Matt, since you urge continued discussion, I'll say what the main issue in this thread is for me.
Mainstream professional cosmologists (Wallace is one, SpaceTiger also) use a particular model (associated with names Friedman Lemaitre Roberson Walker and abbreviated FRW sometimes) into which you can plug various parameters ---and it gives you nice simple solutions to the main (Einstein) equation that you can try to fit to observational data.
And this FRW model has an idea of universal time: At each given moment of time there is a spatial metric---a slice of spacetime which is space at that particular moment and a metric (distance function) describing the geometry.
This is only APPROXIMATELY right because the FRW construction is based on everything looking uniform at large scale as if all the lumps were smoothed out by averaging. that is approximately realistic but not perfectly right---reality is lumpy.
So professional cosmologists have an absolute time idea and they also have an idea of being absolutely AT REST, called being at rest with respect to the Hubble flow or at rest with respect to the CMB.
The sun and planets are moving about 370 km/second wrt CMB because there is a Doppler hotspot ahead of us and a Doppler cold spot behind. The difference in temperature can be accurately measured. The hotspot is in the contellation Leo---we know our motion relative to the UNIVERSE REST and we can allow for it.
And the professionals do allow for that 370 km/sec speed and correct their observations for it (and other known motions).
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Matt, the PURE THEORY of Gen Rel does not have an idea of absolute rest or absolute motion, or an idea of universal time. those are things which you get from being in a PARTICULAR SOLUTION of the general equations. It is something that comes in with working cosmologists studying our particular universe.
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Now I will tell you what the issue is, for me, in this thread.
Cosmologists keep very detailed catalogs of all the energy in the universe, at different times. (counting matter as a form of energy)
and one form of energy is the CMB PHOTONS
these started out being a mix of wavelengths rather like sunlight or the glow of something at 3000 kelvin (a bit redder than the sun, like a reddish star)
So cosmologists can tell you
at any moment in the past 13 billion years, in a cubic lightyear of space, how much energy is represented by the CMB photons in that cubic lightyear
They have to have this accurate ENERGY INVENTORY because the density of energy of various kinds actually
affects how the universe evolves.
The dynamics of the universe will not work right unless you assume that at any given moment or era in time the CMB photons have wavelengths and those wavelengths are GRADUALLY GETTING LONGER. Because the wavelength determines how much energy the photon represents (longer means less energetic)
They start out short (3000 kelvin light) and at present they are long (2.7 kelvin infrared/microwave) and in the intervening span of time they are constantly getting longer----as the energy density of the CMB gradually diminishes.
this is what they teach you in an advance undergrad or graduate course in cosmology.
However, it seems to me that some people in this thread DISAGREE
with that. So that is what the issue is. I don't know whether folks will want to discuss it any more, but if they do discuss that is what I will be listening for.
for a mainstream professional, the spatial metric changes over time and
distances increase by a tinytiny percentage each second or day or year.
this does not affect the size of OBJECTS, because objects like steel rods are held together by atomic and molecular forces which determine crystal lattice bond lengths etc. and planet orbit radii etc.
but a LIGHTWAVE propagating according to MAXWELL equation is not bound by lattice forces like a steel rod

so it does experience the tiny percentagewise increases in distance and it must be affected by them.
so little by little a lightwave is extended by this, and in fact this is what we have observed to have happened to the old light that we see!
But other people seem to have a different take on this
so stay posted and maybe there'll be more said.