Have You Ever Talked to an Attractive Woman?

[wasteofo2]

What do you mean by: "unless."

Good attitude, but did she call you back?

I also find that instead of asking for a number, handing a girl your phone and saying: "Here, put your number in there so I have it for later" actually works better. Also, if you get a number, I usually send a stupid text really quickly, like: "Who's that cute guy you're talking to?" It guarantees that your number is in her phone and it opens the route to casual texting.

Like it or not, people over 30, texting is a significant form of communication now.

Not bad, though I would suggest going one step further and getting the girl's facebook instead of phone. Assuming she's young, that is. I don't know about how to deal with 35 year old women, but 20 year olds are definitely good to go for facebook flirting.

 

[DanP]

Not bad, though I would suggest going one step further and getting the girl's facebook instead of phone. Assuming she's young, that is. I don't know about how to deal with 35 year old women, but 20 year olds are definitely good to go for facebook flirting.

Thats bull.

 

[wasteofo2]

Thats bull.

Have you ever tried it?

If you meet a girl and talk to her for 5-30 minutes, it can often be hard to get her to meet up with you in the future. You simply haven't developed enough of a connection and/or attraction for her to care very much about the random dude she chatted with the other day.

So if you just chat to a girl, get her number and call/text her, you will often get flaked on/get ignored.

With facebook chat, you can further talk with the girl and get to know her, building more connection/attraction. Further, her simply seeing pictures of you keeps you in her consciousness more than just seeing ''Ted - 917-245-6683''.

Also, sometimes girls are hesitant to give out their numbers. That's fine, they don't know you so why should they? Facebook is less of a big deal to give out, and from there you can surprise her with how awesome you are, making her want to see you again.

Try it out once.

 

[DanP]

Have you ever tried it?

If you meet a girl and talk to her for 5-30 minutes, it can often be hard to get her to meet up with you in the future. You simply haven't developed enough of a connection and/or attraction for her to care very much about the random dude she chatted with the other day.

It's not hard. You don't need a "connection". She gave you her phone number after all :P Just call.

So if you just chat to a girl, get her number and call/text her, you will often get flaked on/get ignored.

Call. Only kids and cheap men text for a first date. Besides, it;s all about communication, and verbal on phone does it much better than texts. I like them to hear my voice. About getting ignored, it didn't happened to me yet in this life to call a woman who gave me her phone number and not get an answer or my call returned.

With facebook chat, you can further talk with the girl and get to know her, building more connection/attraction. Further, her simply seeing pictures of you keeps you in her consciousness more than just seeing ''Ted - 917-245-6683''.

Yeah, you build that on internet , Ill just ask them out and have a good time.

Also, sometimes girls are hesitant to give out their numbers. That's fine, they don't know you so why should they? Facebook is less of a big deal to give out, and from there you can surprise her with how awesome you are, making her want to see you again.
Try it out once.

So you realize now that getting her facebook is not the "next level" as you claim, but a setback. Fine, you couldn't get her number, some other means of communication might be in order.

But whatever, nothing beats the phone.

 

[wasteofo2]

Dan, I don't know what age-group you're going for, but it doesn't sound like the early 20's girls I know in the USA.

You may have found the group of girls that don't flake on phone numbers, or the group of girls that likes to talk on the phone, but they are not the majority.

Obviously the goal isn't to talk to her on facebook, but talking to someone on facebook can make them more likely to not flake on you in real life when you actually want to see them.

When you get lots of girls numbers, you get lots of flakes, that's just part of life. I don't know where you're coming at this from, but meeting random people means some won't keep contact with you.

 

[DanP]

When you get lots of girls numbers, you get lots of flakes, that's just part of life. I don't know where you're coming at this from, but meeting random people means some won't keep contact with you.

Perhaps, I don't walk your shoes. For me fake numbers are pretty much an unknown. It never happened to me. Besides, if you really got a fake number, you should move on, she aint too much into you anyway. Move fast.

 

[Lancelot59]

I'd have to say no to this, for three reasons:

1. Women in this city are horribly unapproachable.
2. Not a whole lot of them are on my campus
3. They all annoy me to no end.

 

[DanP]

I'd have to say no to this, for three reasons:

1. Women in this city are horribly unapproachable.
2. Not a whole lot of them are on my campus
3. They all annoy me to no end.

The girl who can't dance says the band can't play ?

 

[Lancelot59]

The girl who can't dance says the band can't play ?

No...

It's just that they don't seem very attractive personality wise. They're a bit too girly if that makes sense.

 

[wasteofo2]

Perhaps, I don't walk your shoes. For me fake numbers are pretty much an unknown. It never happened to me. Besides, if you really got a fake number, you should move on, she aint too much into you anyway. Move fast.

Flakes not fakes.

I understand the traditional attitude of ''**** it'' if a girl flakes on you.

But if a girl isn't into you after 1 short conversation, that doesn't mean you can never **** her, just that it'll take more time to get her into you.

It just depends how bad you actually want said girl.

 

[QuantumJG]

Have I ever seen an attractive woman, walked up to her and started a conversation?

No way! I suffer from anxiety so doing this without feeling anxious would be IMPOSSIBLE.

Also I feel it would be stupid to come out with something pointless to talk about "those are nice shoes". WTF? I'm a physics student with no fashion sense who plays video games.

 

[Lancelot59]

Have I ever seen an attractive woman, walked up to her and started a conversation?

No way! I suffer from anxiety so doing this without feeling anxious would be IMPOSSIBLE.

Also I feel it would be stupid to come out with something pointless to talk about "those are nice shoes". WTF? I'm a physics student with no fashion sense who plays video games.

There never does seem to be anything good to talk about.

 

[Mentallic]

There never does seem to be anything good to talk about.

Confidence goes a long way fellas. If there's something to talk about with your friends - besides talking about that thing you guys did last week that was so awesome, and other people you both know - then there is something to talk about with random girls.

 

[Topher925]

Someone told me Scarlett Johansson is no single. How much confidence do I need to woo her?

 

[Lancelot59]

Someone told me Scarlett Johansson is no single. How much confidence do I need to woo her?

How much confidence does it take to overcome a stun gun and a restraining order? Unless you come up with a clever scheme to get alone with her...

How about we abduct both of you, under the premise that you owe us money. We mistook her for your friend who was also in on the deal!

It's brilliant!

 

[Mentallic]

Someone told me Scarlett Johansson is no single. How much confidence do I need to woo her?

Confidence doesn't get the girl, it initiates conversation.

 

[DBTS]

Nervous guys tend to flop. Confidence is a good key but a person who can keep a conversation, create laughter, and is playful tends to get a date or second date for that matter.

How much confidence does it take to overcome a stun gun and a restraining order?

Lol

 

[Mentallic]

Nervous guys tend to flop. Confidence is a good key but a person who can keep a conversation, create laughter, and is playful tends to get a date or second date for that matter.

You need confidence to approach them and break the ice, but after that first acquaintance you shouldn't be as nervous if you were at first. From then on it depends on your personality.

 

[Galteeth]

Dan, I don't know what age-group you're going for, but it doesn't sound like the early 20's girls I know in the USA.

You may have found the group of girls that don't flake on phone numbers, or the group of girls that likes to talk on the phone, but they are not the majority.

Obviously the goal isn't to talk to her on facebook, but talking to someone on facebook can make them more likely to not flake on you in real life when you actually want to see them.

When you get lots of girls numbers, you get lots of flakes, that's just part of life. I don't know where you're coming at this from, but meeting random people means some won't keep contact with you.

A note on this: While i personally have gotten "flakes" (girls who i called who didn't pick up, or weren't available etc.) I have never failed to get a number from asking and i have never gotten a fake number. Some of those "flakes" might not have been genuine flakes if i had been more persistent (I don't leave messages, and if a girl doesn't pick up the first day i call her, i might try once more, but not again).

I don't use facebook. Maybe I'm old fashioned, but I'm just not into the internet as a social medium (not counting forums like this). I don't care for the idea of all my social interactions to be publicly available, and I HATE internet drama.

 

[Pyrrhus]

Too much overthinking in this thread. It's plain and simple, GO FOR IT. GO WITH THE FLOW. SEE WHAT HAPPENS. LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES, and etc.. That's it.

The more you fail, the better you get at it. I've failed countless time, and I've been successful countless times. I only tend to remember the funny stories

 

[DBTS]

The more you fail, the better you get at it. I've failed countless time, and I've been successful countless times.

So... 0 times.

I am quite good at reading body language so if I walk up to a girl or woman and say something casual and she is receptive, I will engage in a more 5 minute prolonged conversation. I tend to only keep conversations for 5 minutes just to feel her out, and if I like her, I will schedule a date, if not, then I will just walk away.

 

[turbo]

When I got to college from a small town, I admired a young lady in my dining hall from afar. After a week or so, I got the nerve to ask her if I could sit with her at lunch. She pulled out the chair next to her and said "I've been saving this seat for you", and we became inseparable friends within days. She was about 5-10" or so with impressive wavy blonde hair and legs "up to there". I was about 5-2" or so and later in the year added at least 5" after I stopped beating myself to death with Xcountry and Xcountry skiing. (Ballerina syndrome) We were inseparable all through college and were "an item". Our college did not allow parietal visits except under strict supervision, so we had to resort to subterfuge and cheating to spend time together every day and night. Luckily my floor resident and my roommate both loved my friend.

If you don't have the guts to approach someone that you are attracted to, you might miss out on something really wonderful.

 

[DanP]

If you don't have the guts to approach someone that you are attracted to, you might miss out on something really wonderful.

Yeah, when a man wants a woman, he goes after her. He doesn't sit pondering at "what ifs" or whatever else.

And I think we can safely generalize this one. If you see something that you want, if you lust to do something (get into a certain school, climb a mountain, ride a bike, fight in the ring ..), you owe to yourself to actually act. And again, Ill let the immortal Mark Twain speak:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off your bow lines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover”

 

[chaoseverlasting]

I've made a fool out of myself a lot of times. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt. At the very least, the situation almost always turns into something pretty interesting and I do have a bunch of stories to tell .

 

[lisab]

...Ill let the immortal Mark Twain speak:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off your bow lines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover”

Excellent quote, Dan, one of my absolute favorites !

 

[Evo]

And again, Ill let the immortal Mark Twain speak:

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.

If he was alive, I'd sue him. Looking back on my life, I regret almost everything I chose to do, the risks I took, all huge mistakes. I wish I had learned to be happy with what I had and stayed where I was.

 

[DanP]

If he was alive, I'd sue him. Looking back on my life, I regret almost everything I chose to do, the risks I took, all huge mistakes. I wish I had learned to be happy with what I had and stayed where I was.

Please, Evo, don't be sad. If there is any person on this board I wouldn't like to see sad, it's you.

Not being "happy" with what we have is in the human nature. And for what it's worth, you are not alone in doing huge mistakes. I did the same. And I'll probably do a lot more of them in the future. Hopefully not the same ones. But I refuse to stay where I am. I breath change, no matter what it brings.

 

[rootX]

Please, Evo, don't be sad. If there is any person on this board I wouldn't like to see sad, it's you.

Not being "happy" with what we have is in the human nature. And for what it's worth, you are not alone in doing huge mistakes. I did the same. And I'll probably do a lot more of them in the future. Hopefully not the same ones. But I refuse to stay where I am. I breath change, no matter what it brings.

You must be young

 

[rootX]

Girls come and go.. so far I have not found anything interesting that I consider worth more than what I am currently doing (my work).

Guys/girls sitting next to me who talk bit too much (with girls/guys) i.e. start long damn stupid conversations with every person sitting next to them are rather annoying.

 

[DanP]

You must be young

And you must be old with a sad life in the middle class ? Probably not. Those kind of "deductions" pretty much worth 0.