Coversation starters awkward silence

[Math Is Hard]

Lesson Two

OK, photon, you've read all the advice now, but I think it's time to move from theory to application.
Now, let's pretend I'm a young lady (I HEARD that, you guys - quit laughin'! ) at your school. You come up to me and say,
"Hey."
I say, "Hey." and then look down at my shoes. :shy:

Your move. What do you say? (Just throw something out there and we'll give you feedback.)

 

[photon]

So, i haven't talked to you in a while...

 

[Math Is Hard]

ok, I think that's good, BUT there's almost an implication there, like maybe she should feel guilty because she hasn't been around or hasn't talked to you. (But I over read things). Also, you are using a statement vs. a question, which doesn't require conversational response. Maybe try something like, "Hey, I haven't seen you around. Classes keeping you busy? What are you taking right now?" note: Last sentence is interrogative requiring her to respond, so it can keep the conversation flowing.

Any others want to give feedback on this?

 

[tribdog]

and she says, "Yeah, I usually see you coming and can duck behind a garbage can."

 

[photon]

and she says, "Yeah, I usually see you coming and can duck behind a garbage can."

i hate you. (and i mean that in the best possible way.)

Math is Hard:
Okay, sounds good. I want to sound like I care. How can I make her laugh after this exchange? She thinks I'm a riot.

 

[Math Is Hard]

She thinks you're a riot? Well, then it's half in the bag! I think what you're stressing about is this pressure to be funny all the time - and you don't have to be! Would you want to be around someone who is making jokes constantly? (no offense, trib) It's perfectly ok to have non-humorous conversations with her. Just ENGAGE her in conversation. Let the comedy follow naturally. You want her to like you for YOU, right? But your natural sense of humor is not all there is to what makes you special - you're also very intelligent, sincere, and kind. You should let her see all of your great qualities, not just one.

 

[photon]

Great! So I just sort of talk, sounding like I care, (i do care) and try to relax and go with the flow? I can handle that. I'll do just that when I see her tommorrow. But now, I'm going to hit the sack, so I'll post updates tommorow afternoon.

Later

 

[Math Is Hard]

yes, if you are at ease, you'll put her at ease. Then things will get moving.
good night. good luck!

 

[Ivan Seeking]

The following line worked well for me: Do you need help giving that enema to your patient?

 

[Math Is Hard]

The following line worked well for me: Do you need help giving that enema to your patient?

Is that how you met Tsu??
How romantic!

 

[Ivan Seeking]

We spent our first date moving mobile CAT Scanners and doing ER patients.

 

[Math Is Hard]

We spent our first date moving mobile CAT Scanners and doing ER patients.

That is SO cute! I'm always complaining I never meet any guys at work.

 

[Smurf]

ok, I think that's good, BUT there's almost an implication there, like maybe she should feel guilty because she hasn't been around or hasn't talked to you. (But I over read things). Also, you are using a statement vs. a question, which doesn't require conversational response. Maybe try something like, "Hey, I haven't seen you around. Classes keeping you busy? What are you taking right now?" note: Last sentence is interrogative requiring her to respond, so it can keep the conversation flowing.

Any others want to give feedback on this?

So it's true, women analyze everything

P.S. Your all insane.

 

[tribdog]

doing er patients? What the hell is "doing er patients?"
There are laws about that you know

 

[Smurf]

Tribdog, ER stands for Emergency Room, so they were probably unconscious when they did them, that's OK

 

[tribdog]

oh, if they were unconscious. nevermind

 

[JasonRox]

It doesn't, but funny is easier. and funny is sexy. and if you are already laughing when you get dissed there is less danger of breaking down into tears.

He said awkwards silence, and not awkward moment of laughter.

It doesn't have to be funny right out of the blue all the damn time. If you try to hard to impress, you will find yourself stuck for the rest of your life.

I used to have difficulties, but I go over myself with stupid imagining bull****. Just talk and funny things come around. Your first line does not have be funny, since that may seem like you are trying to hard.

 

[JasonRox]

So it's true, women analyze everything

P.S. Your all insane.

I analyze everything, but AFTER the event. Not so helpful, since you realize you are an idiot AFTER the event.

 

[Chrono]

That is SO cute! I'm always complaining I never meet any guys at work.

All the girls I've met are from work. It makes it hard if they already have a boyfriend, however.

 

[Math Is Hard]

So it's true, women analyze everything.

Not all women. That's a generalization. But I am definitely an over-analyzer, which probably has more to do with me being an analyst by profession than anything else.

P.S. Your all insane.

Who are you calling insane? All women? Or all of the posters to this thread?

All the girls I've met are from work. It makes it hard if they already have a boyfriend, however.

All the guys I work with are married or gay.

 

[tribdog]

All the guys I work with are married or gay.

But never both, not in America. It's against the law.

 

[theCandyman]

One question from me, what if the girl is significantly younger? I'm 18 and this girl is 14, very cute and I think very thoughtful in in intellectual way. I like her and when our mutual friends come chat me, she is with them but so quiet. Is she shy? Does she even like me?! (Not that I expect you to know, but does it sound that way?)

 

[tribdog]

Don't be stupid. I'll call the cops on you myself. I better leave now because I'm already fighting with some lady in the duck post. I don't have the energy to handle this genius.

 

[Moonbear]

But never both, not in America. It's against the law.

Y'know, now I've changed my mind from thinking they should be allowed to get married, to thinking the should be forced to get married! That way, all I need to do is scan for wedding bands and don't keep wasting my time flirting with cute gay men.

 

[enigma]

This always breaks the ice: let's shag!

Nice shoes! Wanna *&$%?

I say, "Hey." and then look down at my shoes. :shy:

BWAHAHAHA

*runs and hides, dodging rotting tomatos the whole way*

 

[Chrono]

One question from me, what if the girl is significantly younger? I'm 18 and this girl is 14, very cute and I think very thoughtful in in intellectual way. I like her and when our mutual friends come chat me, she is with them but so quiet. Is she shy? Does she even like me?! (Not that I expect you to know, but does it sound that way?)

Dude, I knew this girl who is 16 and I'm 20. Man, while it was slightly going on (never did ask her out, well I did, but she somehow got a boyfriend then) I just kept worrying if the age difference mattered.

 

[Evo]

One question from me, what if the girl is significantly younger? I'm 18 and this girl is 14, very cute and I think very thoughtful in in intellectual way. I like her and when our mutual friends come chat me, she is with them but so quiet. Is she shy? Does she even like me?! (Not that I expect you to know, but does it sound that way?)

I suggest you read this thread. https://www.physicsforums.com/showthread.php?t=47887

 

[mathlete]

Talk about how the government is spying on you using satellites. Offer her a tin foil hat.

 

[Math Is Hard]

Don't be stupid. I'll call the cops on you myself. I better leave now because I'm already fighting with some lady in the duck post. I don't have the energy to handle this genius.

hmm..there's just something very funny about the idea of tribdog fighting with a lady in a "duck" post. I got to go look...
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yep! FUNNY!

 

[Math Is Hard]

We spent our first date moving mobile CAT Scanners and doing ER patients.

By the way, if anyone sees me after a bad car crash dying by the side of the road, please put a bullet in my head immediately. I really don't want to wake up in Ivan and Tsu's "Enema-mobile".