@Dale provided a clear definition of a simultaneity convention. This definition is included in the OP.
Most physicists seem to accept a restriction to simultaneity conventions that treats a convention as valid only if any pair of simultaneous events can be connected by a spacelike curve. The explanation I’ve received is that this maintain the causal order of events. Otherwise, two events that are cause and effect may occur simultaneously.
The need for this restriction, justified in this way, has not been clear to me. Consider that we assign various values to the one-way speed of light in one direction. Let’s pick constant speeds. I can project lines of simultaneity onto a standard Minkowski diagram using the method shown in the OP. These lines are just skewed versions of the x axis. As we skew the angle more, the one-way speed increases (a counter-clockwise skew increases the speed of light moving from left to right). With a 45 degrees skew, light travels instantaneously in one direction. With larger skews, light travels backwards in time—it arrives before it leaves!
However, all these skews have no effect on the Minkowski diagram on which it is overlaid. We’re just talking about coordinate systems, right? If we can calculate invariants using a skew of 39 degrees, it seems we could calculate them equally well with a skew of 47 degrees.
I’m stating all this just to show why the necessity of the restriction has not been clear to me.
As stated in comment #17, it occurred to me that I could approach the restriction a different way. Because the one-way speed of light is indeterminable, I cannot say that any two events are simultaneous in any absolute way, but I can impose a restriction on “reasonable” simultaneity ranges by looking at events in a causal chain.
This diagram shows a light beam traveling from event A to C and reflected back to B. In any reasonable simultaneity convention, we would expect C to be simultaneous with one of the events from A to B. This may be what people have been referring to as a “non-perverse” coordinate system, but it makes more sense to me when I state it my way.
Note that I haven’t said whether the segment AB is inclusive or exclusive of the endpoints. At this time, I can’t see any reason to make them exclusive, but I’m open to arguments.
I’d like to prove that all simultaneity conventions (as defined by
@Dale) that satisfy my premise (that one event between A and B is simultaneous with C) do not contain any simultaneous events connected by a timelike curve. I will try to do this using my method of projecting lines of simultaneity from a given convention onto a Minkowski spacetime diagram.
Let’s say I pick a point D that is simultaneous with A but a bit later in time with respect to the standard Minkowski diagram. Any line from A to D (representing a projection of a line of simultaneity) is clearly timelike. Any curve from A to D will have to have some portion which is timelike.
Given @Dale’s invertible requirement, no other event on the AB segment can be simultaneous with C since it would have to cross the AD curve.
We can use a similar argument by moving D below B and making it simultaneous with B.
We’re not quite done. A line from somewhere between A and B to C will be spacelike or lightlike, but a curve might contain some timelike segments.
All this requires is creating a new light reflection positioned such that, in the new A’, B’, C’ system, the simultaneity convention makes no point on the A’B’ segment simultaneous with C’ and so also violates my initial requirement.
Therefore, the only possibilities left are simultaneity conventions in which no simultaneous events are connected by timelike curves.
Most of you may consider this the long-winded way around something straightforward, but this approach is comprehensible to me. Saying that I can't assign the same time coordinate to two causally-connected events just left me asking "Why?" Now I have a reason.
I haven’t been able to rule out lightlike curves because that requires that I consider an instantaneous one-way speed of light to be “unreasonable” (or maybe “perverse”?). The argument that it makes the emission and reception of a photon simultaneous is equivalent to saying that infinite one-way speed is "unreasonable", so it sounds like a circular argument.
Perhaps someone could make an equivalent causal ordering argument for lightlike connected events? I can’t picture it. Bonus points if you can diagram your answer.