shrumeo said:
Thanks for the replies. They all help.
They have made my concept of this less muddy, but I guess I need to ask a follow up.
So, although the two objects are stationary (wrt to each other) in space, they gravitate toward each other "because" time is passing? Can I say that?
Yes, though you may get some questions about why this is true. The detailed explanation needs some math, unfortunately - calculus to be specific. Also, it would be better if you identified one of the pair of masses as being large, distorting space-time, and the other mass as being small, a "test mass".
If we consider a small test-mass that is stationary in some coordinate system in curved space-time, with coordinates x^0=t,x^1=x,x^2=y,x^3=z the force that must be acting on it to hold it stationary is given by the geodesic equation
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\frac{d^2 x^i}{d \tau^2} + \Gamma^i{}_{jk} \left({\frac{dx^j}{d\tau}\right) \left( \frac{dx^k}{d\tau} \right) = F/m<br />
where F is the force, and m is the mass of the object. The \Gamma values are numbers which represent the Christoffel symbols of the curved or distorted space-time. This curvature or distortion is presumably caused by the larger mass, though there can in general be other causes such as the choice of a non-inertial coordinate system.
You can look up Christoffel symbols on the www, but their exact defintion is somewhat technical, just think of them as quantities that are all zero in normal flat space-time in an inertial coordinate system, and non-zero in distorted or non-inertial space-times.
Because the object is stationary, most of the terms in this equation will be zero, because dx^1/d\tau=dx^2/d\tau=dx^3/d\tau=0
The time derivative terms dx^0/d\tau represent "motion through time", and can be regarded as the "cause" of the force on the object due to the curvature of space-time, a force (like gravity) that must be balanced by an external force in order for the object to remain stationary. There will be a force in the x^i direction if and only if \Gamma^i{}_{00} is non-zero.
Is the passage of time "why" nothing with mass can be "stationary" in space?
I wouldn't say this - it is possible for something with mass to be stationary in space (with repsect to some coordinate system), though it may require an external force. So I don't see how it makes sense to say that nothing with mass can be stationary in space.
It is of course necessary to specify a specific coordinate system when one is talking about an object being stationary - i.e. one must specify what an object is stationary with respect to.