We are considering the relation
##\vec {L_p} = \vec {R_{cm,p}} \times \vec {P_{cm}} + \vec {L_{cm}} \,\,\,\,\,\,\,\, [1]##
This equation applies to any system of particles. ##p## is a fixed point in the "lab" frame. Our difficulty is with the last term ##\vec {L_{cm}}##. If you review the derivation of equation [1], you will see that this term is
##\vec {L_{cm}} = \sum m_i \vec r_{i,cm} \times \vec v_{i,cm}##.
Here, ##\vec r_{i,cm} = \vec r_{i,p} - \vec R_{cm,p}## where ##\vec r_{i,p} ## is the position of the ##i##
th particle relative to the lab point ##p## and ##\vec R_{cm,p}## is the position of the cm relative to the lab point ##p##.
What is the meaning of ##\vec v_{i,cm}##? This is where confusion can occur.
A review of the derivation of equation [1] shows that $$\vec v_{i,cm} \equiv \frac{d \vec r_{i,cm}}{dt} = \frac{d \vec r_{i,p}}{dt} - \frac{d \vec R_{cm,p}}{dt}$$ where all time derivatives represent rates of change
relative to the lab frame. Is it possible to interpret ##\vec v_{i,cm}## also as the rate of change of ##\vec r_{i,cm}## relative to the cm frame?
To answer this, we can invoke an important fact about switching frames of reference. Suppose we have an arbitrary time dependent vector ##\vec A(t)## that we observe from two different frames of reference. We can let one of the frames be our lab frame and let the other frame be a frame moving with the cm. It is not hard to show that a
s long as the two frames have no rotation relative to one another, then the rate of change of ##\vec A(t)## is the same in both frames. (Neglecting relativistic effects, of course). That is, $$\frac{\vec A(t)}{dt}|_{lab} = \frac{\vec A(t)}{dt}|_{cm}$$
So, as long we take the cm frame to be nonrotating relative to the lab frame, we can interpret ##\vec v_{i,cm}## in the expression for ##\vec {L_{cm}}## in equation [1] as the velocity of the ##i##
th particle relative to the cm frame.
If the cm frame is rotating relative to the lab frame then it is not generally true that ## \large \frac{\vec A(t)}{dt}|_{lab} = \frac{\vec A(t)}{dt}|_{cm}##. You can find details here
http://www.whoi.edu/cms/files/12.800_Chapter_4_'06_25333.pdf. The punch line is equation 4.1.6.
So, all of this was meant to show that when considering the term ##\vec {L_{cm}}## in equation [1] as angular momentum relative to a cm frame, it is important that the cm frame not be rotating relative to the lab frame.
Going back to the example of the rotating rod of post #2, a top view would look like
The red frame is the cm frame and it does not rotate relative to the lab frame. In the red frame, the rod rotates with the same angular velocity ##\Omega## as in the lab frame.