aaronbenjamin
hi, i am concerned that my lack of self esteem may be making it hard for me to meet someone, any advice? thanks!
lisab said:I'm guessing your doubt about meeting someone is due to a cycle: you have low self esteem, which makes you unsure of your social skills, which reinforces your low self esteem.
You need to break the cycle. I suggest doing that by working to improve your social skills. This can help you meet someone, and can also improve your self esteem.
Social skills are like any other skill: to improve, you need to practice, practice, practice. How much do you interact with people now (either gender, any setting)?
lisab said:The moles you should get removed. Seriously, if they are impacting you, do it; don't be embarrassed to ask your doc to do it.
Actually for health reasons, it's a good idea, especially if they're in a place where you can not monitor them for changes.
AFG34 said:the fastest way is to hang out with people who are confident and pickup on their certain behaviours that you like. Also stop caring what people think - only way to do that is to make a fool of yourself in public.
AFG34 said:Also stop caring what people think - only way to do that is to make a fool of yourself in public.
AFG34 said:... Also stop caring what people think - only way to do that is to make a fool of yourself in public.
brainstorm said:You can become more confident about your physical self-esteem issues by realizing that everyone has such insecurities. If you are friendly and give someone with similar self-esteem issues the feeling that you are not going to judge, ridicule, or tease them about their issues then you two might get to the point where you can divulge your insecurities and a big weight will be lifted off both of you, which will strengthen your relationship if you're ready for that.