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pemfi
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Can't work with my phd adviser anymore !
The biggest + in my adviser is that she is usually available to her students and tries to help them in her own way. But, I have serious issues with her from the personality side, very high and unreasonable expectation, frequent mis-communications (her language barrier) and lack of knowledge about my research area. From the research perspective I will have to do all the work by myself, the only feedback I get is whether the idea in her opinion makes sense or not. If it does not , I have to go find something else, so a lot of times when I come out of her office I am clueless about what I should do next. She frequently mistreats her students, get frustrated very quickly and when she does she picks on everything and i usually end up getting everything i have done trashed. often is very temperamental, and when it happens in her office, i get so stressed and start shaking, i just want to leave the office when i see her other mean side. She says things like my lack of competence in various things (seen this happening to other students), i am always afraid she will kick me out someday. while working so hard, i find this a very disturbing and discouraging work environment. overall , i think she does not trust my capabilities which makes my life miserable.
Occasionally i don't understand what she wants specially when I am under stress, and then she changes mood, i can't argue with her about my research, i should just say “yes you are right” or be quiet and nod, or else there is very good chance she gets upset. she does not let her students collaborate with other faculty members even when she can't help the student and does not provide useful feedback because she is not familiar with my research. i am very discouraged, and have no motivation for seeing her ... i feel i would have another 2-3 years of miserable life in front of me if i continue to work with her, I have had a few emotional breakdowns and feel very depressed and out of energy ... but if i switch there is a risk i may have to leave the school because there are very few people that do the similar research ... i feel without any prospect of success , i should not waste my time and should do my best to see if i can work with someone else or change my school.
(I know of several of her other students who have quit or switched, the main reason for my stress is a deadline that if not met, i have to leave )
The biggest + in my adviser is that she is usually available to her students and tries to help them in her own way. But, I have serious issues with her from the personality side, very high and unreasonable expectation, frequent mis-communications (her language barrier) and lack of knowledge about my research area. From the research perspective I will have to do all the work by myself, the only feedback I get is whether the idea in her opinion makes sense or not. If it does not , I have to go find something else, so a lot of times when I come out of her office I am clueless about what I should do next. She frequently mistreats her students, get frustrated very quickly and when she does she picks on everything and i usually end up getting everything i have done trashed. often is very temperamental, and when it happens in her office, i get so stressed and start shaking, i just want to leave the office when i see her other mean side. She says things like my lack of competence in various things (seen this happening to other students), i am always afraid she will kick me out someday. while working so hard, i find this a very disturbing and discouraging work environment. overall , i think she does not trust my capabilities which makes my life miserable.
Occasionally i don't understand what she wants specially when I am under stress, and then she changes mood, i can't argue with her about my research, i should just say “yes you are right” or be quiet and nod, or else there is very good chance she gets upset. she does not let her students collaborate with other faculty members even when she can't help the student and does not provide useful feedback because she is not familiar with my research. i am very discouraged, and have no motivation for seeing her ... i feel i would have another 2-3 years of miserable life in front of me if i continue to work with her, I have had a few emotional breakdowns and feel very depressed and out of energy ... but if i switch there is a risk i may have to leave the school because there are very few people that do the similar research ... i feel without any prospect of success , i should not waste my time and should do my best to see if i can work with someone else or change my school.
(I know of several of her other students who have quit or switched, the main reason for my stress is a deadline that if not met, i have to leave )
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