Maybe it helps to draw a picture... suppose that the symmetry axis is the z-axis. Consider an intersection in the (x, y) plane, i.e. a circle of radius r(z) at height z. Draw some electric field lines to a point on the z-axis... the symmetry will provide some cancellations. If you use an angle [itex]\phi[/itex] to parametrize the circle, then you can divide the circle into small segments of length [itex]r(z) \, d\phi[/itex] and write down the contribution to the E-field from each segment. Once you have that, all you have to do is sum (i.e. integrate) over phi.
Yes I know, it's a lot of work :sad: