Men: How Would You React to Being Contacted Out of the Blue?

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The discussion centers around the reactions of individuals when contacted unexpectedly by a woman expressing admiration for them. Initial responses include feelings of flattery mixed with suspicion, particularly regarding how the woman obtained their email address. Public figures note they often receive such messages, which can feel overwhelming or even creepy, depending on the approach and content of the email. Many participants agree that the context and tone of the message significantly influence their reactions; a well-crafted email referencing shared interests or work is more likely to be welcomed than a vague compliment. Some express that if they were single, they might be more open to engaging, while others emphasize discomfort, especially if the message is overly focused on physical attraction. The conversation also touches on the challenges of online communication, where initial impressions can be easily misinterpreted. Ultimately, there is a consensus that while such outreach can be flattering, it often requires careful consideration of how to approach the recipient to avoid coming off as strange or overly forward.

How would you feel about a woman e-mailing you with no prior contact?

  • She must be crazy

    Votes: 10 18.5%

  • I would be flattered

    Votes: 21 38.9%

  • Depends on what she looks like

    Votes: 11 20.4%

  • Depends on her personality

    Votes: 12 22.2%
  • Total voters
    54
  • #91
I do tend to frighten men off, but then if they don't like the fact that I am clear and upfront about things, it's probably better to weed them out in the beginning.
I don't know about anyone else, but I feel thankful for the direct approach.

Sometimes we think "in this day and age," blah blah, but given a long history of hunter-gatherership in small groups, each man probably prefers to see himself more of a conquerer than an approachable-positive guy.

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  • #92
Evo said:
Sticks 10 GOOBF cards in Kurdt's computer.

Yey! :biggrin:
 
  • #93
It's nice to see that the majority would not be put off by such an e-mail. I still will most likely chicken out and not contact him.

If I did, I guess I should send a picture. Which of these would be better? More in next post.
 
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  • #94
Smiling and with my glasses on.
 
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  • #95
all ----five



you'll find out right away that way if he's married

I like #4 (except the van seat in the living room should have been color co-ordinated for the rug color just a hair better maybe)---

the others look like you're waiting for something (semi-impatiently)
 
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  • #96
Evo said:
Which of these would be better? More in next post.
All three? :smile:

Edit: all five?
 
  • #97
To bring those up to date, draw bags under my eyes, cover me with spider bites and put my arm in a sling.
 
  • #98
You'll never know until you send him something, with or without the sling.
 
  • #99
Evo said:
To bring those up to date, draw bags under my eyes, cover me with spider bites and put my arm in a sling.

do you mean that you want to make a photoshop contest on these?
 
  • #100
rewebster said:
do you mean that you want to make a photoshop contest on these?
Now that might be fun.
 
  • #101
rewebster said:
all ----five



you'll find out right away that way if he's married

I like #4 (except the van seat in the living room should have been color co-ordinated for the rug color just a hair better maybe)
That was my older daughter's apartment and she was moving, so things were strewn everywhere.
 
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  • #102
A sling may be just what David needs.
 
  • #103
Evo said:
Now that might be fun.

AND THE WINNER OF THE CONTEST GETS...









to be the one to email for Evo the email to "what's his face" because Evo is hesitating

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do you have any 'good' photos NOT at the computer?
 
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  • #104
rewebster said:
do you have any 'good' photos NOT at the computer?
They're all taken with my webcam.

Ok, a few.
 
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  • #105
Evo said:
If I did, I guess I should send a picture. Which of these would be better? More in next post.

Hey, now, no sending pictures of your daughters instead of you. :biggrin: (You're not allowed to look that young, are you?)

I like the one where you're actually smiling. It's a pretty humorous photo, too, with you sitting there in a business suit with all that junk scattered in the background like you're sitting in a garage.

I agree that the others look sort of impatient...obviously taken by webcam, but they seem to have the look that someone snuck up and snapped a photo while you were busy staring at the computer screen waiting for an email from some guy you've never met. Hmmm...wait, that might be just the look you need so he feels guilted into writing back. :biggrin:
 
  • #106
Moonbear said:
Hey, now, no sending pictures of your daughters instead of you. :biggrin: (You're not allowed to look that young, are you?)
Wait until you draw the bags under my eyes, that would be how I look right now, more of a zombie.

I like the one where you're actually smiling. It's a pretty humorous photo, too, with you sitting there in a business suit with all that junk scattered in the background like you're sitting in a garage.
Yes, that one is funny.

I agree that the others look sort of impatient...obviously taken by webcam, but they seem to have the look that someone snuck up and snapped a photo while you were busy staring at the computer screen waiting for an email from some guy you've never met. Hmmm...wait, that might be just the look you need so he feels guilted into writing back. :biggrin:
:smile:
 
  • #107
Evo said:
They're all taken with my webcam.

Ok, a few.

Is that you in the background in the red?


(no, I don't think I'd send that one in the first email)
 
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  • #108
rewebster said:
Is that you in the background in the red?
I'm the one building the sand castle.
 
  • #109
You should send all six on land. IMHO.
 
  • #110
Me at a Cubs game. And having a few too many margaritas on the Isla Mujeres. I got really burned on the catamaran on the way to the island.
 
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  • #111
Evo said:
Smiling and with my glasses on.

The one on the right is the best one, i bet a modern camera would give an even better image of the queen of GD.
 
  • #112
those are better--but it looks like some 'other' guy is trying to sneek/squeeze himself into the photo
 
  • #113
rewebster said:
those are better--but it looks like some 'other' guy is trying to sneek/squeeze himself into the photo
Yeah, I'd photoshop them. OTOH, maybe leave them in, so it's more of a competition.
 
  • #114
wolram said:
The one on the right is the best one, i bet a modern camera would give an even better image of the queen of GD.

wolram, are you suggesting that the pictures were taken with an antique camera?:wink:

All of the pictures look great.
 
  • #115
EnumaElish said:
Yeah, I'd photoshop them. OTOH, maybe leave them in, so it's more of a competition.

I don't know about that--it looks like 'baggage' to me (and it may to him no matter how it's photoshopped)

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(remember these are/'could be' going to "what's his face")

(and still doesn't know if he's married, single, divorced)
 
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  • #116
Evo said:
It's nice to see that the majority would not be put off by such an e-mail. I still will most likely chicken out and not contact him.

If I did, I guess I should send a picture. Which of these would be better? More in next post.

i thought these are the pics of your daughter...but when i read the post ...oopsie.moment of surprise...i read the post again in awe to confirm that:biggrin:

Now i get it what can be technically called as Evo Effecto:)
 
  • #117
I'd go with the web cam photos. They're all good, but if you had to send one I'd choose the polo neck. Then again if you send webcam pics in an e-mail to a man saying you think he's cute :rolleyes:
 
  • #118
OK--out of all of them---the one with the snorkle---it looks like a MWI
 
  • #119
I guess this was obvious, but we are slow. If the poll had just been honestly, should i email a guy I think is handsome and interesting?, we would have all said yes, but be cautious, in case he's a nutcase.
 
  • #120
evo--which one do YOU 'want' to send?
 

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