notknowing said:
I'm beginning to realize that the answer to my original question can become rather complicated. Let us simplify the situation. Consider the earth-moon system. When I now ask "what is the position of the moon, relative to the Earth (at a given time)?, in what "format" should the answer be given, to be fully compatible with GR ? You can choose of course the origin of a coordinate system at the earth, but this will not be sufficient to specify the position of the moon with respect to this coordinate system as a vector (x1,y1,z1) because the curvature of spacetime will change the orientation of the axes from point to point (as given by the connection coefficients) along some line up to the moon. Would it be correct to say that the position of one object relative to another (in GR) in curved spacetime can not be given as a single vector (as in flat spacetime) but is in fact given as a kind of "road description", specifying at each new point a new direction to follow (for an infinitisemal length) ?
You don't NEED to use any particular format. You can basically assign any four numbers to every event in space-time, and use these as your coordinates. The only constraint on this process is that nearby events must have nearly the same coordinates - the labelling process must be smooth. This requreiment basically insures that the distance between any two nearby points can be represented by a quadratic form (i.e. a polynomial of degree two) in the coordinates. You can realize this by sticking only a finite number of "labels" unto events in space-time (think of sticking pins on a map), and then using some sort of interpolation process to find the coordinates of events "near" the labelled refrence points.
Once you've made your totally arbitrary assignments of labels (coordinates) to events, you will have defined a metric. Or more precisely, you will have defined the particular components of the metric in the coordinate system you have chosen.
This is described in more detail in MTW's gravitation, by the way.
The mathematical system that allows one to chose arbitrary coordinates in this way is "differential geometry", or informally "tensors". The whole point of adopting this approach is that we don't have to answer questions like you just asked - we can choose any coordinates we like, and the mathematics will give us the correct answer.
This goes back to some of your earlier questions, I think, the question about multiplying the components of a metric by a constant. There is no physical significance to the particular coordinates used to represent a physical system, just as there is no geometrical signifance to drawing lines or labels on a map. The map is not the territory. Thus the particular coordinates of the metric don't have any physical significance, they depend on the human choice of what lables one chose to give particular events. Thus multiplying all the components of the metric is a statement about coordinates (labels), not a statement about physics.
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OK, now that I've mentioned that you don't have to use any particular coordinate system, I should add something about convenient or standard choices for coordinates.
One standard choice for the solar system (which could also be applied to your Earth-moon system) are post-Newtonian PPN coordinates. Unfortunately I'm not quite sure exactly how they work empirically.
The basic idea is to make the metric fit into a simple and standard form, when expanded as a series in epsion (where epsilon^2 is the Newtonian potential U, which is a dimensionless number in geometric units).
One has terms of order epsilon^4 in g_00, epsilon^3 in g_0j, and epsilon^2 in g_jk.
This is only an approximation - AFAIK there isn't any simple analytical metric for the two body problem, though.