Being terrible at FBDs does not mean that you cannot do something to stop from "being terrible". Here is a tep-by-step recipe that I have used in my classes. It will see you through as long as you perform each step in order without omitting any step or doing things in your head. I have attached figures next to each step t show how the FBD develops. The method works best if you use symbols instead of numbers.
View attachment 3516191. Identify the system and draw it.
The system is the mass ##m_1=3~## kg at the bottom of the trajectory.
2. Identify all the pieces of the Universe that interact with the system and count them.
The pieces that interact with ##m_1## are the Earth that attracts it and the rod that is attached to it. This makes a total of two pieces.
View attachment 3516213. Draw one and only one arrow representing the force exerted by each of the items in (2). Label each arrow unambiguously.
See figure on right. The Earth exerts force ##m_1g## that is always down. The force exerted from the rod must be in a direction along the rod, i.e. vertical. It cannot be up because if it were, the mass will accelerate vertically down and not go around in a circle.
4. Choose a convenient coordinate system and draw it. Enclose your system, axes and forces in a View attachment 351623box with dotted lines.
Positive direction is up as indicated by the arrow labeled ##y##.
View attachment 3516245. Declare the acceleration. Draw an arrow outside the box indicating the direction of the acceleration. If you have chosen the coordinate axes wisely, the acceleration will be along one of the principal axes (x or y). Label the arrow "m"a, where "m" is the symbol you used for the mass in (1).
Mass ##m_1## is going around in a circle. Since all the force vectors in the diagram are along the vertical, the acceleration can only be along the vertical, up or down. Now the mass is going around in a circle centered directly above ##m_1##. The acceleration is centripetal (towards the center), hence its direction is up.
6. Add all the forces vectorially to obtain the net force, the left side in Newton's second law. Check that the vector sum of the arrows inside the dotted line gives a resultant vector in the direction of the "mass times acceleration" vector that you drew outside the dotted line in (5).
Anything up is positive and anything down is negative, so $$F_{\text{net}}=F_{\text{rod}}-m_1g.$$
7. Set the net force vector equal to the mass times acceleration vector outside the FBD. Solve for what you are asked to find.
$$F_{\text{net}}=F_{\text{rod}}-m_1g=m_1a$$ Since the acceleration is centripetal, $$F_{\text{rod}}-m_1g=m_1v^2/(L/2).$$ You have the speed ##v## from a previous part, you need to solve the force exerted by the rod on the mass. The force exerted by the mass on the rod has the same magnitude and opposite direction to that.
If you are serious about improving your free body diagram skills, apply this step-by-step method to find the force exerted by the other mass on the rod and consider using it in the future.