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I honestly don't know what's worse, wasting 1.5K on a girl who will use the funds to meet other guys, or still wanting to apologize and be friends with that girl who took advantage of you.
DanP said:1500 US$ is way too much for medium prices whores. If you want to pay for sex
do yourself a favor and find cheaper prostitutes. Unless your name is Spitzer of course :P
You'll get 3-4 at the price of one in 1.5k - 2k range :P
cronxeh said:haha i woulda offered her 20 bucks as my opening bid, you know with economy and all. And to knock her down a peg.
I have to agree with this as well. SELFMADE needs to find another hobby.waht said:I honestly don't know what's worse, wasting 1.5K on a girl who will use the funds to meet other guys, or still wanting to apologize and be friends with that girl who took advantage of you.
Borg said:She is very likely sorry that she ever spoke to you and is probably terrified of your "next move".
Borg said:The only thing that you can do is to learn from this and back off, no matter how hard it may be for you.
Borg said:Personally, I wouldn't consider dating for a significant amount of time (at least a year after you stop having this desire). And, when another opportunity comes along, make sure that it isn't with someone that you think needs rescueing.
DanP said:1500 US$ is way too much for medium prices whores. If you want to pay for sex
do yourself a favor and find cheaper prostitutes. Unless your name is Spitzer of course :P
You'll get 3-4 at the price of one in 1.5k - 2k range :P
I guess that I'm not as familiar with this type of woman as you seem to be.DanP said:Oh, really, poor innocent thing , she is so scared :P Most of those girls who tap money from man are not so easily terrified. My heart is almost breaking for both the OP and miss 1500 US$ :P
The thing he should learn is how to make his money worth and how to laugh in the face of women who ask you to borrow them money and direct them to the nearest bank :P
Borg said:I guess that I'm not as familiar with this type of woman as you seem to be.
DanP said:what do you get for that in NY nowadays ? A bj hidden beyond your ambulance during graveyard shift ? Is it enough for a quicky ?
GeorginaS said:You know, guys, there's absolutely no reason to disparage the young lady in question. This young fellow has told us his side of the story, words of hers (that she may or may not have even said) out of context. The only character we are certain of, here, concretely, is his. So no need to put her down.
anubis01 said:She went on dinners and movies with this person, never paying a dime and took $1400 from someone who was clearly obsessed with her. No decent human being would take that much money from someone who was obsessed with them and had no intention of returning those feelings. She used him, plain and simple and that speak volumes about the "lady" in question.
cronxeh said:I pretty much stopped bothering to reply to her a few months ago, but it is curious to find out why a post-menopausal woman would chip in about relationships
DaveC426913 said:Sure there is. He is here for assurance that his life will recover. Everyone is counselling him to make her smaller in his life; that is what is best for him. There is no need in this kind of situation to be "fair" to an absent non-person.
GeorginaS said:I can appreciate that concept because women commiserate in similar ways
anubis01 said:She went on dinners and movies with this person, never paying a dime and took $1400 from someone who was clearly obsessed with her. No decent human being would take that much money from someone who was obsessed with them and had no intention of returning those feelings. She used him, plain and simple and that speak volumes about the "lady" in question.
cronxeh said:I pretty much stopped bothering to reply to her a few months ago, but it is curious to find out why a post-menopausal woman would chip in about relationships
DaveC426913 said:I'm glad you said it . This was actually my inspiration for my comment.
(Historically I have always ended up defending the unknown, absent opponent. Not a tactic that results in keeping friends...)
Personally, I agree with you. We have a very one-sided account of a very subjective circumstance here.
SELFMADE said:Ok let me try to write from her point of view.
I (meaning she) was out one night at a club where my friend works, there I met his friend (me). After picking up more friends we headed to my place to drink. We got drunk and the guy was kinda quiet so I even asked him to speak. At one point he was massaging my foot, I was like WTF didn't say anything. He was looking almost staring at me I wanted to start a convo but he left suddenly. About a week later he msges me "whats up" we txt and what not. Then he offers to take me to a concert thru txt, I said no I am saving up for my tuition, but he said he won it at casino and its not really his money so I agreed. Mind you it was all thru txt until he finally called up when he was at my door. He was dressed up posh while I was sporting baggy pants and ski hat. So we go there and I met so many of my friends. He was following me everywhere. I went out to smoke he was there, I caught up with friends he was there. Then he disappeared, at some point I think he was dancing with a MILF. So after the concert, I took a ride home from one of my male friends leaving him there by himself.
to be continued...
damn, its too painful to write like this.
do you not understand?SELFMADE said:"even if the world was about to end I won't be with u"
lisab said:Oh, selfmade, I know that must be painful to write. It's painful to read, I really feel bad for you.
But like most others here, I want you to really hear this: she's not that into you, she's just not going for it. She doesn't feel the same as you do. I'm really sorry, I know it hurts.
You will have to stop contact with her, it has to be done. You should try some distractions for the next several weeks - go to movies, go out with a buddy or two. You won't feel like it but do it anyway.
Go easy on yourself for a while. Heartache really sucks. It will take a while but you'll eventually start feeling better, I promise.
Math Is Hard said:What part of
do you not understand?
When a woman says that, you can take it to the bank. Unfortunately, that's probably about all you'll be able to take to the bank in this case. You've insulted her and acted like a psycho and now she's afraid to approach you even if she had intentions of giving you back the $1400.
With any luck, her conscience will bother her and she will want to repay you the money (and not in the way you were hinting at). If you want her to contact you to make that repayment arrangement, your best bet is to back off, move on, and stop being "scary, crazy guy".
I hate to be so blunt with you, but this is how you are being perceived.
SELFMADE said:At one time she said she'll never ever drink with me but she did. She said she'll never ever kiss me but later said the time is not yet. I know she said it but sometimes I feel like she needs more convincing. And she could be doing it to see how I react. For some crazy reason, she might... ok whatever you're right I guess. I just want to be her friend again, going to movies watching her smile, help her cus she basically ain't got no one, letting her know that there are still good people in this world. Yeah that is all I want.
TheStatutoryApe said:She began to feel as though she was owed for all the trouble he gave her and expected him to buy her stuff. Over 3-4 years he bought her a couple cellphones and a car that I know of.
Math Is Hard said:What part of
do you not understand?
When a woman says that, you can take it to the bank. Unfortunately, that's probably about all you'll be able to take to the bank in this case. You've insulted her and acted like a psycho and now she's afraid to approach you even if she had intentions of giving you back the $1400.
With any luck, her conscience will bother her and she will want to repay you the money (and not in the way you were hinting at). If you want her to contact you to make that repayment arrangement, your best bet is to back off, move on, and stop being "scary, crazy guy".
I hate to be so blunt with you, but this is how you are being perceived.
GeorginaS said:I could very, very easily present a scenario in which the OP is actually a snake in the grass manipulating a young lady with offers of material goods (no, no, please! I insist! Let me pay for dinner. It would make me really happy. I know how much school is costing you. Really, it's my treat.) and then later resenting what he'd offered or done because he actually had other intentions.
SELFMADE said:Should I txt her telling "dont worry about the money" now or no? First person responds decides.
Then I said "you can give me other stuff" she's like "what" I said "you know, u could be working on your debt right now instead of just sitting around" she says "omg I can't believe" "it'll be just between u and me, i'll pay you more than your work" "are you actually asking me to sell my body?" "think whatever you like, I didn't say that" "you won't say it cus you're a coward" "hey I only wanted my money" "alright I'll give it to you this week" "by sunday" "yeah by sunday!"
No thanks. :yuck:DanP said:I suggest then get acquainted :P
GeorginaS said:Ah, well yes. It's unfortunate you have such a miserable, misogynistic point of view. You might learn that there's joy in life. Lots of it.
And I'm pretty sure there's no such thing as a "post-menopausal woman". You might want to research that physical concept a bit if you're going to continue to hold yourself out as an expert on women. Me? I've got the inside track.
Yeah we old folks understand each other.