Please avoid immediately jumping to extreme conclusions!
This is the second time this week that I have noticed someone leaping to the most extreme possible conclusion (that gtr/cosmology textbooks are fundamentally erroneous) on the basis of simple misconceptions. The unusual twist here is that the OP is (without realizing it) trying to argue that
Newtonian gravitation is "fundamentally flawed"! [sic]
This has nothing to do with "fluids"; the OP appears to be confused about the setup in
Newtonian gravitation (in the field theory version in which the field equation is the Poisson equation). I think the basic problem here is that the OP lacks essential background in the basic theory of the Poisson and Laplace equations; see for example Ronald B. Guenther and John W. Lee,
Partial Differential Equations of Mathematical Physics and Integral Equations, Dover reprint, and E. C. Zachmanoglou and Dale W. Thoe,
Introduction to Partial Differential Equations with Applications, Dover reprint. Note in particular that inferring behavior in the interior of some neighborhood (diffeomorphic to a ball) from behavior on the exterior is a fundamental topic in this theory! (Pervect tried to make the same point in other words.)
To state the obvious: you certainly can't understand the Newtonian limit of gtr if you don't understand the classical non-relativistic gravitational field theory known as "Newtonian gravitation" (although the Poisson equation came along after Newton's death), and you can't understand this unless you understand the theory of the Poisson and Laplace equations!
Wallace said:
It's somewhat unsettling that we can't just get GR to work on its own, without needing to scale the solution via the Newtonian limit.
You didn't define what you mean by "work" or "own", but under any reasonable interpretation I think your remark is seriously misleading, since there is no problem whatever here.
It should be clear that any viable gravitation theory will agree with Newtonian gravitation in weak-field slow motion circumstances, simply because we know on the basis of extensive experience and testing that the latter theory works very well in such circumstances. So there's nothing disturbing about the textbook procedure! But if by historical accident, gtr had been discovered before Newton's theory was discovered as a useful approximation to gtr which is valid in many circumstances which is easier to work with when it is valid to use it, then it should be clear that the constant could have been determined without first knowing Newton's theory. (I think pervect was getting at this point among others in his Post #3.)
Wallace said:
You may be interested in http://arxiv.org/abs/0712.0019" recent pre-print
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The paper I linked to argues that the weak field GR result for a smooth lump of mass is not the same as the Newtonian one. While they agree that the weak-field results agree for point masses, or systems with the mass highly concentrated and surrounded by vacuum (stars, planets, black-holes), they argue that this is not the case for diffuse bodies, such as galaxies and clusters of galaxies, where the gravitating mass is spread out over the whole region of interest.
I think you may have missed a key point: it seems to me that they are discussing a local versus infinitesimal "level of structure" issue; compare this with the determination of the multiplicative constant in the EFE using the Newtonian limit. (The discussion in various places in MTW,
Gravitation, Freeman, 1973, should help advanced students to understand my point.)
There are (at least) three levels of structure which students of manifolds often confuse:
- jet spaces (generalization of tangent spaces, which treat linear approximations, to quadratic approximations, etc.); this is an "infinitesimal structure",
- local neighborhoods,
- global structure, such as topology and global conformal structure.
These distinctions
underlie the additional structure we obtain by endowing a smooth manifold with (for example) a Riemannian or Lorentzian metric tensor. See for example John M. Lee,
Introduction to Smooth Manifolds, Springer, for some good discussion of levels of structure in the theory of smooth manifolds.
Just to make things even more confusing until recently, many careless writers in the physics literature referred to
infinitesimal structure as "local" [sic], which contradicts more modern usage which follows mathematical usage in which "local" refers to "local neighborhood" (in the theory of manifolds; mathematical usage suffers from similar confusion when we turn to
localization in ring theory, but let's not get into that!).
Hope this helps! There
is a lot to be confused about, and too few textbooks even attempt to clarify the crucial issue of levels of structure, so it's not surprising that misconceptions about levels of structure seem to arise here so often.