Have You Ever Talked to an Attractive Woman?

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Many participants in the discussion express feelings of insecurity and fear when approaching attractive women, often attributing their hesitance to low self-esteem. Some argue that confidence is key, emphasizing that casual, non-creepy conversation starters can lead to positive interactions. Others counter that without a certain level of attractiveness or social status, initiating conversation can feel like a daunting task. The importance of context is highlighted, suggesting that engaging in conversations about shared experiences or interests can be more effective than direct compliments. Ultimately, the consensus is that being relaxed and authentic can significantly improve the chances of successful interactions with women.
  • #61


rootX said:
Girls come and go.. so far I have not found anything interesting that I consider worth more than what I am currently doing (my work).

Lack of sexual motivation ?
 
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  • #62


DanP said:
Lack of sexual motivation ?
He seems to be in a similar position to me. None of the girls around seem worth the effort.
 
  • #63


wasteofo2 said:
The question: who has ever walked up to an attractive woman and started a conversation from nothing?

That's how I met my first fiancee. We were both getting gas.
 
  • #64


Evo said:
If he was alive, I'd sue him. Looking back on my life, I regret almost everything I chose to do, the risks I took, all huge mistakes. I wish I had learned to be happy with what I had and stayed where I was.

yeah, I always found that quote a bit silly. It sounds nice but really? When you think about, it's an absurd statement. (Not applied to talking to girls, there's really not much danger in that.)

On the other hand, in terms of what you are saying, if you are happy with where you are now, then all those mistakes you made were part of what got you to where you are.
 
  • #65


Lancelot59 said:
He seems to be in a similar position to me. None of the girls around seem worth the effort.

Maybe you should go for the ones that don't require as much effort.
 
  • #66


Galteeth said:
Maybe you should go for the ones that don't require as much effort.

Well there's no shortage of those around. I guess I really meant none of the girls around are worth putting any time into at all when put up against the work I'm doing (namely school).
 
  • #67


Lancelot59 said:
He seems to be in a similar position to me. None of the girls around seem worth the effort.

There is Jewish saying (or maybe it was Yiddish?) "The whole world isn't crazy".

Maybe you should reconsider. Women do worth the effort.
 
  • #68


DanP said:
There is Jewish saying (or maybe it was Yiddish?) "The whole world isn't crazy".

Maybe you should reconsider. Women do worth the effort.

And let's not forget what they say,

In Soviet Russia,
Women do worth the effort YOU
 
  • #69


wasteofo2 said:
who has ever walked up to an attractive woman and started a conversation from nothing?

is that even possible? like, does the universe allow such an event to exist?
 
  • #70


tauon said:
is that even possible? like, does the universe allow such an event to exist?

Ain't that the bare minimum you can bring on the table ? You like her, at least hit on her. The least you can do. Can't you feel in in your blood when she walks near you ?:devil:
 
  • #71


I tried this once, with something like; "pardon me but do you prefer presenting representable functors before tensor products in abstract algebra?" it seemed to get her attention, at least she responded right away, something like: "you're on my foot, doofus."
 
  • #72


mathwonk said:
I tried this once, with something like; "pardon me but do you prefer presenting representable functors before tensor products in abstract algebra?" it seemed to get her attention, at least she responded right away, something like: "you're on my foot, doofus."

Those silly women, getting their feet in the way all the time.
 
  • #73


True story, was at the airport the other day. Two things crossed my mind, the girl sitting over there is pretty cute, and I need to know what time it is so I don't miss my flight. Asked for time, then conversation struck up, I only referred to myself once in the third person (we never properly introduced ourselves) and my school. I get home and have a friend request on facebook. I all of a sudden realize it was the girl from the airport. Then we talked on facebook chat, she is a huge Foo Fighters fan, me too. She also happens to be slightly addicted to the Legend of Zelda video game series. I must confess as am I.

That is where the story is now. Perhaps I will continue it later?
 
  • #74


Dougggggg said:
True story, was at the airport the other day. Two things crossed my mind, the girl sitting over there is pretty cute, and I need to know what time it is so I don't miss my flight. Asked for time, then conversation struck up, I only referred to myself once in the third person (we never properly introduced ourselves) and my school. I get home and have a friend request on facebook. I all of a sudden realize it was the girl from the airport. Then we talked on facebook chat, she is a huge Foo Fighters fan, me too. She also happens to be slightly addicted to the Legend of Zelda video game series. I must confess as am I.

That is where the story is now. Perhaps I will continue it later?

Sounds like a good idea. Although I guess you were going to separate locations?
 
  • #75


Lancelot59 said:
Sounds like a good idea. Although I guess you were going to separate locations?

Yes and no, we were both flying from Glasgow to Newark airport. Then we would both be transfering to flights to Nashville and Philly.
 
  • #76


The problem with many exceedingly attractive women is that they are in love with themselves and feel that the approach of a man they find non-attractive is an insult to their self importance. So they react with the "How-dare-you-even-imagine-yourself-worthy!" response! That's why I prefer approaching cute women or pleasantly-appearing women instead since it reduces the chances of that happening.
 
  • #77


QuantumJG said:
Have I ever seen an attractive woman, walked up to her and started a conversation?

No way! I suffer from anxiety so doing this without feeling anxious would be IMPOSSIBLE.

Also I feel it would be stupid to come out with something pointless to talk about "those are nice shoes". WTF? I'm a physics student with no fashion sense who plays video games.

I just want to hug you for that... :approve:
 
  • #78


CheshireKat said:
I just want to hug you for that... :approve:

He is a charming fellow :smile:

QuantumJG said:
Also I feel it would be stupid to come out with something pointless to talk about "those are nice shoes". WTF? I'm a physics student with no fashion sense who plays video games.
I'm the same, but I only don't have a fashion sense for myself. I know what I like on women when I see them - not that I could choose out their clothes for them.
And my god, please don't talk about her shoes! They're only conversation starters.
 
  • #79


My need to know the time was satisfied while also starting a conversation. 2 birds with 1 stone.
 
  • #80


The only women I've talked to, I've had a reason to do so. I'm not one to make small talk.
 
  • #81


well.

news from "the other side".

was at a party yesterday, with some daning and music. suddenly the DJ - a tall, nice looking, blonde young man - announces: "I want you guys to hug a little" and puts on a really slow dance... pretty much everybody left the dancefloor except for one couple.

so I mastered all my female flirtability, walked up to him and told him it was his freakin' fault that nobody is there, but I still want to dance... so he has to jump in.

conclusion:
I got one nice dance with a pretty hot guy.
For the rest of the night, I got some more smiles.
But this tactic totally sucked as a conversation starter...

Do you think this is the same phenomenon as a men approaching an attractive woman and jumpstarting a conversation?
 
  • #82


CheshireKat said:
well.

news from "the other side".

was at a party yesterday, with some daning and music. suddenly the DJ - a tall, nice looking, blonde young man - announces: "I want you guys to hug a little" and puts on a really slow dance... pretty much everybody left the dancefloor except for one couple.

so I mastered all my female flirtability, walked up to him and told him it was his freakin' fault that nobody is there, but I still want to dance... so he has to jump in.

conclusion:
I got one nice dance with a pretty hot guy.
For the rest of the night, I got some more smiles.
But this tactic totally sucked as a conversation starter...

Do you think this is the same phenomenon as a men approaching an attractive woman and jumpstarting a conversation?

It would make sense. It's not that men are exclusively afraid of women. People are afraid of people.
 
  • #83


Lancelot59 said:
It would make sense. It's not that men are exclusively afraid of women. People are afraid of people.

as an anthropolgist to be, that scares me.
 
  • #84


CheshireKat said:
as an anthropolgist to be, that scares me.

It's my experience that people are silly. BE AFRAID!
 
  • #85


I'll talk to anyone who wants to talk - especially over a beer or caffè.
 
  • #86


I will talk to almost anyone, but it has to be about math.
 
  • #87


I will talk to almost anyone, but it has to help me with my current work.
 
  • #88


mathwonk said:
I will talk to almost anyone, but it has to be about math.

Same here.
 
  • #89


I can talk about things other than science and engineering, it just usually doesn't go well. Apparently I'm too blunt. So I avoid talking about those things for that reason, also because I don't find them that interesting.
 
  • #90


Is it just me or have you guys noticed that when you meet someone new on campus and they ask what you are majoring and you respond with Math and Physics (well for me at least), their faces turn into the most confused or horrified look. Typical verbal response is "wow you must be a genius," "I couldn't ever imagine doing that," or "why?"
 

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