Men: How Would You React to Being Contacted Out of the Blue?

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The discussion centers around the reactions of individuals when contacted unexpectedly by a woman expressing admiration for them. Initial responses include feelings of flattery mixed with suspicion, particularly regarding how the woman obtained their email address. Public figures note they often receive such messages, which can feel overwhelming or even creepy, depending on the approach and content of the email. Many participants agree that the context and tone of the message significantly influence their reactions; a well-crafted email referencing shared interests or work is more likely to be welcomed than a vague compliment. Some express that if they were single, they might be more open to engaging, while others emphasize discomfort, especially if the message is overly focused on physical attraction. The conversation also touches on the challenges of online communication, where initial impressions can be easily misinterpreted. Ultimately, there is a consensus that while such outreach can be flattering, it often requires careful consideration of how to approach the recipient to avoid coming off as strange or overly forward.

How would you feel about a woman e-mailing you with no prior contact?

  • She must be crazy

    Votes: 10 18.5%

  • I would be flattered

    Votes: 21 38.9%

  • Depends on what she looks like

    Votes: 11 20.4%

  • Depends on her personality

    Votes: 12 22.2%
  • Total voters
    54
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  • #153
Evo said:
Yes, when I decide to consider the unobtainable, I go all out.

hey--all I'm saying is that you may have it right (at least for a woman)
 
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  • #154
rewebster said:
hey--all I'm saying is that you may have it right (at least for a woman)
:cry: Don't burst my bubble just yet.
 
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  • #155
Ok, who would like me to stalk them? I've got to find something to take my mind off the pain. My stalking is limited to online only.
 
  • #156
Evo said:
Ok, who would like me to stalk them? I've got to find something to take my mind off the pain. My stalking is limited to online only.

who else did you have in mind?
 
  • #157
I'm open to requests. Of course, they'll have to listen to me whine. Nothing comes free.
 
  • #158
Evo said:
I'm open to requests. Of course, they'll have to listen to me whine. Nothing comes free.

be up front with it----



tell them that 'cheese' is available too
 
  • #159
It's a trap!
 
  • #160
Thrice said:
It's a trap!
Sshhhhh!

I need someone to listen to me whine

:rolleyes:
 
  • #161
Evo said:
So, you think it's more acceptable to older people than to young people?

Of course young people have facebook and myspace, and many other similar online places where they can harmlessly contact each other. Us "old" folks are left to our own devices.

Everyone my age at work is married, gay or young Earth creationists. I'm too old to be cruising bars. I'm too young to be put in a retirement home.

I can sit at home and twiddle my thumbs, or take a chance.

Yes, I am saying it might be more acceptable to older people. For someone in my generation to be contacted out of the clear blue by a strange woman I have never met with a picture and a letter would instantly trigger thoughts of crazy stalkers. This is possibly a symptom of growing up in a society where all strangers are labeled as evildoers.

I did not, however, say there was anything wrong with you doing this. In fact, I would encourage you to go through with it. You have everyone here supporting you, why aren't you taking the chance already?
 
  • #162
Evo said:
Sshhhhh!

I need someone to listen to me whine

:rolleyes:





you had better use that 'sticky' board then

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why did "Of Mice and Men" come to mind?---
 
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  • #163
SticksandStones said:
I did not, however, say there was anything wrong with you doing this. In fact, I would encourage you to go through with it. You have everyone here supporting you, why aren't you taking the chance already?
Because so many have now gotten me to think I'd be some kind of psycho if I did. :frown:

I guess if I worded the question as Mathwonk put it "should i email a guy I think is handsome and interesting?" it would have come across differently.
 
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  • #164
Ok, should I e-mail a guy I think is handsome and interesting?
 
  • #165
Evo said:
Ok, should I e-mail a guy I think is handsome and interesting?

insert: 'recent nike slogan'
 
  • #166
Evo said:
Because so many have now gotten me to think I'd be some kind of psycho if I did. :frown:
Oh c'mon, Look at the poll—7 negative, and I'm sure we don't have to worry about your looks and personality.

should I e-mail a guy I think is handsome and interesting?
Yes!
 
  • #167
rewebster said:
insert: 'recent nike slogan'
Well this is par for a crush. I once had something like this running for 4 years. You may wish to change your sig first, Evo.
 
  • #168
Evo said:
Ok, should I e-mail a guy I think is handsome and interesting?

Yes :approve:
 
  • #169
Mk said:
Oh c'mon, Look at the poll—7 negative, and I'm sure we don't have to worry about your looks and personality.


Yes!
Should I send him the poll results? :-p Less than half of the men surveyed say I'm crazy to be e-mailing you.
 
  • #170
Thrice said:
Well this is par for a crush. I once had something like this running for 4 years. You may wish to change your sig first, Evo.
Nix on the ice weasels, eh?
 
  • #171
Evo said:
Should I send him the poll results? :-p Less than half of the men surveyed say I'm crazy to be e-mailing you.

well, you never know, all the 'other' voters could have voted the way they did just to not make you feel bad, too

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how's that arm (and the rest of you) feeling today?
 
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  • #172
Email him Evo. Really, I think you should. Ask him a few things about his work, or I saw one interview where he lists a bunch of pop sci books he likes. You could read one of those and make a comment about it. Then ask something a little more personal, so you can hopefully diverge from just talking about his work. Just send an email that's engaging, so he'll want to respond. Be a little bit funny, and don't send a picture yet. Just do it.
 
  • #173
Evo said:
Nix on the ice weasels, eh?
Well no one likes to be reminded.

Gale said:
Email him Evo. Really, I think you should. Ask him a few things about his work, or I saw one interview where he lists a bunch of pop sci books he likes. You could read one of those and make a comment about it. Then ask something a little more personal, so you can hopefully diverge from just talking about his work. Just send an email that's engaging, so he'll want to respond. Be a little bit funny, and don't send a picture yet. Just do it.
And risk him thinking she's crazy? Are you crazy? What if he doesn't respond? What if he does & registers on PF & they hit it off & he decides to come visit but there are terrorists on the plane & he dies & she's responsible for the loss of such a brilliant man? Does she want that on her head? How will she live through the ice weasels? I'm not sure I could.
 
  • #174
Thrice said:
And risk him thinking she's crazy? Are you crazy? What if he doesn't respond? What if he does & registers on PF & they hit it off & he decides to come visit but there are terrorists on the plane & he dies & she's responsible for the loss of such a brilliant man? Does she want that on her head? How will she live through the ice weasels? I'm not sure I could.
 
  • #175
Thrice said:
And risk him thinking she's crazy? Are you crazy? What if he doesn't respond? What if he does & registers on PF & they hit it off & he decides to come visit but there are terrorists on the plane & he dies & she's responsible for the loss of such a brilliant man? Does she want that on her head? How will she live through the ice weasels? I'm not sure I could.

all good points

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I see that 'this' thread has generated a new thread:


"scientists and mental problems"
 
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  • #176
Gale said:
Is this the guy?

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I think you can do better Evo.

Evo said:
I'm open to requests. Of course, they'll have to listen to me whine. Nothing comes free.


Well. He looks a lot like my brother.
 
  • #177
Math Jeans said:
Well. He looks a lot like my brother.
It's the guy on the right, not the left.
 
  • #178
come on evo--just email him
 
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  • #179
Evo said:
It's the guy on the right, not the left.

:smile: I REALLY hope you're being sarcastic.
 
  • #180
rewebster said:
come on evo--just email him
Perhaps I should get drunk first?
 

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