What's going on loonychune or is it merci?
How much math is a question of how "Theoretical" this "man" wants to be. It is true that math and physics are different subjects. And as outlined by Feynman, physicists should use math only as a tool. But, they feed each other. And was Newton a mathematician who loved physics or was he a physicist who was exceptional apt at the mathematics of his time? Chicken or the egg?
There are 2 camps to mathematics proper, Bourbaki and Arnold. I'll let the applieds be for the moment. Bourbaki is dominant, and it has good cause to be. But, I suspect, that it's going to need to go through a revolution with the Arnold camp to create a new camp.
Often what makes the non-Bourbaki puke is their method. Personally I hate it. I'm not a machine. I'm all about rigor, but I don't see why we have to cut out the human side of the mathematics. I don't see why we can't give the motivation behind certain polishings of certain theories. It'll change. I'll help it change
Remember this. Even physicists are aware of this on some level. All these boundaries are human constructs and are entirely artificial outside of our minds. Physics is our best approximation to the truth of our reality. And mathematics is our best attempt at the most accurate reasoning of space, time, change, etc. that we can think of.
How much math? How much do you need? I suspect if you ever wish to have a conversation with Witten you'll know what mathematicians know. B/c he knows more math than many mathematicians
If your an experimentalist heading to IBM to help design future quantum toys, then most likely an undergraduate equivalent in mathematics will be over kill.
If you're like me, and heading towards mathematical physics. Well, like someone else in another post said, these types have to know an enormous amount of mathematics (as well as physics). Open Penrose's tomb, it'll give you a hint. And by the time you get there, that'll be dated, and the knowledge base will be doubled.
But, I'm told by the String Theorists at my school, that too much math for a theoretical physicist can be bad too. Why? B/c you might not be able to shut it down when you need too. Physicists take leaps, often creating bizarre ideas. Later mathematical physicists come behind them and turn it into something more rigorous.
Can you do both? Can you take leaps on the frontier? Can you think nitty gritty logical about every minute detail when you need to?
Odds are you'll know a lot of math. Even if you can't give me a formal definition of a manifold and tell me formally all it's properties, at the very least you'll be apt at manipulating one.
I checked out the book you listed on amazon. It looks fine. It gives a good overview of an undergraduate mathematics career without diving into great detail. You don't need a great book, a good one will do. What you need, is a great inner drive.
And oh, a plug for mathematics. It can be fun. If you can figure out that mathematics is not formal proofs. Its far different than that. That's just our attempt at cataloging (I agree it's a poor attempt).
Best of luck.