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I have no idea. I can't do it. I have just seen guys that can.And how can I do that?
I have no idea. I can't do it. I have just seen guys that can.And how can I do that?
Oh, that's great. how did they do it?I have no idea. I can't do it. I have just seen guys that can.
You should cultivate one of two things. The first option is to always seem happy. A lot of smiling, as if life itself just fills you with pleasure. Girls like this. They want to be around guys who are naturally enjoying themselves.Oh, that's great. how did they do it?
And those are just my talent. Hahahahaha!You should cultivate one of two things. The first option is to always seem happy. A lot of smiling, as if life itself just fills you with pleasure. Girls like this. They want to be around guys who are naturally enjoying themselves.
The second option is to cultivate a lot of presence, to be in command of yourself, to "own yourself". Know what you want, what to do. Girls like this, too. They admire a guy who isn't blown any way the wind blows, who isn't a nervous wreck, worry-wart.
Of course, you can do both at once if you can manage it. This is what people who knew John F. Kennedy said about him, that on top of his seriousness and competence he always seemed to have a smile in his eyes that indicated he was enjoying everything. A lot of women found him very appealing.
OK, then. You're good to go.And those are just my talent. Hahahahaha!
There's a fine line between sincere presence and false presence. False presence manifests as arrogance. And girls can smell it. You can't fake it. Best just to be yourself.The second option is to cultivate a lot of presence, to be in command of yourself, to "own yourself". Know what you want, what to do. Girls like this, too. They admire a guy who isn't blown any way the wind blows, who isn't a nervous wreck, worry-wart.
This is true. Pretending to be the in-charge guy who knows what he wants and what to do can just end up seeming arrogant, like you're taking over by force and trying to give orders. To clarify, I gave the example of Kennedy. He always seemed focused, alert, sensitive, extremely rational, and decisive; completely persuasive as to any question of competence. The fake version is someone who is not in control of himself but is never-the-less trying to control others. The authentic version is someone who is self-aware and knows how to control himself, and is at ease with himself. That authentic guy never takes control by force. He ends up in control because others assess him as deserving it, and they give him control. Another good example of the latter is Derren Brown. He exudes very solid presence and clear focus, and it's fascinating to watch suggestible people respond by delivering themselves into his hands.There's a fine line between sincere presence and false presence. False presence manifests as arrogance. And girls can smell it. You can't fake it. Best just to be yourself.
Pick your nose in front of her. If she is already madly in love with you, she will find some way of excusing your behaviour.Umm do you guys know how to tell if a woman likes you? Maybe a checklist of hints that she might show? I just want to check if she likes me already. Lol.
I don't know why but Arildno is trying to prevent your genes from moving ahead to future generations.Pick your nose in front of her. If she is already madly in love with you, she will find some way of excusing your behaviour.
Turbo, you may be suffering from what psychologists call "too much niceness". I recommend you go out and be mean. Talk a walk and call some trees bad names, kick rocks, give the finger to a squirrel.Be nice. If you can't be nice, be nice anyway.
You're good with dreams. One girl I know told me she had a dream the night before in which she was in an empty ballroom, all alone except for her dance partner: a tall man whose face she couldn't make out. I asked her what the emotion was. She said it was very pleasant.Either the attraction is real or it's not.
Generally 21 may be too young. But generalizations should never overrule individual cases.21 is too young for 'love'.
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Okay if you want a serious answer.So there is this girl I like. I want to make her love me. Can anyone teach me how to?