Might throw in the towel on my social life

[DanP]

"I talked to one of my professors last week and he was saying how it's important to let go of immediate pleasures in life - especially when you are young... and focus on your responsibility first. that ensuring security and happiness later in life is more important than things that make you happy for a few minutes or hours - such as partying and whatnot."

Sure it is. But one doesn't exclude the other. It;s a matter of prioritizing efficiently, not of exclusion. So what your professor told you is a tautology, an obviously true fact, but which doesn't give you any answer to your dilemma :P

I read that on another forum (I hang out on many forums) and found it to be quite encouraging a bit. It sort of cheered me up and gave me some hope about how better (socially) things will be in the future. I've also heard such similar advice from my parents in different ways many times. I've heard it from other adults as well.

You won't become better socially unless you interact socially efficiently. Things do not become better magically never. Your social behavior today will affect the way you will be able to behave socially as an adult.

Guess staying at home all day isn't so bad after all, eh?

Sure it ain't, if you plan to stay there for the rest of your life. If you don't plan this, you'd better learn to be social savvy from as younger age as possible. And your peers are essentials for this. Not your parents. The social circle of your peers, I repeat , is what will give you the ability to adapt and interact socially .

After the drinking and oral sex incident I changed my ways.

If you choose to drink, drink responsibly. Do as much sex as you can. There is nothing bad with oral sex. Beware of STDs and use protection.

I had a terrible first semester in college. I went from 18 credits to 12 to 8 and pulled a 3.11 I had way too much fun and it's time to get serious.

Ok, try to recover, just don't blame it on sex. Blame it on drinking and oput of proportions parties. This is what you need to find, balance. Not jumping from an extreme to another.

At home:
I'm looking at this whole thing as a sacrifice. "suffer now and enjoy later". .

Sitting locked in a home is the worst thing you can do. You'll suffer now and later as well. You need to interact with humans. Most humans go through college easily, getting good grades and still having lot of fun and a lot of health social interaction.

 

[Edin_Dzeko]

Edin, out of curiosity what do you think of the people who do what you described every weekend? You're not going WBC on us are you?

There comes a point where you need to decide for yourself. You went crazy, you (hopefully) got a grasp on where you boundaries are. Did you enjoy? If so, would you prefer to live the life you enjoy or the one you feel you should because of your parents?

Otherwise, I agree with Evo's above post.

my thoughts on people who get drunk and have sex every weekend? First of, beer doesn't even taste good. So how some people love beer and say that it taste good is amazing to me. How do they do it? It taste like seltzer water . As for the sex thing because of religious reasons I won't pass judgment on anyone. But after a while I would get bored of having sex with different women each night. There's no emotions attached and you'll feel empty not too long after the whole thing which will lead you to wanting to go back and do it more and more but it never satisfies (too bad I wasn't thinking this way before my oral sex incident ). but there are people like that who do that on the weekends and some of these people to my knowledge do all of this while maintaining perfectly fine academics lives as well. So I guess during the week they get their work then and on the weekends they do their "thing"

nothing to enjoy about getting teased by your floor mates for acting like a crazy idiot because you were drunk, having to pay a $400 ambulance bill, having your dad not speak to you for a week. Nothing was fun about an oral sex experience with a girl I didn't even like, a girl who hurt my "Jimmy" (physically) because she was so awful at what she was doing, and certainly nothing was fun about feeling guilty and like I've ruined my future because of that one sexual incident which I would go back and undo at the speed of light if given the chance. But I've learned my lesson from it though.

But however, if my parents would understand every now and then and let me work out a baby sitting schedule with my older bro so I could go hang out with some friends every now and then that would be cool. But the way things are currently are fine also I guess. those[friends] that are okay with my not coming to visit or hang out and still want to remain friends I guess we can do that and those that aren't okay I guess I have to defend myself (verbally) and not let them slam the whole "you never go out..." hammer on my head.

 

[DanP]

But after a while I would get bored of having sex with different women each night. There's no emotions attached and you'll feel empty not too long after the whole thing which will lead you to wanting to go back and do it more and more but it never satisfies (too bad I wasn't thinking this way before my oral sex incident ).

Get a grip on reality , Casanova :P

 

[Edin_Dzeko]

Hey guys. I have an article for you guys to read. For those who were questioning my parents and their "ways". Here's an American mother who's doing something similar. Share your thoughts.

http://http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html?mod=wsj_share_facebook#articleTabs%3Darticle"

Btw, it's Monday 11:28 AM can you guess where I am right now? hahaha that's right. Home!

 

[DanP]

Hey guys. I have an article for you guys to read. For those who were questioning my parents and their "ways". Here's an American mother who's doing something similar. Share your thoughts.

http://http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html?mod=wsj_share_facebook#articleTabs%3Darticle"

Btw, it's Monday 11:28 AM can you guess where I am right now? hahaha that's right. Home!

Never seen a bigger bull than this article.

 

[Edin_Dzeko]

Get a grip on reality , Casanova :P

hahahah

 

[Edin_Dzeko]

Never seen a bigger bull than this article.

Really? I found that to be quite interesting, man. The only difference though my folks then jump on my back and FORCE or ENSURE that while spending ALL this time home I'm studying upon hours and hours and practicing many hours. That's something I got to get into the habit of myself. Staying home all this time while not make good use of it eh?

 

[JaredJames]

Hey guys. I have an article for you guys to read. For those who were questioning my parents and their "ways". Here's an American mother who's doing something similar. Share your thoughts.

http://http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704111504576059713528698754.html?mod=wsj_share_facebook#articleTabs%3Darticle"

Doesn't make it healthy for the child. Successful in school/business does not mean you are successful socially.

Btw, it's Monday 11:28 AM can you guess where I am right now? hahaha that's right. Home!

Seriously, why are you still here discussing this? You've made it perfectly clear you accept it and it appears you like it. There's no more value in this thread and all you seem to keep doing is trying to provide justification for the situation - here's a hint: we don't want it, we don't care. It's your choice and you started what can only be described as a pointless thread.

You didn't want advice, you wanted people to agree with your way of life - if they agreed with you it was accepted, if they didn't you ignored it.
You won't accept advice, you want to provide people with reasons your way is right.

I'm sorry if it sounds harsh but I'm getting fed up of people coming here for 'advice' and then ignoring everything said and simply trying to justify themselves.

On an unrelated note, your link doesn't work, remove the final http//.

EDIT: DanP, spot on.

 

[Evo]

This thread is going in circles.