissing, what ever random guys in the bar she thinks are cute. She is a fairly attractive woman, kinda skinny but most men like that anyway, and none of the men ever give her the cold shoulder if she flirts with them or kisses them but they will always speak badly about her when she isn't there to hear it. The women of course certainly haven't anything better to say about her. In contrast one of the male regulars there that I have made friends with constantly hits on just about any woman in the bar and says fairly crass things about them but people just think he is a bit too overbearing, they rarely actually say anything bad about him and mostly make a joke of it. Many of the women he hits on actually enjoy the attention and will give him their phone numbers and he isn't even an attractive guy.

Oh yes. As far as the internet goes it is quite well known that females get an inordinate amount of attention. Just about every single female gamer I have talked to says that they get hit on continuously when they play games online. Some of them specifically use neuter or masculine handles for that reason. Some of them even form all female gaming groups specifically to avoid dealing with men online all together. I think even a lot of women on PF have complained of men here messaging and flirting with them frequently. LoseYourName said when he used a picture of a female for his avatar he got hit on all the time.

 

[Pengwuino]

Oh yes. As far as the internet goes it is quite well known that females get an inordinate amount of attention. Just about every single female gamer I have talked to says that they get hit on continuously when they play games online. Some of them specifically use neuter or masculine handles for that reason. Some of them even form all female gaming groups specifically to avoid dealing with men online all together. I think even a lot of women on PF have complained of men here messaging and flirting with them frequently. LoseYourName said when he used a picture of a female for his avatar he got hit on all the time.

... getting hit on on a physics forum?

Ok ok, I asked evo to marry me, but who hasn't?

OH, You know what may or may not be an awful idea? A dating site where you could publicly rank other people! I think people would be a LOT less douchey if they knew a girl could give them a 0/10 rating because they went "YO. U want sex?" in their message.

 

[FlexGunship]

Ok ok, I asked evo to marry me, but who hasn't?

Well, until recently, I hadn't.

PM sent.

 

[HeLiXe]

Well, until recently, I hadn't.

PM sent.

Neither have I, but I forget which state would allow it :)

 

[Pengwuino]

I'm totally making my new dating site where we can rate people, muahahaha.

 

[256bits]

I'm totally making my new dating site where we can rate people, muahahaha.

Here is a rating site:
http://cheaterville.com/

And all the dumped ones are available.

 

[rootX]

Here is a rating site:
http://cheaterville.com/

And all the dumped ones are available.

 

[Topher925]

Here is a rating site:
http://cheaterville.com/

And all the dumped ones are available.

Sweet! Chicks looking for an easy rebound!

 

[mcknia07]

Most guys are just pigs. They are after one thing lol I know way too many like that too