MrBillyShears said:
What is the relationship between the differentiable manifold that is space-time and the physical space around us? How does one relate the three seemingly Cartesian coordinates around us, those which we can measure out with a ruler, to the coordinates of the Lorentzian manifold? If i say, measure out a length with a ruler, how would that relate to the three spatial coordinates of space-time? I'm just getting all confused thinking about this. Maybe this question doesn't make much sense, but I just want to see if anyone can help me with this.
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The very short answer is that coordinates are just labels, so they don't in and of themselves have much physical significance. But this isn't too helpful, really, so instead consider the following analogy, which hopefuly will be helpful.
Consider the surface of a sphere. It's a 2 dimensional. It's also a manifold, but it's not a plane.
The surface of the sphere is embedded in a higher dimensional space, but the surface itself is two dimensional.
You can apply coordinate systems to the surface of the sphere, lattitude and longitude for instance, but they aren't cartesian coordinates, at least not globally. The coordinates are really just labels anyway.
Any small part of the sphere looks flat. You can generate coordinates that are nearly cartesian for a small part of the sphere, but you can't cover the whole sphere with them. Similar remarks apply to the curved manifolds in GR.
What you need to get an actual description of the geometry is distances. You have available the coordinates, you now need a tool that takes in the coordinates (and coordinate changes) and outputs the distances. The mathematical tool you need to do this is called a "metric". This same mathematical tool is what's used in GR. I'm not sure how much detail you want or need, so won't go into the specifics of how the metric works unless I get a further question, except to say that it coverts coordinate changes into distances.
The mathematical approach of the metric doesn't rely or need the concept of embedding a lower-dimensional manifold in a higher dimensional space, as we did with the surface of the sphere (2d) in a higher dimensional (3d) space. The embedding is helpful for purposes of visualization, but it's not unique or required to do the math.
As far as your questions about rulers go, note that if you have small rulers, then you can construct a coordinate system that will directly measure distances in the way you are used to - a distance will be the same as a change in coordinates, at least to a high degree of precision. So there isn't any real mystery about how to handle small distances.
If you've got larger rulers, you need to do things like replace "straight lines" with geodesics. For instance in our example of the surface of a sphere, the geodesics are "great circles". There are some details on defining geodesics that I will skip over, but for the purpose of GR, and the limitation of "short" distances, you can think of a geodesic as the shortest curve on the manifold between two "close" points. You can find the length of any curve via the metric and integration, geodesic or not.