Gravities weakness...i think it does need explaining yes. Why is it so weak?
"Why" is tricky to answer - can you provide an example of what sort of answer would work?
It kind-of implies that gravity could be otherwise than it is but for some sort of constraint ... I think standard cosmology pretty much has gravity separate off quite early so it's strength would be set by the symmetry of the early Universe.
Is the gravity we experience mearly leakage from another dimension?
That's the kind of leading question you get in infomercials: "could it be that the Enerwave
(TM) sets up a resonating force field that energizes your entire core to strengthen and balance your whole being?..."
... you can string words together and make all kinds of cool-sounding sentences but it is much more helpful if it means something.
eg. are universes a kind of container that gravity fills like water in a plastic bag?
If gravity is weak because we are just getting the leakage - then doesn't that beg the question of why the strong nuclear force is so strong?
However you reply, the original question just turns into why gravity leaks so much and other forces less so and you are back to where you started!
Occams razor will have us get rid of the multi-universe thing in that case.
Another question i have is...if gravity doesn't have the strength to hold galaxies together and dark matter is the scaffolding for the galactic web... why is this not in the standard model...apologies if this is a stupid question
The standard model is for particle physics - small scale - and does not handle gravity.
There are proposals for how gravity may fit into the standard model, but none have been verified.