Have You Ever Talked to an Attractive Woman?

[DBTS]

The more you fail, the better you get at it. I've failed countless time, and I've been successful countless times.

So... 0 times.

I am quite good at reading body language so if I walk up to a girl or woman and say something casual and she is receptive, I will engage in a more 5 minute prolonged conversation. I tend to only keep conversations for 5 minutes just to feel her out, and if I like her, I will schedule a date, if not, then I will just walk away.

 

[turbo]

When I got to college from a small town, I admired a young lady in my dining hall from afar. After a week or so, I got the nerve to ask her if I could sit with her at lunch. She pulled out the chair next to her and said "I've been saving this seat for you", and we became inseparable friends within days. She was about 5-10" or so with impressive wavy blonde hair and legs "up to there". I was about 5-2" or so and later in the year added at least 5" after I stopped beating myself to death with Xcountry and Xcountry skiing. (Ballerina syndrome) We were inseparable all through college and were "an item". Our college did not allow parietal visits except under strict supervision, so we had to resort to subterfuge and cheating to spend time together every day and night. Luckily my floor resident and my roommate both loved my friend.

If you don't have the guts to approach someone that you are attracted to, you might miss out on something really wonderful.

 

[DanP]

If you don't have the guts to approach someone that you are attracted to, you might miss out on something really wonderful.

Yeah, when a man wants a woman, he goes after her. He doesn't sit pondering at "what ifs" or whatever else.

And I think we can safely generalize this one. If you see something that you want, if you lust to do something (get into a certain school, climb a mountain, ride a bike, fight in the ring ..), you owe to yourself to actually act. And again, Ill let the immortal Mark Twain speak:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off your bow lines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover”

 

[chaoseverlasting]

I've made a fool out of myself a lot of times. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt. At the very least, the situation almost always turns into something pretty interesting and I do have a bunch of stories to tell .

 

[lisab]

...Ill let the immortal Mark Twain speak:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off your bow lines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover”

Excellent quote, Dan, one of my absolute favorites !

 

[Evo]

And again, Ill let the immortal Mark Twain speak:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.

If he was alive, I'd sue him. Looking back on my life, I regret almost everything I chose to do, the risks I took, all huge mistakes. I wish I had learned to be happy with what I had and stayed where I was.

 

[DanP]

If he was alive, I'd sue him. Looking back on my life, I regret almost everything I chose to do, the risks I took, all huge mistakes. I wish I had learned to be happy with what I had and stayed where I was.

Please, Evo, don't be sad. If there is any person on this board I wouldn't like to see sad, it's you.

Not being "happy" with what we have is in the human nature. And for what it's worth, you are not alone in doing huge mistakes. I did the same. And I'll probably do a lot more of them in the future. Hopefully not the same ones. But I refuse to stay where I am. I breath change, no matter what it brings.

 

[rootX]

Please, Evo, don't be sad. If there is any person on this board I wouldn't like to see sad, it's you.

Not being "happy" with what we have is in the human nature. And for what it's worth, you are not alone in doing huge mistakes. I did the same. And I'll probably do a lot more of them in the future. Hopefully not the same ones. But I refuse to stay where I am. I breath change, no matter what it brings.

You must be young

 

[rootX]

Girls come and go.. so far I have not found anything interesting that I consider worth more than what I am currently doing (my work).

Guys/girls sitting next to me who talk bit too much (with girls/guys) i.e. start long damn stupid conversations with every person sitting next to them are rather annoying.

 

[DanP]

You must be young

And you must be old with a sad life in the middle class ? Probably not. Those kind of "deductions" pretty much worth 0.

 

[DanP]

Girls come and go.. so far I have not found anything interesting that I consider worth more than what I am currently doing (my work).

Lack of sexual motivation ?

 

[Lancelot59]

Lack of sexual motivation ?

He seems to be in a similar position to me. None of the girls around seem worth the effort.

 

[Ivan Seeking]

The question: who has ever walked up to an attractive woman and started a conversation from nothing?

That's how I met my first fiancee. We were both getting gas.

 

[Galteeth]

If he was alive, I'd sue him. Looking back on my life, I regret almost everything I chose to do, the risks I took, all huge mistakes. I wish I had learned to be happy with what I had and stayed where I was.

yeah, I always found that quote a bit silly. It sounds nice but really? When you think about, it's an absurd statement. (Not applied to talking to girls, there's really not much danger in that.)

On the other hand, in terms of what you are saying, if you are happy with where you are now, then all those mistakes you made were part of what got you to where you are.

 

[Galteeth]

He seems to be in a similar position to me. None of the girls around seem worth the effort.

Maybe you should go for the ones that don't require as much effort.

 

[Lancelot59]

Maybe you should go for the ones that don't require as much effort.

Well there's no shortage of those around. I guess I really meant none of the girls around are worth putting any time into at all when put up against the work I'm doing (namely school).

 

[DanP]

He seems to be in a similar position to me. None of the girls around seem worth the effort.

There is Jewish saying (or maybe it was Yiddish?) "The whole world isn't crazy".

Maybe you should reconsider. Women do worth the effort.

 

[Galteeth]

There is Jewish saying (or maybe it was Yiddish?) "The whole world isn't crazy".

Maybe you should reconsider. Women do worth the effort.

And let's not forget what they say,

In Soviet Russia,
Women do worth the effort YOU

 

[tauon]

who has ever walked up to an attractive woman and started a conversation from nothing?

is that even possible? like, does the universe allow such an event to exist?

 

[DanP]

is that even possible? like, does the universe allow such an event to exist?

Ain't that the bare minimum you can bring on the table ? You like her, at least hit on her. The least you can do. Can't you feel in in your blood when she walks near you ?

 

[mathwonk]

I tried this once, with something like; "pardon me but do you prefer presenting representable functors before tensor products in abstract algebra?" it seemed to get her attention, at least she responded right away, something like: "you're on my foot, doofus."

 

[Lancelot59]

I tried this once, with something like; "pardon me but do you prefer presenting representable functors before tensor products in abstract algebra?" it seemed to get her attention, at least she responded right away, something like: "you're on my foot, doofus."

Those silly women, getting their feet in the way all the time.

 

[Dougggggg]

True story, was at the airport the other day. Two things crossed my mind, the girl sitting over there is pretty cute, and I need to know what time it is so I don't miss my flight. Asked for time, then conversation struck up, I only referred to myself once in the third person (we never properly introduced ourselves) and my school. I get home and have a friend request on facebook. I all of a sudden realize it was the girl from the airport. Then we talked on facebook chat, she is a huge Foo Fighters fan, me too. She also happens to be slightly addicted to the Legend of Zelda video game series. I must confess as am I.

That is where the story is now. Perhaps I will continue it later?

 

[Lancelot59]

True story, was at the airport the other day. Two things crossed my mind, the girl sitting over there is pretty cute, and I need to know what time it is so I don't miss my flight. Asked for time, then conversation struck up, I only referred to myself once in the third person (we never properly introduced ourselves) and my school. I get home and have a friend request on facebook. I all of a sudden realize it was the girl from the airport. Then we talked on facebook chat, she is a huge Foo Fighters fan, me too. She also happens to be slightly addicted to the Legend of Zelda video game series. I must confess as am I.

That is where the story is now. Perhaps I will continue it later?

Sounds like a good idea. Although I guess you were going to separate locations?

 

[Dougggggg]

Sounds like a good idea. Although I guess you were going to separate locations?

Yes and no, we were both flying from Glasgow to Newark airport. Then we would both be transfering to flights to Nashville and Philly.

 

[Radrook]

The problem with many exceedingly attractive women is that they are in love with themselves and feel that the approach of a man they find non-attractive is an insult to their self importance. So they react with the "How-dare-you-even-imagine-yourself-worthy!" response! That's why I prefer approaching cute women or pleasantly-appearing women instead since it reduces the chances of that happening.

 

[CheshireKat]

Have I ever seen an attractive woman, walked up to her and started a conversation?

No way! I suffer from anxiety so doing this without feeling anxious would be IMPOSSIBLE.

Also I feel it would be stupid to come out with something pointless to talk about "those are nice shoes". WTF? I'm a physics student with no fashion sense who plays video games.

I just want to hug you for that...

 

[Mentallic]

I just want to hug you for that...

He is a charming fellow

Also I feel it would be stupid to come out with something pointless to talk about "those are nice shoes". WTF? I'm a physics student with no fashion sense who plays video games.

I'm the same, but I only don't have a fashion sense for myself. I know what I like on women when I see them - not that I could choose out their clothes for them.
And my god, please don't talk about her shoes! They're only conversation starters.

 

[Dougggggg]

My need to know the time was satisfied while also starting a conversation. 2 birds with 1 stone.

 

[Jack21222]

The only women I've talked to, I've had a reason to do so. I'm not one to make small talk.

 

[CheshireKat]

well.

news from "the other side".

was at a party yesterday, with some daning and music. suddenly the DJ - a tall, nice looking, blonde young man - announces: "I want you guys to hug a little" and puts on a really slow dance... pretty much everybody left the dancefloor except for one couple.

so I mastered all my female flirtability, walked up to him and told him it was his freakin' fault that nobody is there, but I still want to dance... so he has to jump in.

conclusion:
I got one nice dance with a pretty hot guy.
For the rest of the night, I got some more smiles.
But this tactic totally sucked as a conversation starter...

Do you think this is the same phenomenon as a men approaching an attractive woman and jumpstarting a conversation?

 

[Lancelot59]

well.

news from "the other side".

was at a party yesterday, with some daning and music. suddenly the DJ - a tall, nice looking, blonde young man - announces: "I want you guys to hug a little" and puts on a really slow dance... pretty much everybody left the dancefloor except for one couple.

so I mastered all my female flirtability, walked up to him and told him it was his freakin' fault that nobody is there, but I still want to dance... so he has to jump in.

conclusion:
I got one nice dance with a pretty hot guy.
For the rest of the night, I got some more smiles.
But this tactic totally sucked as a conversation starter...

Do you think this is the same phenomenon as a men approaching an attractive woman and jumpstarting a conversation?

It would make sense. It's not that men are exclusively afraid of women. People are afraid of people.

 

[CheshireKat]

It would make sense. It's not that men are exclusively afraid of women. People are afraid of people.

as an anthropolgist to be, that scares me.

 

[Lancelot59]

as an anthropolgist to be, that scares me.

It's my experience that people are silly. BE AFRAID!

 

[Astronuc]

I'll talk to anyone who wants to talk - especially over a beer or caffè.

 

[mathwonk]

I will talk to almost anyone, but it has to be about math.

 

[rootX]

I will talk to almost anyone, but it has to help me with my current work.

 

[EinsteinsDog]

I will talk to almost anyone, but it has to be about math.

Same here.

 

[Lancelot59]

I can talk about things other than science and engineering, it just usually doesn't go well. Apparently I'm too blunt. So I avoid talking about those things for that reason, also because I don't find them that interesting.

 

[Dougggggg]

Is it just me or have you guys noticed that when you meet someone new on campus and they ask what you are majoring and you respond with Math and Physics (well for me at least), their faces turn into the most confused or horrified look. Typical verbal response is "wow you must be a genius," "I couldn't ever imagine doing that," or "why?"

 

[lisab]

Is it just me or have you guys noticed that when you meet someone new on campus and they ask what you are majoring and you respond with Math and Physics (well for me at least), their faces turn into the most confused or horrified look. Typical verbal response is "wow you must be a genius," "I couldn't ever imagine doing that," or "why?"

Try having that experience and being female ! I know exactly what you mean.

 

[Astronuc]

Is it just me or have you guys noticed that when you meet someone new on campus and they ask what you are majoring and you respond with Math and Physics (well for me at least), their faces turn into the most confused or horrified look. Typical verbal response is "wow you must be a genius," "I couldn't ever imagine doing that," or "why?"

I got that. Now when I mention nuclear engineering, I get asked about nuclear weapons, severe accidents, and host of other topics which seem to represent the anxieties of an uninformed and severely undereducated public.

 

[Lancelot59]

Is it just me or have you guys noticed that when you meet someone new on campus and they ask what you are majoring and you respond with Math and Physics (well for me at least), their faces turn into the most confused or horrified look. Typical verbal response is "wow you must be a genius," "I couldn't ever imagine doing that," or "why?"

I get that all the time when I say engineering. More so when I mention how many courses I take.

 

[rootX]

I will talk to almost anyone, but it has to be about math.

Here's the girl for you!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yzLi_y4Vv5s

 

[Dougggggg]

Something like that just happened about an hour or two ago. We were playing poker and this girl asked my major and then responded, "of course!" I was kinda cleaning up the table just playing odds.

 

[Lancelot59]

Here's the girl for you!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yzLi_y4Vv5s

Ehhhh, no. I wouldn't wanna...don't know where she's been. For that matter I don't know where those puppets have been.

 

[EinsteinsDog]

Is it just me or have you guys noticed that when you meet someone new on campus and they ask what you are majoring and you respond with Math and Physics (well for me at least), their faces turn into the most confused or horrified look. Typical verbal response is "wow you must be a genius," "I couldn't ever imagine doing that," or "why?"

its the look on their faces jajajaja priceless. A girl once told me I should go to a psychiatrist because my love for math was abnormal jajaja.

 

[Lichdar]

Yes.

Its not that complicated. They're attractive and yet, human in many ways that are entirely separate from their ability to ignite a physical reaction in you. So I just talk to them as human.

You tend to pick up cues pretty fast whether they're open to flirting, and I've always enjoyed that even if I never intended to pursue anything more. People like being reminded that they're attractive too.

I have, for the sake of experimentation, also tried blatantly hitting on girls and I think that if you do in the right place with enough of a sense of humor so that it does come off as silly rather than serious, it does work out well too.

The key is not coming off as a creep is not thinking /as/ a creep, and not acting as one. The pretty girl is just a pretty girl, not your only sole chance at love and adoration and acceptance; she's just someone who's probably nice and happens to be pleasant to look at too.

 

[Mentallic]

jajajaja

You need to move your finger one more spot over to the left.

 

[mathwonk]

the key is to lie. one of my old girl friends perfected this, she told strangers that i was a professional boxer and that she was a professional pool player. At least guys did not hit on her as much when I was around, but they did wonder why i was such a wimp.