serp777 said:
How is it proven or inferred that black holes do in fact conserve angular momentum?
I forgot to answer the conservation part. I can show you the proof, since you explicitly asked for it, but I don't know how much math knowledge you already possesses so as to actually understand it.
To start with a "simpler" example, consider the conservation of charge equation in Minkowski space-time: ##\partial_a j^a = 0##. Now imagine that we slice up Minkowski space-time into a one-parameter family of time slices ##\Sigma_t##. On any given time slice ##\Sigma_{t_0}##, we can define the total charge on that slice as ##Q = \int _{\Sigma_{t_0}} (j_{a}n^{a})d^{3}x## where ##n^a## is the unit normal vector field to ##\Sigma_{t_0}## as usual. Now say we have another time slice ##\Sigma_{t_1}## at some ##t_1 > t_0## and calculate the total charge ##Q'## on this slice using the same formula.
Say the 4-current density has compact support on some worldtube in Minkowski space-time. Then you can picture the given situation as the worldtube being sliced by two parallel planes with one above the other (i.e. the time slices at ##t_0## and ##t_1##). We know that on this segment ##N## of the worldtube, ##\partial_a j^a = 0## so performing a volume integral over ##N## and using the divergence theorem we have that ##\int _{N}\partial_a j^a d^4 x = 0 = \int _{\Sigma_{t_1} }(j_{a}n^{a})d^{3}x - \int _{\Sigma_{t_0}} (j_{a}n^{a})d^{3}x## (the contributions from the sides of the tube vanish because the 4-current density has compact support on the tube) hence ##Q = Q'##. This is what we mean by the total charge being conserved.
When we say that the angular momentum ##J = \frac{1}{16\pi}\int _{S^2_{\infty}}\epsilon_{abcd}\nabla^c \psi^d## of an axisymmetric asymptotically flat black hole space-time is conserved, we mean the exact same thing except that instead of ##Q = Q'## over a one-parameter family of time slices of Minkowski space-time, we have ##J = J'## over two different 2-spheres ##S^2_{\infty}## and ##\tilde{S}^2_{\infty}## at infinity. The proof is the exact same in spirit and goes as follows.
Because both 2-spheres are at infinity and we assumed the space-time is asymptotically flat, ##R_{ab} = 0## on the volume ##V## bounding the two spheres. Set ##\alpha_{ab} = \epsilon_{abcd}\nabla^c \psi^d##; Stokes' theorem says that ##\int _{V}\nabla_{[e}\alpha_{ab]} = \int _{\partial V} \alpha_{ab}##. Now clearly ##\nabla_{[e}\alpha_{ab]} = 0## if and only if ##\epsilon^{feab}\nabla_{e}\alpha_{ab} = 0## and we have that
##\epsilon^{feab}\nabla_{e}\alpha_{ab} = \epsilon^{abfe}\epsilon_{abcd}\nabla_{e}\nabla^{c}\psi^{d} = -4\delta^{[f}_{c}\delta^{e]}_{d}\nabla_{e}\nabla^{c}\psi^{d} = -4\nabla_{e}\nabla^{f}\psi^{e} = -4R^{fe}\psi_{e} = 0##
on ##V## since ##\nabla^{[f}\psi^{e]} = \nabla^{f}\psi^{e}##. Therefore ##\int _{V}\nabla_{[e}\alpha_{ab]} = 0 = \int _{\tilde{S}_{\infty}^{2}} \alpha_{ab} - \int _{S_{\infty}^{2}} \alpha_{ab}## meaning ##J = J'## i.e. the angular momentum is "conserved".