I'm sorry, but this thread is a mess. There are misconceptions on top of misconceptions here.
The first misconception is that gravitating objects emit streams of gravitons, and these streams are responsible for gravitation. This is not true. Massive objects don't emit gravitons just like electrically charged objects don't emit photons: charged objects don't glow just because they are charged.
The second misconception is that the fact that somehow the horizon doesn't form from the perspective of an outside observer somehow let's gravity "escape". First, even if gravity were "streaming out", the extreme time dilation would slow the streaming to zero. So this doesn't explain anything. More importantly, the gravitational field far away is the same whether a horizon forms or not, so this cannot possibly make a difference.
The third misconception is that black holes emit gamma rays (or, more commonly, x-rays). They don't. The gas around them heats up as it falls in, and this hot gas is doing the emission.