Are Men on OKCupid Desperate for Attention?

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The discussion centers around the perceived lack of depth in male responses on dating platforms like OKCupid. A user created a fake female profile with intentionally shallow content to test whether men would engage more readily than women. The results showed a significant influx of messages from men, often consisting of simplistic greetings or overtly sexual comments, leading to the conclusion that many men prioritize physical appearance over personality. Participants noted that online dating often reflects a numbers game, where individuals must sift through numerous unmeaningful interactions to find genuine connections. There is a consensus that both genders exhibit shallow behavior in online dating, with many users, regardless of gender, failing to engage meaningfully with profiles. The conversation also touched on the broader implications of dating culture, suggesting that societal expectations and the nature of online interactions contribute to these dynamics. Overall, the thread highlights frustrations with the quality of engagement in online dating, questioning the motivations behind many users' approaches.
  • #51


lol penguwino...I thought it was only the guys. When I first went there I thought, "this would be the perfect place to practice celibacy." :biggrin:
 
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  • #52


Males are generally expected to be the ones to go after the females. Aggressive females are relatively rare and considering that they will still have plenty of males coming after them anyway they are quite capable of being choosy over whom they go after. Even then more aggressive females still tend to just try getting a males attention in hopes of the male chasing them, its exceptionally rare that a female will actually chase after males and they quite frequently are looked down upon for it.

There is a quite aggressive woman that goes to the bar I frequent every now and then. When ever I see her there she has a different guy with her who she will leave by themselves while she goes around flirting with, and sometimes kissing, what ever random guys in the bar she thinks are cute. She is a fairly attractive woman, kinda skinny but most men like that anyway, and none of the men ever give her the cold shoulder if she flirts with them or kisses them but they will always speak badly about her when she isn't there to hear it. The women of course certainly haven't anything better to say about her. In contrast one of the male regulars there that I have made friends with constantly hits on just about any woman in the bar and says fairly crass things about them but people just think he is a bit too overbearing, they rarely actually say anything bad about him and mostly make a joke of it. Many of the women he hits on actually enjoy the attention and will give him their phone numbers and he isn't even an attractive guy.

Oh yes. As far as the internet goes it is quite well known that females get an inordinate amount of attention. Just about every single female gamer I have talked to says that they get hit on continuously when they play games online. Some of them specifically use neuter or masculine handles for that reason. Some of them even form all female gaming groups specifically to avoid dealing with men online all together. I think even a lot of women on PF have complained of men here messaging and flirting with them frequently. LoseYourName said when he used a picture of a female for his avatar he got hit on all the time.
 
  • #53


TheStatutoryApe said:
Oh yes. As far as the internet goes it is quite well known that females get an inordinate amount of attention. Just about every single female gamer I have talked to says that they get hit on continuously when they play games online. Some of them specifically use neuter or masculine handles for that reason. Some of them even form all female gaming groups specifically to avoid dealing with men online all together. I think even a lot of women on PF have complained of men here messaging and flirting with them frequently. LoseYourName said when he used a picture of a female for his avatar he got hit on all the time.

... getting hit on on a physics forum?

Ok ok, I asked evo to marry me, but who hasn't?

OH, You know what may or may not be an awful idea? A dating site where you could publicly rank other people! I think people would be a LOT less douchey if they knew a girl could give them a 0/10 rating because they went "YO. U want sex?" in their message.
 
  • #54


Pengwuino said:
Ok ok, I asked evo to marry me, but who hasn't?

Well, until recently, I hadn't.

PM sent.
 
  • #55


FlexGunship said:
Well, until recently, I hadn't.

PM sent.

Neither have I, but I forget which state would allow it :)
 
  • #56


I'm totally making my new dating site where we can rate people, muahahaha.
 
  • #57


Pengwuino said:
I'm totally making my new dating site where we can rate people, muahahaha.

Here is a rating site:
http://cheaterville.com/

And all the dumped ones are available.
 
  • #58
  • #59


256bits said:
Here is a rating site:
http://cheaterville.com/

And all the dumped ones are available.

Sweet! Chicks looking for an easy rebound!
 
  • #60


Most guys are just pigs. They are after one thing lol I know way too many like that too
 
  • #61


mcknia07 said:
Most guys are just pigs. They are after one thing lol I know way too many like that too
And the guys in real life (vs Internet) are different how?

Some of the best friends that I have had in my life were women. And I mean friends. If you are a man and you don't have a single go-to friend that is a woman, you should ask yourself why.

I stopped playing music in bars ~10 years ago due to health problems, and when my wife goes shopping or otherwise gets out into the public in this region, she bumps into women that want to know how I'm doing, and want to send me their wishes. I'm not handsome, or charming, or somehow "irresistible". Just a musician trying to earn extra money on weekends, and I always tried to be polite and accommodating to the customers. BTW, many of the ladies would sit with my wife, if she was in attendance, and buy her drinks. Some men may be pathetic, but in my experience, some women can be loyal, long-term.
 
  • #62


Pick a number between 1 n 10 (3) sorry you lost, you'll have to take off all your clothes

If you were my homework I'd be doing you rite now all over my desk!

Are those trousers made out of Space Shuttle tiles because your *** is out of this world!

Wanna play Pearl Harbor? That's where I lay down and you blow the hell out of me.

How about you sit on my lap and we'll talk about the first thing that pops up?
 
  • #63


An adequate barf emoticon is really needed here
 
  • #64


:-c~

or

vomiting.gif



eh? :biggrin:
 
  • #65


mcknia07 said:
Most guys are just pigs. They are after one thing lol I know way too many like that too

Mud? Slop? :confused:

How could you say they're after one thing and not tell us what it is?! :cry:
 
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  • #66


Dembadon said:
:-c~

or

vomiting.gif



eh? :biggrin:

Niiiice :biggrin: I like the colors. And I have never seen this one before :-c~ LOL
 
  • #67


HeLiXe said:
An adequate barf emoticon is really needed here

[PLAIN]http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2007/01/i-barfd.jpg
 
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  • #68


:smile::smile::smile:
 
  • #69


mcknia07 said:
Most guys are just pigs. They are after one thing lol I know way too many like that too

Don't blame guys for being the way nature made them. I don't blame women for being emotional wrecks. (As many guys would claim) In general men and women think very differently, react to situations very differently, and have different ways to get to the same goals in life.

If you are a man and you don't have a single go-to friend that is a woman, you should ask yourself why.

I have one, but I'm beginning to hate visiting her because she spends a significant portion of the time complaining about her life and doesn't seem very inclined to want to change things. Other than that I don't have anyone because I don't meet people very often. That plus the fact that most women don't have the same hobbies or mindset or views that I do, so I don't really have much to talk about.
 
  • #70


Drakkith said:
I have one, but I'm beginning to hate visiting her because she spends a significant portion of the time complaining about her life and doesn't seem very inclined to want to change things. Other than that I don't have anyone because I don't meet people very often. That plus the fact that most women don't have the same hobbies or mindset or views that I do, so I don't really have much to talk about.

Ditch that friend. They only get worse and worse. I have a friend and all they do is complain complain complain and what do they do about it? Nothing. People are like that.

The thing is, there ARE women with the same hobbies and views that you have. You're probably just not looking hard enough or in the right places. In all honesty, the signal to noise ratio for good guys/girls is so low that anywhere you look there's going to be poor quality.

As much as I hate to say it, on-line dating isn't a bad idea.
 
  • #71


Pengwuino said:
Ditch that friend. They only get worse and worse. I have a friend and all they do is complain complain complain and what do they do about it? Nothing. People are like that.

The thing is, there ARE women with the same hobbies and views that you have. You're probably just not looking hard enough or in the right places. In all honesty, the signal to noise ratio for good guys/girls is so low that anywhere you look there's going to be poor quality.

As much as I hate to say it, on-line dating isn't a bad idea.

Lol that's where I met her in the first place. One of the biggest things about her that makes me want to punch a kitten is that she believes in this rigid caste like system where people only want to date the people above themselves. And since she sees herself near the bottom she firmly believes that she could never have anyone decent. They are simply "too good" for her. :mad::devil::cry::eek:

I'm so close to just blowing up on her and telling her to never contact me again unless she changes.
 
  • #72


Are people not meant to stick by their friends through thick and thin?
 
  • #73


Andy said:
Are people not meant to stick by their friends through thick and thin?

Theres's a difference between 'thick and thin' and just being whiny individuals.
 
  • #74


Andy said:
Are people not meant to stick by their friends through thick and thin?

Of course. But that refers to the occasional problems that crop in life, not to constant complaining, whining, inability to help yourself, ETC. There comes a time when you don't want them to be your friend.
 
  • #75


mcknia07 said:
They are after one thing
In my case it was knowledge - and still is for the most part. And then there is the matter of applying one's knowledge.

Along the way, I've some nice folk and made friends.
 
  • #76


Astronuc said:
In my case it was knowledge - and still is for the most part. And then there is the matter of applying one's knowledge.

Along the way, I've some nice folk and made friends.

In my case, I'm just looking to meet new people! And interesting people to boot! The problem with most people, it seems, is that they're all so similar. How many guys do we all know who summarize themselves as "I like music, going to the gym, drinking, and playing video games" and girls who summarize themselves as "I like music, going to the movies, drinking, and going to the beach". Being in a small science department for 7 years of your life knowing pretty much the same people for years and years makes you appreciate getting to know new people. It also makes you realize how uninteresting certain people are and how great it is to meet someone interested in something you've never heard of.

Boring people are boring :)
 
  • #77


Pengwuino said:
How many guys do we all know who summarize themselves as "I like music, going to the gym, drinking, and playing video games" and girls who summarize themselves as "I like music, going to the movies, drinking, and going to the beach".
:smile: Somehow they deserve each other. Ken and Barbie. :biggrin:

I like meeting interesting people too.


In university, I was too unsettled. I dated, but basically maintained platonic relationships. My lifestyle was such that I had to go solo.
 
  • #78


Astronuc said:
:smile: Somehow they deserve each other. Ken and Barbie. :biggrin:

Ken and Barbie were brother and sister, lol.
 
  • #79


Is OKCupid the place to know interesting people? So pathetic! :biggrin:
 
  • #80


drizzle said:
Is OKCupid the place to know interesting people? So pathetic! :biggrin:

Hey, all the interesting people are on OKCupid! (and Peng is on there too!)
 
  • #81


I know, I just send'm a hai message. :biggrin:Ops, that was his PF profile...
 
  • #82


mcknia07 said:
Ken and Barbie were brother and sister, lol.
Um - last I heard - Ken (Ken Carson) was a Mattel toy doll introduced by Mattel in 1961 as the fictional boyfriend of toy doll Barbie introduced in 1959. Of course, kids could modify the relationship.
 
  • #83


drizzle said:
Is OKCupid the place to know interesting people? So pathetic! :biggrin:
A certain kind of interesting people. :rolleyes:
 
  • #84


drizzle said:
Is OKCupid the place to know interesting people? So pathetic! :biggrin:
Actually OKC has many fascinating members. I've met famous authors, professors, highly cited scientists, a famous diplomat, it's really amazing, you just need to sift through the garbage, just like in the real world.
 
  • #85


Evo said:
Actually OKC has many fascinating members. I've met famous authors, professors, highly cited scientists, a famous diplomat, it's really amazing, you just need to sift through the garbage, just like in the real world.

Are you on the same OKC as me? I want to meet such a people too
 
  • #86


micromass said:
Are you on the same OKC as me? I want to meet such a people too
Evo is on the platinum-standard OKC. If she shows you the secret handshake, she'll be "silenced" if you know what I mean.
 
  • #87


haha Micro! Thats exactly how I felt! loads of weirdo guys being slimey on dating sites!
 
  • #88


Of course we are that shallow. Our primary directive is to have sexual relations. All data found contrary to said directive are to be ignored and discarded. I may actually be a robot.
 
  • #89


nucleargirl said:
haha Micro! Thats exactly how I felt! loads of weirdo guys being slimey on dating sites!

And in person -_- Some random guy once asked me if he could smell my hair LOL so strange. I was in the grocery store and not even in the shampoo aisle :-p
 
  • #90


HeLiXe said:
And in person -_- Some random guy once asked me if he could smell my hair LOL so strange. I was in the grocery store and not even in the shampoo aisle :-p

Hmmm, you seem to attract weirdo's... :biggrin:
 
  • #91


yes I do! LOL I keep trying to figure out what it is about me that attracts them...I need to fix it. I really don't know what it is...even my sister is beautiful and a model and this type of stuff never happens to her. Well...she does get the random guy asking her to marry him every now and then.
 
  • #92


HeLiXe said:
yes I do! LOL I keep trying to figure out what it is about me that attracts them...I need to fix it. I really don't know what it is...even my sister is beautiful and a model and this type of stuff never happens to her. Well...she does get the random guy asking her to marry him every now and then.

weirdo-mode-successful.jpg
 
  • #93


:smile:
 
  • #94


Maybe you should tell those weirdo's that you study physics and that your favorite pass-time is to calculate the Lagrangian of a double pendulum.
I'm sure 99% will back off then. :biggrin:
 
  • #95


micromass said:
Maybe you should tell those weirdo's that you study physics and that your favorite pass-time is to calculate the Lagrangian of a double pendulum.
I'm sure 99% will back off then. :biggrin:

:!)
 
  • #96


well I try not to talk to them ... >_> I will usually answer their question but not encourage more conversation...Like I told that guy no and walked away even though he was still talking. In the past I tried to say weird things to freak them out...but you really cannot weird out a weirdo -_-
 
  • #97


I like Serena said:
:!)

yes I just looked it up on wiki, it is really very beautiful. Can't do that yet tho, I have an ID10T problem going on :D
 
  • #98


HeLiXe said:
but you really cannot weird out a weirdo -_-

I apologize! :biggrin:
 
  • #99


I like Serena said:
I apologize! :biggrin:

Hmmmm...are you an undercover weirdo ILS?:-p
 
  • #100


HeLiXe said:
Hmmmm...are you an undercover weirdo ILS?:-p

Uhh... :rolleyes:

Yes?
 

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