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I'm a freshman, will you be my friend?

  1. Sep 2, 2008 #1
    In light of Tribdogs post, I was reminded how incoming college freshman crack me up.

    Its the Fall semester again which means plenty of new incoming college freshman. Now is it just me, or does every single college freshman out there want to be your friend? Sometimes I'll just be standing inline at the book store or eating lunch and they will come up to me, introduce themselves, I'll do the same, and then they will just stair at me like a deer in the headlights hoping I will say something to start a conversation. Instead, I just kinda look at them puzzled as I am expecting them to justify the reason for disturbing me, yet I know what they want. I was a freshman too once, but I like making them feel as awkward as possible so they understand that I am not a freshman and no I do not want to be their friend.

    End of rant. Anyone else experience this?
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  3. Sep 2, 2008 #2
    Why do I sense that you eat alone?
  4. Sep 2, 2008 #3

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    Experience what? Intentionally being a jerk to strangers?

    Shame on you. These kids are in a brand new situation, probably very unsure of themselves, and just seeking a little friendship and advice. There are tactful ways to give them the brush-off if you aren't interested in talking to them. You don't have to make them feel like crap.
  5. Sep 2, 2008 #4
    Not only you are being a jerk, but even a stupid jerk. There are much more interesting ways to make someone feel awkward. Yours is plain boring.
  6. Sep 2, 2008 #5
    He's not being a jerk to people though, he's being a jerk to freshmen. that's okay.
  7. Sep 2, 2008 #6
    I nominate this as quote of the year.:rofl:
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    One of my jobs at school was to group together students to help make friends on campus. Probably one of the best jobs I ever had because I got paid to have fun basically.

    So, yes lots of them are looking to make friends. I've always been good with them. It pays off because they know people then that goes on to knowing more people, and basically sometimes while at a club waiting in line I get to skip everyone because you know this person who knows that person and yadda yadda yadda. Don't really see a downside to it besides when you're trying to do work somewhere in the school and every half hour or hour someone who knows you will see you and want to talk to you.

    Good experience though!
  9. Sep 2, 2008 #8
    I second that nomination!

    Seriously though, if someone comes up to me(including freshman) and asks for help I will go way out of my way to help them. I have already done that twice today and will surely do it again by the end of the day. But, theres a difference between asking for help and just asking for it. If your coming up to me out of no where and just expecting me to be your BFF, I'm sorry but I don't think I can provide the things that they desire.

    Social events are great, I went to them all the time as a freshman, but just going up to random people when you have nothing to say is just weird to me. If that makes me a jerk, then so be it. :smile:

    Flame suit on!
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    I don't get the part about just walking up to a complete stranger and saying hi, then just standing there saying nothing. I wouldn't know what to say to them either other than, "did you need something?"
  11. Sep 2, 2008 #10
    Somebody walks to you and ask for help, most people will provide at least the help they can. Somebody walks to you, and you know already this person needs help, yet this person needs even more help than you expected, as can be seen by the fact that they are unable even to ask for it. :uhh: Well anyway, start a really controversial conversation, do you need examples ? :tongue2: It's always interesting to see one's reaction in those occasions.

    Or even better, I know I can right away talk to the person about what I have in mind at this very moment, most likely advanced physics, but that can be anything you are passionate about, and see right away if the other person is potentially interested in your passion, or even passionate as well.
  12. Sep 2, 2008 #11
    I was like that too when I was an upperclassman. Half the time, I would just fume that my time was being wasted by this freshman. The other half of the time, I would ask this freshman for her phone number.
  13. Sep 2, 2008 #12
    I think it's just an emotional trauma.
  14. Sep 2, 2008 #13
    Could be. I chalk most of it up to all this orientation and OTL garbage that you get bombarded with as a freshman. The whole lets make friends, hold hands, then make a giant finger painting sort of mentality that you get when your new. For some reason I think many freshman feel obligated to get to know as many people as possible and its going to improve their quality of life.

    I'll take your advice humanino, next time I get one of those quiet blank stares, I'll just go on about Lie groups or something.
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    What's the big deal here? I mean I don't see anything wrong with being their friends.
  16. Sep 2, 2008 #15
    I remember when I was not even a freshman, and how I got a group of upperclassmen blank stared by explaining them how to diagonalize a matrix (they were not very versed into math). The freshman might go on talk about (say) Lisi's Exceptionnaly Simple Theory of Everything :smile:
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    I don't see the big deal. I hung out with two first year girls quite a bit, one was 18 and the other was 24 and I'm 24. It was fine. I also hang out with others older than I as well. Not many first years are older than me though.

    Since the drinking age here is 19, it's rare I'll hang out with someone under 19 even if they have great character. It's just odd.
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    Make friends. Peer-group thinking (stupid freshman...) should have been abandoned in JHS. Your new friend may share a lot of your interests, and if you hit it off, he/she may invite you to share Spring Break at his/her parent's lodge in Colorado.
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    I think being older or spending more years at uni doesn't make someone a cooler person to be friend with or more knowledagable than the younger 1s! When I was at the 1st year of uni I had plenty of friends among those who were getting their MS and we're still good friends.(probably better friends than most of my classmates):wink:
    I also don't mind making friends with freshmen since they're lively and full of energy!
  20. Sep 2, 2008 #19
    They talk too much BS, and it takes time.
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    I don't see what the problem with being friends with freshmen is. As long as they don't keep calling you, "My friend". MF'ers drive me crazy.
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