rewebster said:
Nope.
(you sound like you may have been there before)
Got real close once, but Evo's dreaded cliche "If you love them, set them free" seemed to apply...we could either be married or follow our desired career paths, but not both, and neither of us would ask the other to sacrifice their career (we needed to be in different states).
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A lot of women don't get out and 'play' as much as they used to--I hear that too often, "I don't know where to go!"--"I don't have girl friends to go out with!"--- "I don't want to go out alone!"----"There's no good men left out there that haven't been damaged!"
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Yep, it's hard finding the undamaged ones, especially. I think Evo has gotten to them first.

Well, the reality is, many are probably still single because they started out damaged, not because someone damaged them along the way. And once you get to that age where all your friends are married with kids, it is hard to find people to go out with, even just for fun.
just got off of the phone with a woman who said three out of the four from above---she's been divorced about eight years now. She doesn't go out much, but she said another one, " I can't find a good man" three times. I've told her a dozen times to start going to new places to try new things, and attend some club meetings for things she likes.
Everyone gives that advice. It doesn't help. For starters, once you're out of college, there aren't clubs around for every interest. I was looking around the area here to see if there was some sort of a ballroom dancing club or just a place that holds dances, figuring if I don't have someone to go out dancing with, a dancing club would be a good way to meet someone to do that with. There aren't any. The nearest place that even holds dances is about 2 h away! A lot of my other interests aren't the sort of things you'd join a club to do.
I'm not married--and it seems a lot of women I meet can't stop talking about their baggage (like the one I just got off the phone with). Seems like most women worry about talking about their baggage too much but still do anyway--it's like they can't help it, and they want us (men) to know about all of it. Women just seem to worry about it more than men.
Too many do. I figure if someone can't avoid talking about an ex on a date, they're not ready to be dating yet because they still feel too strongly about the ex. In a way, it's not much different than selling a car. Nobody wants to hear about the huge crash you were in with the car that you follow up by saying, "But it's all fixed now, almost like new again." You're going to stare at them suspiciously, wondering whether it's really fixed, or if they've just slapped a new coat of paint on it, and walk away. The problem is, guys do the same thing, "You wouldn't believe the psycho I dated," type stuff. One psycho story might be entertaining, but if they harp on about it, or if it starts to sound like they think every woman they ever dated was psycho, I start to wonder what's wrong with them that they either attract psychos, or turn them into psychos.
I was thinking last night about this woman that calls me every once in a while for 'help' with her problems----if she's been talking to me about her past relationship even a fraction as much as to the guys she's trying to date --that may be the problem why she may be having 'trouble finding' a guy----I think she relates what she's done in her life through her 'ex-' as he is still 'part' of her present existence (new guys don't really want to have to even try to measure up)---"New Strategy" to help her!
When someone is still that bitter about a breakup, it's hard for them to stop thinking every new person they meet will be just like the previous ones. Sometimes they're right, because for some reason, they keep being attracted to people with similar personality traits, even though they know that's not compatible with them. They need to start trying something different...but they also have to get over that bitterness first, or they'll never give the right person a chance.