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mobiusdafrost
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man, you sure are lucky. girls don't even flirt with me let alone like me or want to date with me
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A married woman at work is reportedly sending mixed signals to a younger male colleague, including suggestive comments and frequent eye contact. Despite his attraction to her, he is conflicted due to her marital status and the potential complications of pursuing anything further. He finds the situation mentally taxing and wishes she would stop, acknowledging that he should ignore her advances and seek someone else. Responses in the discussion emphasize the importance of self-control and the potential consequences of engaging with a married person, especially one with children. Some suggest that her behavior could stem from feeling neglected in her marriage, while others caution against the risks of workplace drama and the emotional fallout that could ensue. There are also thoughts on the nature of attraction versus commitment, with some participants arguing that attraction is a natural impulse that shouldn't necessarily lead to action, especially in a complicated situation like this. Ultimately, the consensus leans towards maintaining boundaries, focusing on self-respect, and avoiding entanglement with someone who is not available.
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Holocene
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mobiusdafrost said:
lol...no.
I'm 24 and have been in exactly ONE relationship. Only girl I've been with.
My problem now is all the older women I like have already been claimed...
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Cyrus
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LogicalTime
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She is probably really interested. However it's a tough situation since she's not only a coworker but also married. So if it turns out badly it can make every day at work somewhat painful.
Also remember that work is somewhat like high school again where people gossip a lot and one bad relationship can make a whole pool of ladies soured to you. This is a tough situation even if you have loads of experience in the area.
My advice is make friends with her, but draw the line clearly at friends. Once she's resigned herself to the friends state, she'll introduce you to her GFs. She probably has a few cute friends(maybe even a cute sister). These ladies even if they are married aren't coworkers so your work life is much safer.
I do agree that her marriage contract does not involve you, so you shouldn't worry about it. These contracts are more from an age where men actually owned women as property. If you unconditionally love someone and they'd be happier with someone else, you'd want them to be with that person and be happy. The culture will catch up some day, I hope...
Also remember that work is somewhat like high school again where people gossip a lot and one bad relationship can make a whole pool of ladies soured to you. This is a tough situation even if you have loads of experience in the area.
My advice is make friends with her, but draw the line clearly at friends. Once she's resigned herself to the friends state, she'll introduce you to her GFs. She probably has a few cute friends(maybe even a cute sister). These ladies even if they are married aren't coworkers so your work life is much safer.
I do agree that her marriage contract does not involve you, so you shouldn't worry about it. These contracts are more from an age where men actually owned women as property. If you unconditionally love someone and they'd be happier with someone else, you'd want them to be with that person and be happy. The culture will catch up some day, I hope...
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mobiusdafrost
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Holocene said:lol...no.
I'm 24 and have been in exactly ONE relationship. Only girl I've been with.
My problem now is all the older women I like have already been claimed...
i'm 21 and have never dated...
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mikeknick04
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I logged onto this forum just to reply to this thread.. and give some friendly and hopefully helpful advice. Mainly cause I'm bored on my night shift.. and I've been in a couple of these situations.
First off, I'm not there, so I don't really know what the situation is. But I've read through your comments and have an inkling..
In most cases, married women do this to younger guys for the attention. It makes them feel good about themselves without really having to do anything. Her prolonged stares at you are probably just to get your attention and keep her in your mind for a few hours of the day.. until she gets home to her probably boring *** life..
LogicalTime has some good advice also.. don't do drama at work.. It is painful! Trust him and I and that one.. it will make your life hell if you start something at work with a co-worker.. chances are you're not the first person she's captured for attention. Keep your ear to the ground for any rumors about her. If none come up.. she's a wild card.. and must be dealt with however you feel like.
Do NOT feel guilty about her situation or her kids or marriage or anything. Especially since this is just harmless flirting at this point. Hell, I really don't know what it is.. because I don't know the signs you are giving back to her. Have you even talked to her? That'd be a start. Most women that start stuff/affairs like this are dominant, so you just keep your cool and she'll come to you when she's ready.
And just be cool about everything. Let it happen as it may. If she's staring at you, just smile back and keep doing whatever the hell you do at work. Play it cool.. if you are sitting there looking like you might explode from excitement.. she'll probably just keep doing what she's doing to play you.. idk.
Some experiences in my life which have taught thouse valuable lessons...
...
Well, I got to get back to work.. I'll send my whole post (I deleted some stuff) as a private message to you.. not sure if I'll ever check the response to this or the message. Just had to get the word out.
So man, just do your own thing.. initiate some contact maybe, and have fun with it and learn from it. Peace.
First off, I'm not there, so I don't really know what the situation is. But I've read through your comments and have an inkling..
In most cases, married women do this to younger guys for the attention. It makes them feel good about themselves without really having to do anything. Her prolonged stares at you are probably just to get your attention and keep her in your mind for a few hours of the day.. until she gets home to her probably boring *** life..
LogicalTime has some good advice also.. don't do drama at work.. It is painful! Trust him and I and that one.. it will make your life hell if you start something at work with a co-worker.. chances are you're not the first person she's captured for attention. Keep your ear to the ground for any rumors about her. If none come up.. she's a wild card.. and must be dealt with however you feel like.
Do NOT feel guilty about her situation or her kids or marriage or anything. Especially since this is just harmless flirting at this point. Hell, I really don't know what it is.. because I don't know the signs you are giving back to her. Have you even talked to her? That'd be a start. Most women that start stuff/affairs like this are dominant, so you just keep your cool and she'll come to you when she's ready.
And just be cool about everything. Let it happen as it may. If she's staring at you, just smile back and keep doing whatever the hell you do at work. Play it cool.. if you are sitting there looking like you might explode from excitement.. she'll probably just keep doing what she's doing to play you.. idk.
Some experiences in my life which have taught thouse valuable lessons...
...
Well, I got to get back to work.. I'll send my whole post (I deleted some stuff) as a private message to you.. not sure if I'll ever check the response to this or the message. Just had to get the word out.
So man, just do your own thing.. initiate some contact maybe, and have fun with it and learn from it. Peace.
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