Hi,
May be you should have a look to decoherence theory (see introduction of
http://arxiv.org/PS_cache/gr-qc/pdf/0111/0111105v1.pdf ).
Decoherence is a general effect of a quantum system coupled with its environment (described as a heat bath).
Throught decoherence, coherences decrease exponentially with time. The decoherence time depends with the scale of the system. For small quantum system (say hydrogen atom) decoherence time is very long. For large scale system (earth/moon) decoherence time is very small.
The exponential decrease has been confirmed experimentally for mesoscopic system.
I'm not a specialist (the following should be confirmed by other posts) and I hope the following won't be too wrong !
Applied to measurment, coupling the detector to a heat bath yields to exponentially decreasing coherence between the detector and the quantum system under measurement. This behavior has been tested experimentally at mesoscopic scale and intends to explain/decscribe the decorrelatoin between the detector and the quantum system under measurement.
As is well know, quantum interacting systems become "intricated" under time evolution. However, after measurement, measured quantum system and detector (considered as quantum system) should be decorrelated (in Schrödinger's cat paradaox, the cat is not in a superposition of dead and alive state).
The decoherence theory does not intend to explain which value the detector will measure, but the decoherence between the detecor and the quantum system under measurement. This is the quantum/classical transition.
I may add the following personnal note that my help for measurment theory: every detector can be concieved as a macroscopic system close to a phase transition (Wilson chamber for example, photo-multiplicator, etc...). Interaction with a small quantum system yields to a small perturbation of the detector that implies throught time evolution a large number of degrees of freedom of the detector (because of its state close to a phase transition implying a large correlation length) : This results in a phase transition in the detector. Coupling the detector to a heat source seems then "natural" (not had'oc) since it is a fundamental component for a detector to be... a detector.
Hope this help.
The main element of the Schrödinger's cat paradox is now explained. The cat has 1/2 chance to stay alive, 1/2 to die and is never into superposition state due to decoherence; this is not different for a coin-tossing game !
The intention of the observer is of no use (however, if you read this message, it is abviously intentionnaly, and I write this intentionnaly... Observer acts on the world, but, observers can't replace god as Bohr could have answer to Einstein ! ;-D ).
The explanation for collapsing part of the question should be the following : after interaction between the detector and the system under measurment, taking decoherence intoaccount, the resulting state is a statistical (not quantum like) set of state where the detector indicate a value, and the measured system in the coresponding eigenstate (this is done throught density matrix). So collapse may have occur during decoherence process (I can't say more).