How many of you have not had a bf or gf?

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The discussion revolves around the challenges of finding romantic partners among young individuals, particularly those aged 16 and older. An 18-year-old participant expresses feelings of being single and seeks to connect with others in similar situations. Many contributors share their experiences of struggling with self-confidence and the difficulties of approaching potential partners. There's a recurring theme that societal pressures and stereotypes about attractiveness can hinder genuine connections. Participants discuss the importance of self-acceptance and the idea that confidence can significantly impact first impressions. Some express skepticism about the need for a girlfriend or boyfriend, suggesting that relationships should stem from genuine feelings rather than societal expectations. The conversation also touches on the complexities of love and dating, emphasizing the need for personal growth and comfort in one's own skin before pursuing romantic relationships. Overall, the thread highlights the emotional struggles and societal influences affecting young people's dating lives.
  • #61
Hey, I didn't have a girlfriend until I was 18, and I've had too many since.
 
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  • #62
arildno said:
Neither do I.
:smile:...
 
  • #63
peejake said:
Excuse me! that does not sound and look quite right :smile:
He can't help it. He was born with that face.Oops, I forgot to say the more useful part. Define 'a nice person' to be someone who does not laugh in your face or spit on you when you approach and attempt to talk to them. If you are looking for a nice person, the first step to finding one, or many, is simply to start approaching and talking to people. If you are looking for a different type of person, you might be better off hiring a professional (unless you enjoy being spit on, of course).

If the real problem is that you want something that you think you don't deserve, I think you might want to change that. It doesn't seem like a healthy thing to want, and even if you do get it, it doesn't seem like a healthy thing to keep.

Otherwise, I don't see what the problem is with being single.
 
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  • #64
Pengwuino said:
Whats with everyone perpetuating the stereotypical nerd on a computer forum?
:confused: :confused: :confused:
|)0n'7 61r|5 |1k3 6uy5 wh0 (4n 5p34k 1337, and don't they like girls who know what http:// means, or who where big cool squared glasses, and who have a live +7 elf in World of warcraft?
 
  • #65
SimplySolitary_ said:
In confidence, I simply meant a first impression!...
Thanks for the explanation.
 
  • #66
peejake said:
well putting that all aside les sleeth...i don't drink for one thing...just hate it don't know why...What is so great about drinking anyway? The stuff tastes like crap, even if it is the costliest wine or alcohol ever or even the cheapest...Alcohol is responsible for the worst of the worst deaths..."Drinking and Driving" so why take it at all...Take it so that you would feel in the company of others at a party...get ure drink spiked and end up in more trouble...Certainly not...:mad:

I was just teasing you, don't take anything I said seriously. :smile:

However, love does seem to be difficult to maintain for many people. One thing I've learned (and am still learning) is to separate the experience of love from "love objects." If I want to stay in the experience of love, it seems best if I just am determined to experience it without having my partner, or whomever, be some way before I allow myself to feel it. That way I get to experience love regardless of how others are behaving or appear.

It takes the pressure off of a relationship too. If you are constantly demanding that your partner be some way before you are okay, that really gets old after awhile; it brings down a great many relationships (of course, that doesn't include destructive behavior).
 
  • #67
LeBrad said:
Ok I'll admit it, I am 24 and have never had a boyfriend.

honestrosewater,

Read again what LeBrad said carefully and then tell me what sounds wrong:smile: ...I am not saying anything bad about his looks...
 
  • #68
What is wrong is that LeBrad isn't gay. :frown:
 
  • #69
peejake said:
honestrosewater,

Read again what LeBrad said carefully and then tell me what sounds wrong:smile: ...I am not saying anything bad about his looks...
Yes, I understand. I was saying something bad about his looks.
 
  • #70
honestrosewater said:
Yes, I understand. I was saying something bad about his looks.

I'll have you know that I am saving myself for http://newyork.mets.mlb.com/NASApp/mlb/team/player.jsp?player_id=431151" .
 
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  • #71
LeBrad said:
I'll have you know that I am saving myself for http://newyork.mets.mlb.com/NASApp/mlb/team/player.jsp?player_id=431151" .
What a coincidence -- so am I. Hey, you do look kinda like him, just much less attractive.
 
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  • #72
arildno said:
In general, unattractive persons tend to lose confidence in themselves.
Sad, but true.
If you mean ugly people, I have to say that's not true at all!:rolleyes:
 
  • #73
LeBrad said:
I'll have you know that I am saving myself for http://newyork.mets.mlb.com/NASApp/mlb/team/player.jsp?player_id=431151" .

What, and not Pedro Martinez? :smile: he has a devastating circle changeup, a sharp breaking curveball and a career 2+ ERA with 2000+ strikeouts.
 
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  • #74
Relationships are for puny little mortals.

Just kidding. I've had a few crushes on other girls, but I've never had the guts or time to tell them. I've had 2 real big ones, one before left for
Alaska, while the one now, well, I'll just hang around.

I acknowledge a crush is a crush. Nothing much. Thats probably the reason why I am not telling. Better to keep yourself too busy with work.
 
  • #75
Don't try to find a girlfriend, just start making friends. You need to feel comfortable talking to people, girls or guys. Spark up a conversation with the guy sitting next to you on the train, or ask the girl behind the counter at the supermarket how her day was.

The more people you meet, the better the chance that you will find someone you like, and that likes you as well. I never met any of my ex-girlfriends because I was looking for someone to like. Just practice talking to people you don't know, and getting to know them, the rest will happen in good time.
 
  • #76
LeBrad said:
I'll have you know that I am saving myself for http://newyork.mets.mlb.com/NASApp/mlb/team/player.jsp?player_id=431151" .

i told you guys...But u didnt listen....:smile:
 
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  • #77
There was one I liked enough to consider. It turned out I wasn't her type... being male.
 
  • #78
I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was 18 and freshly graduated from high school. Fortunately we didn't have internet message boards back then, which saved me the indignity of trumpeting to the whole world what a dork I was.

*pauses as sickening irony sets in*

Oh buggers, I just let the cat out of the bag didn't I?
 
  • #79
Tyris said:
There was one I liked enough to consider. It turned out I wasn't her type... being male.

should have gone after her anyway... could have gotten pretty interesting!
 
  • #80
Tom Mattson said:
Fortunately we didn't have internet message boards back then, which saved me the indignity of trumpeting to the whole world what a dork I was.

For the sake of not having a gf right now i wish there were nothin as email and txting...Because i feel that these two things made me get sooo attatched to them that i find it hard to actually ask a girl out in real life...

:mad: Txting:mad: :mad: Email/Msn:mad:

Jake:!) :!) :!)
 
  • #81
Anyway I am glad that this topic has started up again... Keep it going people:smile:
 
  • #82
Tom Mattson said:
I didn't have my first girlfriend until I was 18 and freshly graduated from high school. Fortunately we didn't have internet message boards back then, which saved me the indignity of trumpeting to the whole world what a dork I was.

*pauses as sickening irony sets in*

Oh buggers, I just let the cat out of the bag didn't I?
That's okay, it's ancient history now. :biggrin:
 
  • #83
I'm 20, and have never had a girlfriend. In fact, I'd go as far as to say that I haven't even had any friends since I started college two years ago. At college, I've never even been in anyone else's residence for social reasons (i.e., no parties, no hanging out, etc.). I'm really very sad, though from what others have told me, I appear quite happy. Is there anyone else that's been in my situation? How did you get out of it?
 
  • #84
I've never had a girlfriend...up until a week ago :biggrin:
she's so perfect. and to top it off, smoking hot too. Having a gf rocks! and we haven't even done anything too, how you say, physical...yet

edit: I'm 19, so i think I'm definitely behind the times. I didn't even kiss a girl (her^) until a month ago
 
  • #85
Hopefully, you'll still think physics is fun.

I know, it was rather bad.
 
  • #86
oh yes,
nothing like a good practical demonstration of conductive heat transfer :wink:
 
  • #87
Kukurio said:
I'm 20, and have never had a girlfriend. In fact, I'd go as far as to say that I haven't even had any friends since I started college two years ago. At college, I've never even been in anyone else's residence for social reasons (i.e., no parties, no hanging out, etc.). I'm really very sad, though from what others have told me, I appear quite happy. Is there anyone else that's been in my situation? How did you get out of it?

Hello, I used to be like you until one day i said to myself, enough is enough. I started practicing more sports (for socializing) and going to the parties/get togethers i was invited to, all worked from there.
 
  • #88
Cyclovenom said:
Hello, I used to be like you until one day i said to myself, enough is enough. I started practicing more sports (for socializing) and going to the parties/get togethers i was invited to, all worked from there.

Same here and I took your approach too.

I left all my friends from high school. They all got into drugs and things, so I had to go. I went from having too many friends to virtually none in a matter of months.
 

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